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    And once again Melonie steps in with hard facts and logic! <3

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    Default Re: My Family discovered I am a Camgirl...

    so many people telling the OP to be a runaway?
    that doesnt fix things....

    try to talk to them first, explain to them what this camming is all about..
    tell them u are safe...its legal..its temporary until u save for.. whatever... etc..
    Hell, u can tell the aunt she can do it for extra $.. lol

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    poor OP, I hope everything works out for you , just get your stuff back its yours not hers! if she's a spiteful woman which Im guessing she is then call the police and explain your a big girl and she has no right to do this to you ,even if you were living in her house , listen to the sound advice you are being given here and keep away from toxic family members.

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    try to talk to them first, explain to them what this camming is all about..
    tell them u are safe...its legal..its temporary until u save for.. whatever... etc..
    Hell, u can tell the aunt she can do it for extra $.. lol
    ^^^ Lotsa luck on all of the above !!!

    The fact of the situation is that some people will ALWAYS take the position that adult webcam, or exotic dancing, are a version of 'sex work' that is morally unacceptable ... pure and simple. Attempting to 'sell' such people on basic economic facts / legalities in most cases is only going to make a bad situation even worse !!!

    ALSO IMHO it is a far better solution to simply walk away from such a situation as soon as humanly possible, as opposed to 'escalating' the situation even further via involving the police etc. Besides the 'personal risk' aspect, generating a police report could also wind up creating an unwanted paper trail linkage for a future college student camgirl who may someday be denied a straight job opportunity because of the existance of said paper trail connecting her with adult webcam work.


    Rent-a-center, easyhome, rent to own, stores like that are a godsend. You can pay 10-20 bucks a week for a high-end laptop while you save up for one of your own.
    yup, exactly ! This option is a very short term method of 'getting back in business' ... and earning additional camming money ... as quickly as possible. As soon as enough money can be saved up to buy a high end laptop, the rented unit should be returned.

    One of the oldest financial adages is 'Time is Money' !!! Hanging around for an extra two weeks in hopes of saving the cost of a $300 plane ticket, but sacrificing $1000 worth of additional webcam earnings in the process, makes very little overall economic sense.

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    Her aunt took her money, her laptop and told all other members in the family how nasty she is. I don't think talking will help much.

    I could never talk to my parents about things they didn't like. Whenever I tried the result was that they started to suspect my plans and made even more efforts to prevent me from doing them. I kind of ran away and now from the relative distance (I live in the same town atm, I lived 1 hr drive away before) we can talk. There was no way to talk while I lived under their roof, cause they thought they would teach me how to behave myself according to their wishes with their parent-powa.

    Now they realized they are out of that power and talk to me like I was more or less equal to them.

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    Most of us girls in the business have completely fucked up families. Just close the door on that part of your life. It's never going to get any better. You can forget them and make a new, perfect life for yourself. What they think or do is their problem.
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    If you end up changing/cancelling or going with another airline Southwest will hold 100% of what you paid for your ticket for a later flight in your name only. I buy/cancel flights quiet a bit and mostly always fly Southwest.

    Good luck with everything.

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    This is a situation where I don't believe trying to talk things out will work, as others have already said. In fact, with people like this (her aunt), I believe that talking only escalates things, because when people are acting off-the-wall, bat-shit crazy and trying to exert power over you in manipulative ways like this (stealing her things, shaming her by telling other people, threatening to try to ruin her job), responding back and trying to reason with them only encourages them in their behavior. Engaging them in a conversation only adds legitimacy to their side of the "conversation" in the first place, and makes them feel like they have a valid point. Because if their point wasn't even a valid argument, you would not waste the energy trying to refute something so utterly stupid. I truly believe that the only way you can even begin to deal with these kinds of people are to say "fuck you" (either literally or figuratively) and walk away. Not allowing them to keep harping at you, and showing that no matter what they do, they have no power, is the only way to get them to calm down - if they are even capable of calming down. When you walk away and ignore them, you are saying that nothing they are saying or doing at that moment holds any importance. And then, maybe, just maybe, they will realize their shit ain't gonna fly... either that, or they will just go sulk in a corner and pretend that they are the ones cutting you out of their life. Either way, this is the only way to stop the madness. If you try to talk to them, you feed their power trip because they realize that what they're doing is getting at you, and that if you care enough to try to reconcile or explain yourself to them, then clearly they have power over you - and they will keep exerting it.

    This isn't some mild riff over how short is too short for a skirt and her aunt taking the keys to her own car away from a teenager. This is an argument over sex work with a person who clearly sees something wrong with it that logic will not break through, and has resorted to stealing an adult's own property and trying to ruin her reputation and livelihood. This is not a talk-it-out situation. This is a get-away-now-and-don't-lend-any-legitimacy-to-her-argument-and-power situation.
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    I don't know about the rent-a-center advice. When I used it once, you had to have proof of income (check stubs) and the residence or utilities had to be in your name. Or the person who leased/owned the residence had to be present. Plus you need 2 references. It's not as simple as showing up with cash-in-hand and renting a computer. They have to know that you aren't going to disappear once they give you a $500 piece of equipment.

