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    Hey guys, so thanks to a few of you I finally got myself all set up on Streamate.

    Here is the problem-I was logged on for two hours tonight and only got guys going in and out of the room.
    What in the world am I doing wrong?! Nobody stuck around. I even got the HD Encoder thing (now I'm wondering if it helped or if maybe my connection sucks or something)

    I was in a sexy bra, black garter belt with thigh highs and a black lace thong, and I think I looked pretty good in my opinion.
    I greeted all the guys who came in with a smile and did a little dancing to all my favorite Black Keys songs.

    So, what am I doing wrong?!
    I mean, I know I'm shy, but seriously?
    I had only about 30 people the entire 2 hours and they all kept going in and out of the room.

    HELP! I didn't think I'd suck this badly at camming! ):

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    I normally wouldn't say this, but it's probably the site. Or just the traffic. I've been on the site a long time, and the last couple days have been rough. There is The Streamate Thread where this is currently being discussed.

    Also... You need to work more nights and different times to see if it's really "you".

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    I signed up on SM a few months back and only signed in twice, each time for an hour or so
    Both times I had the same experience with people in an out and didn't even get conversation with anyone but myself let alone a dollar or two. I went back to my other sites, at least people talk to me there. Yes I did the encoder thing too and I tried dressing sexy, dancing, chatting. NOTHING worked so I didn't sign back in again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cam_Model_Jess View Post
    I normally wouldn't say this, but it's probably the site. Or just the traffic. I've been on the site a long time, and the last couple days have been rough. There is The Streamate Thread where this is currently being discussed.

    Also... You need to work more nights and different times to see if it's really "you".
    I really hope you're right about it being the site-that would make me feel SO much better. I kept thinking "Damnit, I thought I was pretty attractive but none of these guys stick around for more than 20 seconds?!".

    But you're right, I shouldn't judge it just from one night. I'll try again Sunday afternoon and evening and see if it is any better.

    Do you have any tips by the way? I mean, when the guys come in my room, what should they be seeing? Obviously I know there are things I can't do in guest chat, but I want to get people to go to premium/exclusive (which I also don't know how to convince guys to do this).
    I am SUCH a newbie.

    All those years of being prude aren't helping a bit, haha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miamia4me View Post
    I signed up on SM a few months back and only signed in twice, each time for an hour or so
    Both times I had the same experience with people in an out and didn't even get conversation with anyone but myself let alone a dollar or two. I went back to my other sites, at least people talk to me there. Yes I did the encoder thing too and I tried dressing sexy, dancing, chatting. NOTHING worked so I didn't sign back in again.
    Well I'm glad to hear it isn't just me then (although I'm sorry that you dealt with this too).
    It sucks when you spend time on there all alone waiting for some guys to chat with and they just pop in and out without a word. I didn't make ANY money tonight. Hmph.

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    That's what its like these days. The traffic drastically changed on January 18th of this year. You just have to find a time to work that you can stick to (i.e. mornings, afternoons, nights, overnights) and then build up regulars. Camming is def not a get-rich-quick thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GlamourRouge View Post
    That's what its like these days. The traffic drastically changed on January 18th of this year. You just have to find a time to work that you can stick to (i.e. mornings, afternoons, nights, overnights) and then build up regulars. Camming is def not a get-rich-quick thing.
    I wish I would've known that going in.
    My parents recently decided to cut me off (after telling me they are done paying for college and helping me with rent, even though they didn't let me get a fulltime job for 2 years) so now I'm really trying to make some cash.
    I thought I'd be good at this camming thing because I tend to be a little...slutty? in real life sometime and use sex to manipulate guys so I figured I'd try it out and now I'm sucking so bad.

    I hate that it is a traffic problem, I kept reading that SM has some of the BEST traffic. Man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleMissVixen View Post
    I wish I would've known that going in.
    My parents recently decided to cut me off (after telling me they are done paying for college and helping me with rent, even though they didn't let me get a fulltime job for 2 years) so now I'm really trying to make some cash.
    I thought I'd be good at this camming thing because I tend to be a little...slutty? in real life sometime and use sex to manipulate guys so I figured I'd try it out and now I'm sucking so bad.

