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    Default Done drinking!

    Since I quit dancing, I haven't been drinking as much.
    I use to be a huge party girl, but it just doesn't excite me anymore.
    I didn't completely quit drinking, but after yesterday, I realize that I seriously don't ever want to drink again.

    Life is seriously so much more fun to me when I'm SOBER.

    The only reason I even had anything to drink yesterday was because my mom and brother were in town and wanted to celebrate.
    I hate who I am when I'm drunk.
    It's expensive.
    It's freaking fattening lol
    and...it's just no longer fun to me.

    I don't know if it's me maturing, or just burnt out on all my years of partying, but it's something I don't want to do anymore.
    and it's not a problem, because I haven't really been drinking at all lately.
    I have no desire to.

    Has anyone else ever just decided to just quit?
    Anyone else have any stories of sobriety??

    Thought maybe this could help others who want or are trying to get sober.

    Thanks in advance for sharing.

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    Default Re: Done drinking!

    I don't plan on stopping drinking any time soon but I just wanted to say congrats And yes it is probably you maturing. You have your priorities straight and that's def important.

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    I've gone through several phases where I've wanted to give up drinking. It never stuck - it's hard! Although I don't know your exact situation or the people in your life, so it may be easier for you. My biggest pitfalls were being surrounded by people who drink all the time, and not having a "good" solid reason why I wasn't drinking. My bf and best friend both drink a lot, my family drinks a good amount, and most of my friends are at the age where pretty much the only social activity is "hey, wanna go to a bar/get together and drink?" It sucks being the only person not drinking, especially if everyone knew you when you did drink. I would try to order mocktails, but they were too sweet or had just as many (if not more) calories than the real drink, so it was like why bother! And it feels difficult to tell people you "just don't drink." I almost feel it would be easier to say you were in AA because then you have a "reason" - when you just don't drink, people look at you like you're stuck up or prudish or something...

    Not that it should matter what anyone thinks, and a lot of it was just my own desire to join in the fun, but these have always been my downfalls. And now I'm back to drinking (not getting wasted, just having a few drinks) pretty much every night. Not the most uplifting post, I know lol But hopefully you can look out for the pitfalls and it will help you stay on track if you're serious about quitting.
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    Grr..i have such a hang over right now. Makes me wanna stop forever but it never lasts!

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    Uh huh.

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    mmmmmmm
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    Go Avery Go! I have very little interest in not drinking right now, but super proud of you for quitting.

    Are you able to JUST have one or two drinks during social events? Or would you rather just quit altogether? When I stopped drinking at work, the biggest challenge for me was being completely sober while everyone else was drinking. If I nursed a beer, I felt better because I had a drink in my hand and didn't stick out like a sore thumb. Even if you want to be completely free of alcohol, transitioning may be easier than quitting cold turkey. However....it's also been my experience that one beer leads to one more, and when I start to lose my buzz, I want to drink. A lot. So be careful of that. Hell, tell the bartenders to cut you off after a certain hour and make those 2 drinks last until that hour.

    Change your environment. Clubs and bars are not your scene right now...everyone around you will likely be tipsy or hammered and you will feel awkward and left out. Instead, try going out to dinner with friends, where they can enjoy beer or wine without over doing it, and it won't be abnormal if you don't drink. Not to mention it is SOOOO unpleasant to talk to drunks while you're sober.

    I have worked both sober and drunk. I have experienced ups and downs with both. Sobriety allows me to have a clear head, so I can set goals for myself and focus on reaching them. Also, my body just doesn't hurt as much and the rest of my work week is easier. However, it's very, very difficult to enjoy the company of people who are drinking. I work in a party atmosphere...I always feel like I should be partying too! I feel horribly out of place and uncomfortable; I just can't relax and seem at ease to customers. Working with a buzz helps take the edge off...it's easier to make conversation, I don't have anxiety about approaching custies, I'm less tense and.....well, drinking makes me horny. However, I do become dependent on drinking to work and I find myself hustling drinks instead of dances. If guys won't buy me drinks, I get up and leave without even offering VIP. I spend my hard earned cash on booze and sometimes it pays off. Other times, I find myself thinking I could be $50 richer. I've lost money while drunk, or forgotten to collect payment for dances. And worst of all, if guys are feeding me drinks and we're having a good time, I sit down and bullshit instead of working.

    My absolute worst experience was alcohol poisoning. Again, I tend to drink more and more after I get to a certain point. I remember sitting with a couple of guys at the bar and enjoying the rounds of drinks they continued to buy. Next thing I know, one of them left me with a $300 tab, which I couldn't afford to pay for. I ended up kicked out of the bar and one of my friends had to carry me back to the car and then drive me to the ER. Scary stuff.

    After that, even looking at booze triggered my gag reflex...so I stopped drinking for a looooong time after that. Yes, it was hard. I eventually picked it back up, but NOT to such an extreme level. I like to think I have it under control now, but one person's idea of alcoholism is another person's good time. Anyway, I've faced a lot of consequences from drinking and if you can avoid them by quitting, that's amazing. All I can say is figure out when, where and why you previously enjoyed drinking and then stay away from those triggers.

    Good luck and keep at it girl!
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    I think everyone knows the gist of my alcohol madness. It lasted two years. I did things that didn't seem fucked up to me at the time, but now I'm like OH MY FUCKING GOD WHAT WAS I THINKING?

    One of the worst ones was taking 9 shots of crown, back to back, like in a row one after the other, to impress a guy. I ended up falling down two flights of CONCRETE STAIRS in a club. I'm lucky I didn't kill myself. I attached pictures of the bruises. Look at my arms in the background.dumbass.jpg

    Alcohol is just as bad, if not worse for you, than other drugs. I read this article two years or so ago, and still think it's very relevant. The knee jerk response is to be like WTF but once you read and digest the whole message of what they are saying, it makes a LOT of sense:

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    Wow, lucky you weren't killed, Med.! Avery good for you..I stopped awhile back & haven't regretted it.

