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    Guys can fail to respond to messages for a number of reasons. The top two ones for mine are: he's playing a video game and didn't check his phone for hours or (when we were first dating) he saw my message immediately but felt weird responding to it in under thirty seconds, so he put it off then got uncomfortable, etc. My point is that you should never underestimate a shy guy's ability to talk himself out of making a move and/or expressing interest. He may need more encouraging signs from you before he tries further, but I wouldn't send him an email expressing any of your own feelings right now. If he blows you off, that's no good, no matter the reason. But if you two go out again, then maybe you should be sure to talk about whether you see any sort of future with him.

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    5 dates? I think you should make out with him. I have a feeling he' ll show for the date tomorrow.

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    I am around your age. I feel ur pain about not being able to find decent men around ur age--early 30s who r looking for a serious relationship..I can tell u u got to work on the communication thing with ur feelings...Sounds like uve been hurt before but communicating is essential otherwise u may possibly be alone for a long time.. I dont believe u should do anything sexual to get this guy's attention. Fuck him if he was just looking for some ass then let him scam some 20 year old and get his ass that way. Most guys n their early 30s that i Know r still acting like they r 20 which is the problem I am seeing..Or they r married with kids still..ex wives etc...

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    I have heard several women in their early 30s say they want someone around their age..Hell even Id like that..But I am not finding much serious dating material in the age group of 30-35 w guys...Seems like those guys r all messed up(and self absorbed) and prefer to be single..I have dated guys younger than me and that can be more promising at times bc u can still mold a younger guy if hes into u enough.

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    Thank you both for your replies. It is back on, though I am going to take it slow and work on my comunication. Finding a decent guy in their 30's is really hard! I do know of several friends that met older men through e-harmony, in fact I know of about 8 people who found their husband through that site. So if things don't pan out with this guy that's an option.

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