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    Hi, I've been dancing almost a month now, and I only take home between $50 - $100, regardless of what day of the week it is or how busy! The most I made was $110, and I've never done more than 3 dances.
    I'm not completely horrible on stage, I'm not bad looking (customers have said I'm one of the prettier ones there or that I'm "too pretty to be working here", etc.) and can talk to anyone and make them laugh! I ask if they'd like a dance, but for some reason I'm not being very profitable compared to some of the other girls, even if they aren't pretty and can't carry on a conversation. One of the other girls told me to be "meaner." Please help me!

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    I am a newbie myself. Last night was my first official night dancing (I danced a couple times before while cocktail waitressing, but that was it). I made a little over $200, and I did better than most girls last night (a lot slower now that college is out. ugh).

    I got very lucky and just found that one person who really was interested in me and no one else. He was about to leave until I sat down next to him. We didnt make too much convo because we had a slight language barrier, but I was able to squeeze in 6 lapdances with him within a couple hours. NO ONE gave this guy a chance because he was sitting by stage and not tipping the stage dancers (even me) and the waitress and he ended up being my main customer!!

    I cant tell you for sure what youre doing that may be the reason you are not profiting as much as other girls. Just keep in mind, upsell, upsell, upsell. At the end of each lapdance, ask "want me to keep going" while looking into his eyes seductively. About 70% of the time, they say yes.

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    It is entirely possible that you're being too nice. You don't have to be outright mean, but there's an attitude I have noticed in veteran strippers that just implies that their time is valuable, and the customer is lucky to be getting a slice of it. How long are you sitting and talking to these guys before you ask for a dance? Do you leave if they say no? It's important to remember that you are not their friend, you are a beautiful woman who is there to make money.

    Talk for a song or two, try to make a connection, then ask for a dance. If they stall or say no, LEAVE! Say something like, "I'd love to talk more, but I have to try and make some money tonight! I'll check back later, when you're ready to have fun with me."

    Read hustle hut until your eyeballs bleed. There's so much good advice in there. Watch what the other girls do at your particular club, see what works and what doesn't. What are the top earners doing? And give it some time. $100 a night isn't horrible for a brand spankin' new stripper, and it will only get better as you get more experience.

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    Ahhh you really helped me realize my mistakes! I woudn't quickly move from one man to the next; rather I'd sit there and try to convince him to get a dance, which takes time and at the end of the night I'd have 2 or 3 dances. I'm going to hustle and move quickly, have a brief conversation, not share anything about my personal life, NOT TELL THEM IM NEW (which I did!) and I'll probably do way more dances thank you so so much

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    That's the mistake I've made when I started out.
    I guess I just wanna appear nice and create the impression that I'm not only there to sell dances. But to build customer rapport.

    It's a huge waste of time, and who cares if they know you're trying to make a sale? You are there to make them spend!

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    Ita with everyone else.
    As soon as you get a no, just say something like, ok, catch you later, and get up and go.
    Don't hang out.
    Sometimes vet strippers get aggravated if they think girls are just hanging out at tables when they know they won't get a dance, if that helps at all. Like you're holding up the flow.

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    LOL I can't believe I was literally doing everything wrong & didn't even KNOW. Well thanks, now I know and I can make more money! I'm surprised I made any at all ahahahahha!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    Stay away from friend zone.
    this. is. so. important!

    you are NOT friends with these guys. they are your customers. they want your body and/or feminine attention, and you want their money. be adorable/sexy/whatever and act like you just can't waittttt to dance all over them. they're in the club to be around hot naked ladies, and you're gonna give that to them. for a price

    remember that it's okay to be kind of cheesy. so many guys are blinded by all the sexiness surrounding them, they won't even realize. be sexy and charming, try to make a sale, and get out.









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    Quote Originally Posted by Annastasi View Post
    It is entirely possible that you're being too nice. You don't have to be outright mean, but there's an attitude I have noticed in veteran strippers that just implies that their time is valuable, and the customer is lucky to be getting a slice of it. How long are you sitting and talking to these guys before you ask for a dance? Do you leave if they say no? It's important to remember that you are not their friend, you are a beautiful woman who is there to make money.

    Talk for a song or two, try to make a connection, then ask for a dance. If they stall or say no, LEAVE! Say something like, "I'd love to talk more, but I have to try and make some money tonight! I'll check back later, when you're ready to have fun with me."

    Read hustle hut until your eyeballs bleed. There's so much good advice in there. Watch what the other girls do at your particular club, see what works and what doesn't. What are the top earners doing? And give it some time. $100 a night isn't horrible for a brand spankin' new stripper, and it will only get better as you get more experience.
    I mostly agree with this, except if she's working dayshift she's almost always gonna have to sit for more than a song or two. Dayshift guys will spend and often spend way more than nightshift guys, but they are slooow, and often dislike a quick hustle. At least in my experience.

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    ABC - always be closing. As soon as you sit down and start chatting with a customer, be aware of the fact that your primary reason for being there is to sell him dances and make money, not be nice. Of course it helps to be nice and friendly for the sole reason that it'll help you make money but remember to not get sucked into the friend zone and allow the customer to manipulate your time without spending money on you. That was my mistake as a newbie dancer, I would let guys talk my ear off and I would get so into the conversation I was having with them that I would lose track of time and by the time I would ask for a dance I would realize I wasted half an hour hanging out with them and they would only get one dance.

    Im a firm believer that most guys decide within a minute or two of you talking with them whether they want to spend money on you or not, so make those first few minutes count! Approach them in a sexy way, always smiling, looking happy. Sit down introduce yourself. Sit close to them and find a way to touch them seductively in some way. Let your hand graze across their knee or the back of their neck. Ask if they are having a good time, how they're liking the stage show, or if theyve been to the club before, how their night is going, etc. Focus on THEM, dont just start babbling about yourself and your life. Try to find out what interestd them and focus on that. Steer the conversation in a sexy direction that leads you to mentiom lap dances or champagne room. Whatever you are talking about with them try to lead the conversation in a sexy way, lead theconversation to the topic of dances.

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    When it comes time tk ask for a dance lean into them subtly, whisper in their ear, try to turn them on slightly. Get them excited about the possibility of seeing you naked. Also, always upsell. If they get a dance akways ask ay the end of the song if they want another one. If your club has different priced danc, try to get them to buy the most wxpenaive one. Ask for tips at the end of te dance - nicely, of course. If you have vip rooms inyour ckub, try to sell those, mention how the dances are better and more intimate in Vip than out on the floor. Once you are done with your customer, if he soent good money, write down on a card or note your schedule and tell him to come see you again. After youre done with him move on to the next guy. Try to take as little breaks as possible and dont spend too much time in the dressing room.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Su Su View Post
    That's the mistake I've made when I started out.
    I guess I just wanna appear nice and create the impression that I'm not only there to sell dances. But to build customer rapport.

    It's a huge waste of time, and who cares if they know you're trying to make a sale? You are there to make them spend!
    THIS. When I was new I was always so afraid that it would turn them off if they could tell that I was trying to "sell them" or if I came off as money hungry. Now, I don't give a shit and if they don't wanna spend money right this second, I have better things to do, and I'll let them know that I'll check back in a little while to see if they're ready for a dance or two.

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