    I hate that it is a traffic problem, I kept reading that SM has some of the BEST traffic. Man.
    That kind of made me sound like a bad person. I'm not...I swear!

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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleMissVixen View Post
    That kind of made me sound like a bad person. I'm not...I swear!
    Stick it out and build up a fan base.Its not you ,its just been slow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bigbootyjudy1 View Post
    Stick it out and build up a fan base.Its not you ,its just been slow.
    You guys are honestly really helping my confidence. I'll stick with it-thank you guys!
    I just kept thinking it was me, it's good to know it's probably just traffic.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleMissVixen View Post
    I wish I would've known that going in.
    My parents recently decided to cut me off (after telling me they are done paying for college and helping me with rent, even though they didn't let me get a fulltime job for 2 years) so now I'm really trying to make some cash.
    I thought I'd be good at this camming thing because I tend to be a little...slutty? in real life sometime and use sex to manipulate guys so I figured I'd try it out and now I'm sucking so bad.

    I hate that it is a traffic problem, I kept reading that SM has some of the BEST traffic. Man.
    I can think of several girls who used to post on here all the time even just 6 months ago that went from making EXTREMELY good money to not making enough to even cover their basic bills, and have sense went back to dancing or taken up another occupation and left camming altogether. Just stick with it if its something you want to do, but stable income should not really be a realistic expectation til youve been camming for a couple months at least and built up regulars.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GlamourRouge View Post
    I can think of several girls who used to post on here all the time even just 6 months ago that went from making EXTREMELY good money to not making enough to even cover their basic bills, and have sense went back to dancing or taken up another occupation and left camming altogether. Just stick with it if its something you want to do, but stable income should not really be a realistic expectation til youve been camming for a couple months at least and built up regulars.
    I've wanted to do real dancing, but I'm just so shy I know I'd struggle with it-at least when I'm online I feel a little more comfortable.
    But I'll try to set up some different hours this next week and see if it gets better.
    I didn't think I'd be comfortable on making my goal of $300/wk for at least 3 months, but I didn't realize traffic would be so terrible on SM.

    Maybe I DO need to look into dancing.

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    I went back to my other sites and I continue to dance on the weekends. I can make way more one night dancing than a whole month camming. I just cam during the week and before/after work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miamia4me View Post
    I went back to my other sites and I continue to dance on the weekends. I can make way more one night dancing than a whole month camming. I just cam during the week and before/after work.
    I wish I knew how to dance, I'm just so awkward.
    Plus I'm not too comfortable with my A's...in person at least.

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    A's? What does that mean?

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    I had a shitty night at work (hardly any people and they were all stingy). I had a good weekend last weekend but a bit disappointed last night @ the club was so shit so I left early and came home and got on cam to make a lil extra cash. Its always good to have extra ways to make money. I would find a decent club nearby (I drive 45 minutes) and try it, I find it a lot more exciting than camming. Then just do cam in your free time before or after work and on days off. SM isn't so great for me, I am on mfc and ifriends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miamia4me View Post
    A's? What does that mean?
    I have Acups, haha sorry.

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    I would suggest you try stripping.

    Yes, it can be mega daunting at first but if it's you on your display picture, you will have no problem making some cash even if you're super awkward and don't know what to do.

    Read up on the stripping threads, especially newbie section and hustle hut. You will learn sooooo much.

    I've tried both stripping and camming and stripping is waaaay easier cash and more lucrative. I was so scared of my first night dancing I walked in the club and walked back out, LOL. I went back the night after and made $700. Not saying you will make $700 but you WILL make some quick cash... Just do it, you can always leave the club if you don't like it. At least you tried.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Purrfect View Post
    I would suggest you try stripping.

    Yes, it can be mega daunting at first but if it's you on your display picture, you will have no problem making some cash even if you're super awkward and don't know what to do.

    Read up on the stripping threads, especially newbie section and hustle hut. You will learn sooooo much.

    I've tried both stripping and camming and stripping is waaaay easier cash and more lucrative. I was so scared of my first night dancing I walked in the club and walked back out, LOL. I went back the night after and made $700. Not saying you will make $700 but you WILL make some quick cash... Just do it, you can always leave the club if you don't like it. At least you tried.
    Yes, that is me (just changed my bio pic to a photo I took last night during my few hours of sitting there doing nothing that will hopefully draw more attention though.

