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    Default Submissive Camming?

    I know that a lot of you girls here do Femdom, and it is something that I WISH I could do! But, I am a very submissive girl and few things turn me on as much as good bondage and discipline. I want to incorporate this into my shows, perhaps even make it my "niche", but am pretty stumped on how to go about this. The whole premise of bondage is having someone dominate and submit you. How should I go about doing a sub show that seems believable if I am doing these things to myself?

    edit: I know that I don't explain myself very well, I do try, but English is not my mother tongue...sorry

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    Yesterday I had a guy ask me if I would do a sub show for him. My immediate thought was "How the fuck is that going to work?" but I said yes and he took me exclusive. I pretty much just called him "Sir" and pretended I didn't want to like it while I played with a toy. Tossed in a few "Please, don't make me do that, sir!" remarks here and there. He seemed happy. I can't imagine how you could do a solo bondage show in any believable way, other than tossing some quick-release handcuffs on yourself or something.
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    Haha! Thanks ana.b! I agree that this is not about me being "turned on"...but, I think if it is something that I like normally it should be better and easier to give a good show rather than trying to act a way that is more unnatural to me.
    Thank you for sharing your experience with me...this is where I feel my best niche is, but a little lost on how to go about doing it. Hugs to you!!

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    I haven't really figured out much good self bondage.Would love to hear some ideas there..but I do have some self inflicted,more submissive ideas ideas.Allthough as always do what your comfortable with and know your own limits. You could use clothes pins..even maybe set a token amt for each pin attached..or dont either way let the custy decide where they go and all.Same goes for candle wax.Also maybe use a crop or some spanking device on yourself.inner thighs,breasts,etc.Also orgasm denial...which custy would really have to want and probly be told because it could be taken as trying to milk the session for his money.But if he was into it..you could be begging "please may i cum"..and dont until he says so.Basically let him control you in a way virtually.I also think the "sir" or whatever he likes to be called, is a good idea.Hope this helped in some way..just some of my own ideas i'm trying out!good luck!And I'd also like to hear some more ideas if anyone has any!

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    Oh and also do some submissive actual bondage photo shoots if possible..that can only add to the niche!

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    doing submissive cam has a fine line. you cannot ever give complete control of urself to the dude online, he will always abuse it. i tried submissive camming once (when i was a noob cammer) and i had a guy that tried to tell me flog my breasts to make bruises on them and do all these extreme things that i will never do. he became abusive and horrible to deal with and even tho he spent alot of money, it just wasn't worth it to me. i don't really get alot of doms anyways. i mostly just get slaves which i prefer.even tho i am naturally both dominant and submissive, certain things about both really turn me on but for camming i would rather be more dominant than anything. i agree that ana.b has the right ideas for this type of camming.

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    Check out kinklive. They only work out of studios in LA and San Francisco but they do BDSM shows both sub and domme. That might give you some ideas.

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    Submissive shows : they tell you what to do, you don't say or move unless they tell you to. Not usually fetishy at all, mostly "bend over, stick out your tongue, play with yourself" or role play where they do all the talking. Keep in mind your shows are like 5-10 minutes on average, so you're not really gonna be able to tie yourself up and torture yourself over and over again. I had a guy tell me he wanted me to throat fuck myself for an hour. Uhhh no. So yea.... I don't know if this helped at all lol
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    ROSEMARY THAT WAS AN AWESOME POST

    YOU GAVE ME THE HNNNGGGGS

    Something else that wasn't mentioned: You can find a LOT of self-bondage info on google, there are multiple metric shit tons (2.24 Imperial Shit Tons each) of communities dedicated to it. Somewhere there's an infographic on how to do a very basic kinbaku karada tie that looks great and guys love it, done over clothes or not.

    Complete Shibari Vol 1: Land is a great great great resource. It focuses on tying up other people, but gives you a lot of good information that you can apply to tying yourself.

    Hardware stores DO have inexpensive nylon, but I actually recommend the blended stuff: it's usually a cotton or linen sheath over a synthetic core, which makes it cheaper than pure organic stuff.

    Nylon doesn't hold knots very attractively at all.



    But yes, protest, look shy and unsure, at least pretend to be secretly greedy for all the things they're telling you to do (well within your limits, obvs), giggle and blush, and keep an open mind.

    An Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices (shut up I love my book collection) will give you a good place to learn about most philias, but if you don't have the attention span to power through something that has 'encyclopedia' in the title, The Rabbit Hole is a good place to learn about them, and I actually use it to keep my own list of what I am/am not okay with and see how my limits have changed over time.

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    Rosemary had a great post, and I want to second everything she said!!!

    I very very rarely do any sub work online, despite being a sub in real life. First off, I like to keep some things for just me and my man, so that it stays "sexy" in my mind, and doesn't become boring and work-related. Secondly, like Rosemary said, too many guys try to push you too far or take advantage. Yes, there will be those awesome guys that want you to get off on it too, that stay within your limits, and then you will have an incredible session. But bear in mind, half the guys want you to hurt yourself or push your boundaries doing VANILLA camming (shove a baseball bat up your ass, stick giant dildos in all holes, gag till you puke, etc etc) - just imagine what those guys are like with subs!! Guys want the extreme a lot of the time....

