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    Default How do you handle an annoying yet harmless member..

    I just started back on SM last week and in that time I've seen a guy about 3 times. He's really nice but Fuck Me! he's getting annoying. He comes in my room everyday to say hi..which is fine with me but then he parks himself there and just stares at me and watches me interact with other people. For some reason this is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. It's not a social site...its a pay to play. I dont mind someone coming in to say hi but if its like they believe they're visiting a friend and just chatting.

    He's spent a good amount of money on me so I dont want to be rude and have the attitude of "fuck you pay me..or I wont acknowledge you" but at the same time I dont like him just sitting there watching and hovering. Also right from the start he would go on and on about how much he likes me and how I'm good for him and how he'd love to meet..blah..blah..blah

    How would you ladies handle it?

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    Default Re: How do you handle an annoying yet harmless member..

    I'm having the exact same problem Holly. What I'm going to do is get all the money I can out of him before giving him the ban hammer. Sure he spends good money, but he's fucking annoying, and my mental health isn't worth the amount he's paying.

    I think the fuck you, pay me attitude might actually be helpful. Plus there are always going to be other guys that will spend money on you!
    Dancer 1: I HATE it when guys tell me to get a real job!
    Me: I know right?! I have a REAL job! I don't strip for Monopoly dollars!

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    Unfortunately, I have no patience for this. I have banned many high paying regs for this. It is my #1 pet peeve.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LAChloe View Post
    Unfortunately, I have no patience for this. I have banned many high paying regs for this. It is my #1 pet peeve.
    Agreed. I am at the point where I am just banning everyone. Silent lurkers cause me stress so my resolution is to remove my stressors. In the end I may lose money but at least I'll have my sanity.

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    Default Re: How do you handle an annoying yet harmless member..

    If this was MFC I would think differently but on SM? Nope it's a pay and go field of view for me. I just keep shutting down my room when I get the "breathers". I do this about 6 times in an hour. Gets annoying for a guy to have to keep trying to get back in. All I'm doing is hitting a button. He has to go back and forth.

    Once "let's meet" comes up then it's down hill from there. That's why he's "hanging out" . He's too needy and that is one of my pet peeves.

    I would suggest becoming pushy like "ooh wow you're still here, that means you want another private huh?" Try that a few times. He'll get annoyed and will start feeling uncomfortable with being there. He'll probably lurk in guest so you can't see his name but you can always figure out where he is and block his state. He can't come in if he can't find your right?

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    Default Re: How do you handle an annoying yet harmless member..

    "Wow, your boss must be really understanding to let you watch porn all day. That's really cool. I mean, you do work, right? I'M at work right now." Then smile sweetly & be cute. Eventually stuff like that will really get to him.

    At least, that's what I've done. Eventually they start to feel pretty self-conscious about all the time they have on their hands and how they're spending it.

    And for me, how I act depends on how much they're spending, how much attention they want in free chat, etc. If there's no spending, I kick then ban. If there's a little spending, I let it go on for a while then explain that it's "guest chat" not "free chat" and he's wearing out his welcome. If he's spending a shit load of money, I tolerate a lot more. But I STILL have limits. Usually then I just get a little impersonal and pay more attention to the other guys in my room.

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    Default Re: How do you handle an annoying yet harmless member..

    write on your profile something like
    " due to the high volume of traffic that I get in my room ( LOL!!)... I am paying attention/chatting to current tippers/paying customer first.... thanks for understanding"............
    and just ignore those who dont pay much anymore.......
    never ban someone who has paid for u in the past...
    thats just rude !!! LOOOOL

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    lol @Fridays

    I think we all have lurkers. I dont have a male but a female doing it to me. One positive thing I can say is she keeps me talking and she talks up my shows with a occasional buy in.

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    I just tell guys that it piss me off when the just hang out in my room with out talking or buying a show.... I let them know that they are more then welcome to come say hi to me anytime that I want but if you are going to just hang out in my room you need to talk and tip..... most will do it..... or they leave....most guys understand that you are working......

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    Default Re: How do you handle an annoying yet harmless member..

    You ladies are brilliant! So many good suggestions to try...now I'm hoping he does come in my room today so I can try them out.
    And I have to admit, I'm pretty tempted to try Friday's suggestion...lol

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    Default Re: How do you handle an annoying yet harmless member..

    ...keeping in mind that if you are in party chat mode, they can see how many guys are in your room...

    somehow it's less effective saying you're paying attention to hordes of people if they're not there

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    Default Re: How do you handle an annoying yet harmless member..

    Haha..valid point! Luckily I just do classic chat

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