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    I love camming but not sure how to do it right now. My husband left me two days ago and its been hard to cam. I can't take time off because I have 3 kids and this is my only income. I'm trying to be positive and go on cam happy but it is very hard. There is a time or two where I almost feel like I will break down. That's the last thing I want to do on cam. Any tips on how to make on cam when you are battling hell in your life?

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    I'm very sorry to hear that. *big hugs* Sometimes it's hard to be motivated to work at home, even when the going is good. But when you're not feeling great, you just want to get into bed and curl up.

    What can I say? You're your own boss, so do what your boss would do. Say to yourself, "I know you're not happy just now, but things will get better. However, just now you're going to have to put a smile on your face and get back out there. Take 5 and come back."

    Camming is all very well when you feel like shit, the problem is the douche bags, the freeloaders and quiet times. Break your shifts up as much as you can. You don't need to be there for 8 hours straight. Do clips instead if you think that will be easier to handle. Hey, do a special offer on verbal humiliation/abuse shows, if that'll get you more of them and let you vent while you work.

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    I'm sorry to hear about everything going on. I honestly don't have to much advice to give especially since I've been in the same situation. We've had more incredibly serious family health problems this month(myself included) than I'd ever care to have. It's down right stressful, that's for sure. I will tell you that I'm trying to re-work the way I do things. Instead of camming solely as a job, I'm camming to release stress. I don't let anyone bother me while I work anymore, and just do it so that when I've finished my shift I feel a little relieved. Of course that also means if I tell a guy or two off....I feel even better

    I also suggest "The Secret" and the other motivational type stuff. Re-work it to fit your needs. It may sound stupid but I tell myself how lucky I am, how happy I am and so on. Usually when I do my mantra type stuff I feel better, I smile and don't think about all the bad stuff.

    You'd be surprised how exercising, getting out of the house, and doing things you love to do.....will help keep your mind at ease.

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    I'm going through some really stressful times too winter...been a single mom of 2 for a long time, live in a crowded disgusting house and it seems I'm the only one capable of cleaning..plus trying to get my license and a car and a new place to live...It's been coming down on me hard. Every time I get my monthly visitor I freak even worse.
    What I've been forced to do is cam just when both kids are sleeping. The time constraint kills me. But once they're asleep I spend about a half hour taking my time to get ready to get on. Pampering myself. I think that's what helps me keep sane...is that small window of time where it's just all about me and making myself look and feel better.
    Pretty soon I'll be looking into daycare for my older one, he needs to get out around kids his age more anyway. And I need that time to work to get us into a better situation.

    When I get so discouraged I don't even want to touch the computer, I think about those big tippers and start worrying I will miss out!

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    Thank you ladies. Even though it sucks others are having a hard time too it does help knowing I'm not the only one. I think I will take my time tonight to get ready and try to make myself feel special.

    Also I love the comment on telling of the guys. I have done that the last 2 nights. Guest chatters should be scared.

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    You are definitely not alone hun <3
    Definitely taking a little more time just for you is important! When get super stressed I take a nice hot shower and just don't think about anything but how awesome the shower feels..and how great it is to be naked and not on the cam lol
    Let 'em have it if they deserve it. Most xpeeps regulars and spenders love when the girls tell the freeloading numbnuts to fuck off
    & you're number 2 on there now!! Congrats!

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    I am so sorry to hear that you're going through a lot. I think we all know that it can be tough to work when you have a lot of shit going on.

    Like others have said, I think it is crucial that you take some time out for yourself. Even if it's 8 minutes to play a game, or read a positive SW thread---it really does help. I know that when I'm in a crappy mood on cam, I am more likely to tell customers off. I don't think there is anything wrong with it, and I think [potential] customers may see it as assertive that you take your job seriously, and thus be turned on by you. I'll often joke and say "cheap cheap cheap *in a bird's voice* We must have a lot of birds in here today." It usually gets everyone laughing and brightens the mood. I also will put on my "cam" playlist and just start dancing and ignoring everybody--that also helps to brighten my mood.

