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    Default "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    Yes, yes, I get it, you don't want me to judge you for being a sex-obsessed horndog, not that I would anyway. But I really don't know how you expect me to respond to that.

    Ladies, any tips on responding to this attempt to save face? Especially ways of turning it back around into hustle?



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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    IME, guys who say this are attempting to hustle YOU, and are either not going to spend money, or will spend so little after such a long time that it's best to just get up and leave.
    I mean I'll try & ask for the dance but if they turn me down using this lame line, buh-bye.

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    Hmmm, I honestly think it depends on the guy. It's a 50/50 chance he will spend or not. Usually when they don't want to spend & looking for an excuse, they will say this. OR the guy could be telling the truth, but doesn't mean he wont spend. Those "once in a blue" guys can turn out to be the biggest spenders. It all depends.

    I just smile and switch the topic quick. Like, "Oh yeah, cool. Soooo...."

    Don't make it look like he caught you off guard. Fake that smile.

    Try to sell to him from there & feel him out.

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    "This must be a special occasion then! Let me take you to the VIP room so we can properly celebrate."


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    ^I have to agree strongly with Shanna Dior...I get a lot of this line and I dont see it as something negative, rather the opposite! It has to be a special reason that he has come in then and if it really is true that he almost never visites stripclub then it is even easier to make him curious about dances and VIP. I say something along the lines "Well if that is the case we really have no time to lose, we better make this a night to remember!"

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    Yeah, if they seem sincere I view it as a chance for a proper wallet raping because they don't understand the game. I'll say something like, "Yeah, you don't really seem like the type that frequents these sleazy joints," which makes him laugh and simultaneously feel like he's special and different from all the other "pervs" that are in there. That's really all they want, to feel like it's OK and like we don't view them negatively. Keep it friendly and lightly flirtatious but not too over the top and they will usually relax and spend a decent amount.

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    "This must be a special occasion then! Let me take you to the VIP room so we can properly celebrate."
    Yup! Exactly right answer. Works too.

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    i always say back, "i dont go to strip clubs that often either, this is my first time." as a joke, then it puts them at ease cuz i tell lame jokes.

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    I tend to respond with a dry/cheeky 'me neither, maybe we should find out how it all works!' (I have learned how to 'twinkle' my eyes, so can get away with being very cheeky and sarcastic with a twinkle and a smile!) or I'll counter them with 'what kind of type is that?' which somehow leads quite easily from 'but you don't have to be a certain 'type' of man to appreciate what's on offer - playful, sensual, rough.. blah blah blah... to 'so since you don't do this often, we should make sure you get a well rounded experience *wink*..

    For every guy who's trying to hustle the girls, there's a guy who is anxious to be liked - maybe not the biggest money in the club, but money's money, and if you can convert him and save him from a potential 'bad first experience' and the like, then you've done Stripperdom a favour I think :p
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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    After reading this thread a few weeks ago I have more or less realized that MOST costumers I come across say this line...I have never really thought of it before but aren't most clients this type...?! Very few say they frequent stripclubs often, at least where I work. I often get the question "wow you must deal with some freaks/pervs?!" and my usual answer used to be "not really" but now I say "oh dear yes you have no idea, I am so lucky to be spending time with someone normal for a change" and my sales have really gone up...so thank you OP for opening my eyes!

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    Whenever guys say this to me I just say "really? You look like a regular!" And they always laugh and it makes the Convo more friendly and easier to get a dance. Cause then it usually leads to "well why don't you let me show you how it works back there" with a sexy smile

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    I agree with cherryOnTop. If he's being truthful and really doesn't go to clubs that often, I want to be flirty and friendly and try to show him what the club has to offer (in hope of return visits).

    Thank you girls for some of the other suggestions too. I can't wait to try them the next time a guy says this to me.

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    "You lying sack of shit."

    Hehehe!

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    cairalis]^I have to agree strongly with Shanna Dior...I get a lot of this line and I dont see it as something negative, rather the opposite! "Well if that is the case we really have no time to lose, we better make this a night to remember!"

    shanna dior
    "This must be a special occasion then! Let me take you to the VIP room so we can properly celebrate."

    rareaspasia
    "Yeah, you don't really seem like the type that frequents these sleazy joints," which makes him laugh and simultaneously feel like he's special and different from all the other "pervs" that are in there. That's really all they want, to feel like it's OK and like we don't view them negatively. Keep it friendly and lightly flirtatious but not too over the top and they will usually relax and spend a decent amount.

    CherryonTop
    I tend to respond with a dry/cheeky 'me neither, maybe we should find out how it all works!' (I have learned how to 'twinkle' my eyes, so can get away with being very cheeky and sarcastic with a twinkle and a smile!) ....'so since you don't do this often, we should make sure you get a well rounded experience *wink*..

    cairalis
    I often get the question "wow you must deal with some freaks/pervs?!" and my usual answer used to be "not really" but now I say "oh dear yes you have no idea, I am so lucky to be spending time with someone normal for a change" and my sales have really gone up...so thank you OP for opening my eyes!

    I like and use similar technique to this. Don't let this comment become a drawn out conversation or you will have a time waster who monopolises you or, a sincere guy who becomes more and more resistant to dances as he 'normalises' you... Cairalis's comment is a technique I use as often as possible, convinicing a man he stands out or is different form the herd is a $$$ maker.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kirakonstantin View Post
    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Ps. Can anyone teach me how to put multiple qoutes in one reply pse.
    Tiny tweaks----->BIG CHANGES

    Quote Originally Posted by Kirakonstantin View Post
    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    Quote Originally Posted by Flickdreams View Post
    Ps. Can anyone teach me how to put multiple qoutes in one reply pse.
    Sure. There's a little symbol at the bottom of each post, next to reply w/quote, it's a tiny 'balloon w/quote marks in it. Click on it in each post you want to multi quote, then click reply to post, it'll put all the quotes you clicked on that little symbol in your reply

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    Quote Originally Posted by rareaspasia View Post
    Yeah, if they seem sincere I view it as a chance for a proper wallet raping.
    'wallet raping' is the best thing I've heard all day, definitely going to incorporate this into my vocab

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    Default Re: "I'm not the kinda guy who goes to strip clubs often"

    In my experience these guys are always "too good to be there". I had a guy like that on the weekend and he asked about the CR and laughed in my face when I gave him the embellished version of the truth -.-

    If the guy seems arrogant I give it a try but if I don't get some kind of money from him I'm gone real quick. Some girls like a challenge, I prefer to bank as much as possible so I'm all about nailing the easy targets and going back to the harder sales if there's time left.

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