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    Default Do you take this job personally?

    I have only been camming since Feb and I am having a hard time not taking some stuff personally. When I have a bad night I am really hard on my self. If I loose a regular (which I know happens over time) I wonder what I did or didnt do. How do you not take it personally?

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    Default Re: Do you take this job personally?

    You can't do that to yourself. It's them, not you. Since we don't work government jobs where we are guaranteed wages - we are in sales. And sales is up and down and you lose a bunch. Sales is never consistent. That's just the ebb and flow of this job.








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    For me, the longer I cam, the less personally I take this job. In my first few months, I actually cared what random customers thought of me, and every time I had a slow night I was convinced I was a failure.

    Eventually I realized, like Hayden said, we're in sales. Ebbs and flows are part of the game. One thing that has made this job much easier for me is that, the longer I cam, the more my income stabilizes, to the point that I can fairly accurately predict what my weekly earings will be. That takes alot of the pressure off. My first year was pretty chaotic though, my income jumping up and down with seemingly no rhyme nor reason, so I'd say what you're feeling is pretty normal. One technique that may help is to focus on weekly earnings, rather than daily earnings which will always be more prone to fluctuation.

    As far as regulars go, the longer you cam, the greater number of regulars you'll accquire. Some regulars will stay for years, but many also jump from chica to chica and that is absolutely not a negative reflection on you or your skills. Guys come and go; some like variety, some stop visiting when they realize we won't fuck them, some enter new relationships and no longer 'need' us.

    Beyond that, the farther you get into camming the more you'll realize the most generous men are usually the nicest, and are the least likely to cause drama or act like assholes. The guys who try to play mind games, go off on a jealousy and/or power trip or try to cause you grief in the hopes of getting you to 'prove' you care generally aren't worth the effort long term, comparing the $$$ they spend to the stress they (try to) cause.

    Focus on building your business to the point that you don't NEED any given customer, and you'll actually enjoy your time with them much more. It's also less stressful for you when you don't feel like you have to rely upon one customer or small handful of customers for your income.

    As a final thought, sex work is an interesting field, in that on the surface *we* are essentially the product that we're selling. It doesn't help that we live in a society that simultaneously pathologizes sex yet extols it as something 'central to the core of ourselves' When viewed in that light, a slow night means that *we* are being rejected, when in reality, what we sell is entertainment and fulfillment that we create with our minds and bodies, just as people in every other profession do. Tits and Sass (thanks Roast) has a wicked article on the 'Language of Selling Yourself' that challenges the way sex work is often perceived in mainstream discourse and it may help you realize that what's being desired or rejected on cam is NOT you, it's the character you play and the work that you do.

    Just as in any other field, whether you make $500 or $5000 you are still the same person. Celebrate what you do to increase your income, and when you have a slip focus on what you can do to change it, using your mind as your primary tool of success.

    Finally, cut yourself some slack. There's no rule book to camming, although sw does come pretty damn close. All of us learn as we go, and while we get better at what we do over time, moments of doubt are normal and they aren't a reflection on you or your skills. Enjoy your accomplishments as they come and seriously, fuck the rest


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    Default Re: Do you take this job personally?

    No, never.

    If I'm getting bad traffic, I put it down to placement or whatever, I'm not working hard enough... It's an awful shame that so many guys missed out on me that night because I know that so many would enjoy it.

    How can I improve this? Well, I know that I would be much better off if I had enough guys watch me, if enough guys knew about me, if I advertised enough, if I worked Twitter more, because I am hot shit (yup, I absolutely believe in the product I'm selling! It's important for every business).
    The harder you work, the more you'll get out of it. Just believe the fact that guys NEED to see your shows because you have the power of making them cum bucket-loads.

    As for insults, trolls, etc: The time I got insulted the most for my looks from various people was when I hit first row #1 girl on the site...

    Believe in yourself, believe in your show, and spread the word!




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    Default Re: Do you take this job personally?

    I don't take it personally because I am first a human being, NOT a sexual being. Men cum and go but my self-worth and self-esteem is not depending on a few regulars or so.
    It's their loss!
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    I can see you being 90 and flipping your long hair, still teasing the boys.



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    Default Re: Do you take this job personally?

    YES~ I TAKE camming serious.

    I do not take the douche bags, insults and hating models serious. They need a life.

    Camming is my world, it has built a great foundation for stability $$$ in my home. I don't worry about bills. I dont worry if my family will make it from one week to the next. Camming has supplied more than enough for me.l I take it personally.

    I started camming and I took what ppl said about me personally, in the long run ,I know why they hate me. Im the bomb baby! and so are you

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    Default Re: Do you take this job personally?

    no.
    personally? no. never.

    its an acting gig.
    how can I take it personally?
    I'd be insane to think like that.......

    Im playing a crazy woman today, a murderer the next and a happy hippy girl after...
    And next week Ill be the President of the United States of America!! LOL

    its acting baby...........

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    Default Re: Do you take this job personally?

    I used to take camming so personally and it was not healthy to me, my relationship or my biz(camming)

    IMO, the number one thing you can do to stop taking camming so personally is to separate yourself from what you are selling..... Don't think of it as you are selling your body or yourself. Your are not. YOU are selling service......

    again YOU are NOT selling yourself, You are selling a SERVICE.


    and trust me there is a very big difference and once you see that difference camming is a lot easier and you don't take it so personally

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    Default Re: Do you take this job personally?

    I don't even take my personal life personally . I guess that answers your question

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