    I'm not sure if these things will work for you, but they have helped for me. Definitely take some time out for yourself though.

    Hoping & praying that the cams god/dess sprinkles some patience, happiness, and money your way!

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    I am so sorry you are dealing with this sweetie. I too had a recent issue, nothing quite as bad as you but with a lot of un-necessary drama at my old workplace about my loving husband from a jealous dancer in the past she was blowing my phone up with beyond rude remarks while I was working on cam and in my room. I suggest you try to go the FemDom route. You can let go of some of your frustrations and honestly fetish clients seems to have more money to spend. Also try getting a few internet boyfriends/regulars always helps. It is nice when you have someone even virtual loyal to you and you only who you can just be yourself with and talk to. Big hugs sweetie that stuff is never easy to deal with.

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    I'm kinda in the same boat. I had a bomb dropped on me a couple days ago and I can't stop thinking about it. I don't really feel like camming, or making videos, or doing anything really except zoning out. BUT the way I'm gonna look at it is this: It sucks that this unfortunate event happened, it really does, but you know what'll make it worse? Suffering through this situation AND being broke at the same time. So why not keep working, as it'll keep your mind off of things and at least you'll be in control of one area of your life.

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    I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a tough time!

    I actually find that having to work can be a great distraction - it gives you something to do so that you are not spending ALL your time dwelling on the negative. Just do an hour at a time - not so much that you feel exhausted, but just enough to get the money in. It can also make sure that you are keeping some kind of schedule and routine in your life - get up, work, eat, work, relax, sleep. If you are anything like me, in times of sadness you just turn into a lump, not doing anything or keeping any kind of routine.

    Of course, you could also change it up to match your mood - re-invent yourself as a bitch dom, and spend your days taking out your frustrations for money....
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    Im like you Whenever things aren't going right i do not want to get on and then at the end of the day im regretting letting the whole day go to waste. Sorry about what ur going thru BTW but time heals all. I'm taking the advice too here's something i found online i can't remember where may have even been here....

    "In some cases you might feel like giving up even though you’re doing all the right things. This is called “the dip” — the plateau that separates the average from the best in the world. Knowing what to do when you hit the dip is so important, Seth Godin wrote a book on it. In you’ve hit the dip and you can honestly say that going forward is the best decision, lower your shoulder and plow ahead until you reach the other side. It might not be pleasant but the rewards are tremendous. If you make it."

    I liked it alot and i know that what ur going thru isn't just a bad day it's bigger than that but i hope it helps a little.

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    Im going through some hard times myself...
    I have to think that.." im going to work" as if im going to a 9-5.
    Sometimes I might be able to be nice, sometimes I might not..
    But I will try....
    So just keep trying....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fridays View Post
    So just keep trying....
    Best. Advice. Ever.

    Seriously. Don't put huge amounts of pressure on yourself to do x hours, or be mary-fuckin-sunshine. Just try. Do a little every day, and congratulate yourself for any wins! Be kind to yourself in hard times...
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    These are all great ideas. I would combine them all. One way I am able to cam is by pretending I am a completely different person. When I log in sometimes I surprise myself. I can be chatting, mean, girl next door, shy, slutty, and the guys seem to love it. My regulars always about what are we doing today. My response is I don't know what do you have in mind.

    Please remember trouble does not last always. Keep busy and smile all the time even when you are at your worst no one has to ever know.

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    I'm so sorry for your loss. You gotta do what you gotta do for your babies. Wear something sexy, spritz on perfume, act like your husband never left you and put on a memorable "show" in free chat by being engaging and smiling so you can get those shows. Act like you've never felt heartbreak before. I know it's hard, and it will be but because this is your only income right now and you have kids looking up to you for help fake it until you make it so you can give them what they need. Don't let this stop you from feeding your kids! Hell, if it makes you feel better, go on cam to secretly get back at your husband and work that shit!

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