    I've wanted to try stripping, I guess I just need to work on getting the balls to go in a club. How exactly does the process work? Do you need to audition or anything? I mean, when I say I am shy and have no experience, I look at a pole and want to run out screaming because I have NO idea what to do. Maybe I can find a friend to go with me to support me? I really do have no idea how stripping works-I've heard about GoGo dancing, but I know you don't make nearly as much money doing that as stripping.

    Thank you for the confidence! I think next weekend I'll see if I can pull together some kind of an outfit and find a good club to try out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleMissVixen View Post
    I greeted all the guys who came in with a smile and did a little dancing to all my favorite Black Keys songs.

    So, what am I doing wrong?!
    I mean, I know I'm shy, but seriously?
    I had only about 30 people the entire 2 hours and they all kept going in and out of the room.

    HELP! I didn't think I'd suck this badly at camming! ):

    I don't think you suck at camming!! Two hours is not enough time to figure that out!

    Here's my thoughts from what you said above - greeting people with just a smile is often not enough! Say hi to them by name - it can be enough to at least get a "hey" back and then you can drag them into a conversation that will end in a sale!

    Also - what are you doing when there is no one in your room? Remember, there is always going to be at least a little delay between what you do and what they see...so if you are sitting there blankly UNTIL someone comes in...they will see the "waiting" face, and often that is enough to put them off so that they jump right out again before you have a chance to be a little sexier!!

    And as much as you CAN make more money stripping, I wouldn't look to it as a quick fix either. I've had some friends that were already private party dancers that TANKED in the clubs...and admittedly, dancing in my city is piss-poor right now, but I know a lot of girls who dropped out because they couldn't make that money right away - you don't need the same build up of regulars that you do in camming, but you DO need a build up in hustle.
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    Some have suggested that you try dancing. However you said that just the idea of walking into a strip club scares you, and you said that you don't think you're a good dancer. I think that BEFORE you pursue working at a club, you have to get more confidence in yourself as a dancer.

    If it's something you'd like to do, maybe practice dancing at home...even record yourself dancing, if you wish (Who knows? Maybe you'll wind up with a very cool video of you dancing, which you could sell one day on Clips4Sale, etc.). Watching videos (on t.v., YouTube, dvd, etc.) of other people dancing can be inspiring. I think belly-dancing is sexy too, by the way...check out videos of bellydancing twins Veena and Neena.

    See if any of the strip clubs near you have an Amateur Night. That would be awesome if you did that and had a few friends come with you for support. Don't go to the club with the kind of "friends" who would criticize you for wanting to be a stripper/cam girl. After all, you'd want their SUPPORT...not ridicule.
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    Regarding your time on cam last night:

    Making literally ZERO dollars sounds a little fishy to me.

    Did you open a different browser to check if you could see yourself from the viewer end?

    Do you have any evidence that you were actually streaming properly, and that people were able to see you? Did you engage in conversation with anyone, and ask them "can you see me right now?" Did anyone type "take off those lacy bootyshorts, baby", or give you any other indication that they were able to see you?

    Two hours of in-and-outs sounds like tech issues to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheBrownFox View Post
    Some have suggested that you try dancing. However you said that just the idea of walking into a strip club scares you, and you said that you don't think you're a good dancer. I think that BEFORE you pursue working at a club, you have to get more confidence in yourself as a dancer.
    IMO dancing is just something you have to just go in and do. EVERYONE is scared and not confident at first because they don't know what to expect. Seriously, when you finally do force yourself to go in, you'll be like WHY did I wait so long?!

    I would recommend dancing and camming and clips and a paysite and porn if you're willing to put yourself out there. I would still dance at a home club if I didn't live in California (DON'T dance in California because there's no money here).

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    Do you have geo-block enabled? This seems to be the very first thing that will affect your traffic negatively (outside of site related problems). If you have geo-block on you will not be advertised; even if it's only one city/state. You will not show up in any searched on the site if the person is not logged in and your placement will be really really bad.



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