    From what I've read it doesn't seem like the OP would meet all of the requirements to rent one. I would hate for her to go out there thinking she could rent a computer and then run into more difficulty after everything else she's already going through.

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    Because I live in the suburbs and the airport is in the city I will need my credit card for traveling to the airport since I have no car. In addition to paying extra money for luggage. I used to have access to the mail but not anymore so she will obtain the credit card again. I thought of mailing it in California but again pointless because I need money to travel to the airport. Since I am not at my aunt house but my other uncle and aunt's I can't go look to see where my stuff is and I am stuck here like a child and can't leave. I will be going back to my aunt's house a few day before the trip. I am forced to wait until the week of June 20th. Talking in my family will not work since they are religious and have strict values for me. I have always wanted to leave asap and I am mad right now I could be earning money and treated like a child since I am at my other uncle and aunt's house. It is better for me to get my laptop and credit card since it is my only option it seems. I have checked payoneer account online and there has been no transactions expect for a refund on a LCD screen for my laptop.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AvaLove View Post
    Because I live in the suburbs and the airport is in the city I will need my credit card for traveling to the airport since I have no car. In addition to paying extra money for luggage. I used to have access to the mail but not anymore so she will obtain the credit card again. I thought of mailing it in California but again pointless because I need money to travel to the airport.
    Are you unable to have it mailed to a friend? If you have absolutely no one that can help you with that, ask to have it sent recorded delivery, or signed for (or whatever other option there is) with a specific instruction to request ID to sign for it (I've done that by having something addressed to "my name MUST ASK FOR ID TO SIGN" - works almost all the time).

    You should also be able to talk to payoneer about doing a transfer into your bank account - transfer the balance, use that cash to get to the airport, then have a new card sent to Cali.

    OR - depending on your credit rating and history with the bank, you may be able to get a credit card from them, put the costs of moving on there, and then get the new card and pay it back.

    There ARE lots of options besides trying to get your original card back - that just seems like it would be incredibly difficult, given what you have said about your aunt..she may even have cut it up by now. And if you are planning on leaving it until RIGHT before you leave, it doesn't give you any time to plan for a situation where you don't get it back - so you would have to cancel/postpone flights again, and just keep spending money that you don't have to spare.

    Best to deal with this ASAP - why are you "forced to wait"? Is she physically not there? Frankly, that would be fantastic - seeing as you legally LIVE there, and I am guessing you have keys, you can go in and search for your stuff. You could even check with the police about the legality of "breaking in" to the house where you live to get things that you own and have paid for. Obviously, don't do anything illegal, but I'm sure that in many places it isn't illegal to break into your own residence and remove your own possessions! If she is simply refusing to see you before then, just go there anyway. Unless you are afraid for your physical safety, in which case, bring someone! Heck - go to the police, explain that you are afraid for your safety but you need to get your things, and ask for an escort - if they won't help, go to a battered women's shelter. They have helped friends of mine with escorts to go back to homes where there was an abusive person waiting, so you may find someone willing to help you there. But time is of the essence - not just for practical reasons, but for emotional ones. The longer that this is stressing you out and isn't dealt with, the more you are putting your physical and mental health under pressure - not good!! You can't work and make money if you are ill because you tapped out your immune system with stress, or having panic attacks or insomnia from the pressure.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fridays View Post
    so many people telling the OP to be a runaway?
    that doesnt fix things....

    try to talk to them first, explain to them what this camming is all about..
    tell them u are safe...its legal..its temporary until u save for.. whatever... etc..
    Hell, u can tell the aunt she can do it for extra $.. lol
    Not sure it counts as a runaway if you are over 18!! To me, that's just leaving home at the appropriate time!

    And leaving doesn't always mean never talking to the person again, or never dealing with family issues. A lot of the time it can mean removing yourself from a bad situation to create a space where the OP can get to a better place in her life, practically and emotionally, so that she is better equipped to re-open the lines of communication. And sadly, sometimes, leaving doesn't fix the problem, but neither does any amount of talking. There are times where you may have to completely cut someone from your life, even when they are family...

    (Also - giant lol at the mental image of cheerily suggesting to a strict religious aunt that she hop on and diddle herself online for a little extra cash...."God will forgive you, just give some of the money to the collection plate!" *snort)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Avamonet View Post
    I don't know about the rent-a-center advice. When I used it once, you had to have proof of income (check stubs) and the residence or utilities had to be in your name. Or the person who leased/owned the residence had to be present. Plus you need 2 references. It's not as simple as showing up with cash-in-hand and renting a computer. They have to know that you aren't going to disappear once they give you a $500 piece of equipment.

    From what I've read it doesn't seem like the OP would meet all of the requirements to rent one. I would hate for her to go out there thinking she could rent a computer and then run into more difficulty after everything else she's already going through.
    Good point.

    I never used Rent-A-Center but I do recommend QVC or HSN if you need a new computer. You can use "flex pay" to make monthly payments. There is no credit check or employment verification, but a customer service rep did call to verify some information, only because my area code didn't match my city (I recently moved). If I remember correctly they will need a debit card so you'll need a new Payoneer card ASAP.

    Best of luck, OP!

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