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    I think I've hit the point of not wanting to get drunk. I just feel awful now after too many and haaaate hangovers where I used to cope ok. The fun comes from spending time with good company. I enjoy a moderate drink but I don't want to get in a mess, waste of money and no need if you have fun with good friends. Working has helped me have more fun sober too, getting over shyness of being chatty and fun in a social situation without getting drunk.

    I don't get how people can still get really drunk every weekend for decades :S

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    I haven't drank in 2 years and I love it. I used to be OUT OF CONTROL and now I just find I get so much done, I never wake up hating myself and I think I look the best I have in years. I'm not saying I will never drink again but like you, it really finally lost it's appeal.

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    I used to be a party animal, then I had to become a single parent of 2 adorable kids. So, I gave it up. I don't drink around my kids and limit my drinking to the Friday nights they are with their Grandparents. I don't miss the partying at all, but I do recall how at the time it WAS fun, so I don't judge

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    Good decision Avery! I personally never had dependency on alcohol but I have seen people who had/have dependency on alcohol and it can be a sad affair.

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    I do enjoy to drink but I've had a lot of friends let it take over there life. DUI's, passing out and not remember anything. It's def nothing that brings positives to your life.

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    First of all: Good for you, Avery!



    I pride myself on not knowing what drink is my kryptonite because I never let myself get to that point. I do have drinks and I do enjoy them, but I stop when I feel myself getting buzzed.

    Then I'll switch to something non-alcoholic.

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    I wish I had the strength to stop drinking :/ Not because I'm out of control, getting blacked out, or hurting anyone... just because I honestly can not imagine myself not drinking at all, ever. It's not healthy, and I feel so much better in the morning when I haven't been drinking the night before.

    I usually justify my drinking through the fact that I'm really good at keeping it together when I do and not appearing intoxicated. Before staff members at my club started finding bottles in my bag and confiscating them, they had no idea I was ever even drunk at work. And I have at least a couple shots every time I work. It's kind of become a crutch, the thought of starting my shift without a couple shots is just.....ugh. And I hate that.

    Whereas some people have more episodes when they drink at work, I'm kind of the opposite. The last time I worked I was completely sober with the exception of a couple sips when I first got there. I ended up crying all my makeup off in the dressing room, not once, but TWICE in the same night. It wasn't really triggered by work, it was about some outside drama, but if I had been drunk I probably would have just locked my phone up and forgot about it and continued to make money.

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    Good for you!! I think some people just go crazy binging on alcohol and partying when they turn 21, and it turns into a lifelong battle.

    I have an addictive personality, but alcohol just doesn't really do much for me (luckily). My body chemistry + depressants (alcohol) = Me feeling miserable.

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    ^ Alcohol can be pretty harmful for you especially the drinks that contain 40% alcohol by volume. I personally think, probably pot will be less harmful for your body than alcohol but I am not a doctor so to take it with a grain of salt.

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    I'm pretty sure marijuana is less harmful than alcohol. Here is an interesting marijuana vs. alcohol article http://www.saferchoice.org/content/view/24/53/. I've read that it's a lot less harmful than cigarettes/tobacco use as well.

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    Either you had way more then 2 beers or you got drugged! Did you go to the hospital the next day? I'm so sorry that happened to you.


    Quote Originally Posted by LAChloe View Post
    I never really realized what a heavy drinker I was until I stopped drinking. My tolerance was unbelievably high. I surrounded myself with people that drink. Even my family drinks. I'm not saying they are alcoholics but alcohol is always a big part of family functions. I was always drinking- I'm not saying getting wasted but almost every night I was having at least a glass of wine.

    My hangovers in the past 2 years have become unbearable. At the beginning of the year I decided I was done drinking for awhile. I went from Jan-April without drinking. I told myself that I was taking a "break" from alcohol but I would at some point drink again.

    In April, my best guy friend came into town with a bunch of his friends for a Bachelor party. I met him at their hotel pool and had a beer. I went to dinner and had a glass of wine. I was buzzed because I had not drank in a few months.

    I went home to get ready because they had a table at a club that night for the party. I went home for a few hours got ready and met them out. I felt sober at this point. I met the guys at the club. I had 2 beers. The next thing I remember is I am face down in the lawn of a resort in the city I live in a pool of my own vomit. I have peed all over myself. I don't have my panties on, my shoes on, or my purse. I can not lift my own head.

    I spent the next I don't know how long in and out of consciousness. I kept trying to get up. The next thing I know some dude has come up to me and is saying something about Jesus and promising me he won't hurt me. I remember crying. He told me he would stay with me.

    Next thing I know I woke up on my couch. I had an extra set of keys hidden outside that were now inside. I kind of remember using them- there are some other blurry details that I remember but don't really make sense.

    My period was 10 days late this month. I spend everyday in agony thinking I was pregnant. I talked to my best guy friend. No, I don't think he had anything to do with it (we have been friends for 10 years). I am mad at him though- even though I shouldn't be. I talked to him the next day and explained what happened. I haven't answered any of his calls since than though.

    I've been depressed since than though things are getting better.

    The point of this long story is that had I just not drank like I promised myself, none of this would have happened.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sammii View Post
    I'm pretty sure marijuana is less harmful than alcohol. Here is an interesting marijuana vs. alcohol article . I've read that it's a lot less harmful than cigarettes/tobacco use as well.
    I will not be surprised if it were true. The kind of damage alcohol can do to your liver is scary.

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