    If you do decide to do it, stuff that you can do on your own would include (as well as everything that has already been said):

    Forced orgasm (esp useful with a hitachi...tie it to yourself in front of them)
    Rope bondage (keep scissors nearby) especially turning your boobs purple with tight ropes
    You can wear gags, ball gags, ankle restraints, etc etc Costuming is an easy one
    Gagging with dildos
    Sub Role Play - oh please sir etc etc

    Same as vanilla stuff really, just act it out. A lot of people wonder how we can give a bj over the internet, but once you figure out that you just suck the dildo, it seems obvious! Most sub stuff is like that too.

    And on the plus side, you tend to get customers that direct the session, so you don't need to think about anything! Yay! (Sometimes I hate doing domme stuff because I have to keep coming up with stuff for people to do).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rosemary Rabbit View Post
    Now to go on to why I quit being submissive online...

    For every 1 awesome guy there are about 20 assholes.
    Fuck yeah. This. This is why I'm fed up with most of my callers. I'm a switch but I began working as a sub since I didn't feel confident being paid to be on top. I've done a mix of phone and (rarely) cam for a few years and 80% of my calls are from doms. And they will spend hours talking and playing.

    There is a huge difference between a dominant man who has real in-person play experience and an online dom who thinks that you can and should take any abuse he demands. And do it with a smile.

    /rant

    If you choose to work as a submissive you will get customers who give you a lot of grief. But stick to your limits and it will get easier to assert yourself. And you might even decide that you like making the rules.

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    IVe done them but one guy crossed the line with me during a bj show wanted me to make a spit pile then rub my face in it while he called me a little pig..... naaaahhhh too much! Not saying i wont ever do sub again but ill know more of what im getting into before i agree, usually when there asking or telling u what they like u can tell how hardcore they will be, im no pro im sure some can just up and start demanding shit out of the blue and catch u off guard.

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    I've subbed in my personal life. And was subbing for the first few months of camming. I'm much happier making fun of them now, rather than dealing with a constant stream of these guys sapping away at my sanity.

    Common theme? A lot of men on the internet (and for some I've met in RL) use BDSM as an excuse to be a prick. 'Male Domination' has this text-book cliche of a closed-off selfish asshole dressed in leather. That is what most (uneducated) guys feel is OK. There is also this underlying 'cave-man' mentality."I SEE YOU, BITCH. NOW I OWN YOU." No understanding of any kinks, safe words, etc.

    And it plays on the fantasy of having a push-button whore. The living fuck-doll. "You'll be my slave and do whatever the fuck I say." When they say jump, you better rocket to the moon. No limits. That you can ruin a woman and project your vile self physically and emotionally on another human being.

    Go make a fake CollarMe.com account as a female submissive and you'll see what I'm saying. Some of these "Male Doms" are fucking mentally unstable. Like, woooooow. "Relocate to New Zealand and live in my basement, chained to my wall, fuck you in the ass with metal power tools....breed you and make you have a bunch of kids you'll have to give up because slaves can't have children" Ahhhhhh. Seriously. Omg.

    Rosemary's post was awesome.

    Don't be a 'doormat'. Have limits. Have a safe word. NEVER do anything you don't want to do. Remember (Online + RL) that a Dom has nothing over you if you don't willingly submit. BDSM can get deep on a mental level (even through the internet), and there are a lot of mind-fucks (behavior modification, etc). This is an agreement. And at any point you say "Fuck this" - it's over.

    Also, 'Gary Busey' is a fucking funny safeword.

    Have fun.
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    Can't even imagine what female subs on collarme get. I'm listed as a female dominant and...yeah. My profile has been hidden for months. Was a damned, never-ending headache.

    Also, just as a note and because I suppose this is the one area where I do get picky about sub-classifications: Being a top is not the same as being a dom. Most cam customers are tops (or fancy themselves to be). Very few are doms. This is where you'll run into trouble, the fact that these people think it's one in the same.

    Rosemary and Hayden pretty much have this nailed. Good luck!

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    I do *some* sub camming, rare but I do get the occasional requests. For me, when I get asked to do it, they are looking to call me names like fat, bitch, whore, slut, ect while I sit there and call them Master or Sir. I don't do rope bondage or anything of the like, but I have tied my hands with my thong panties before and that was pretty popular with my dom regulars, (pretty much wrap your panties around your wrists a few times). I'll do tit slapping and spanking but nothing beyond that pain scale.

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    I can't really add anything useful after so many great posts, but anyway...
    I do it only with trusted regulars. Nothing pisses me off more than a guy who thinks that being a bully, or being violent is what being a dom is about.
    I'm submissive in RL (although since camming and C4S I enjoy the other side too); and I'm very very picky about doms. A dom who only wants to see suffering and pain and doesn't care if I'm getting off or not - he's not a real dom and he doesn't have a clue. And why should I submit to someone who doesn't have a clue?
    He also should have self control. If he doesn't even have self control, how on earth does he want to control me?
    So, I'm picky. I only do it with a select few, so to say.
    (Sorry for no real useful advice, just )
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