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    Default How to politely turn down a double dance?

    Last night was slow, so every dance was needed.
    At the end of the night a guy wanted a 2 girl dance with me and some other chick who I don't know and who I didn't feel comfortable with.
    I went ahead and did it, just because I needed the money, but in the future, how can I politely turn down a double dance without missing out on money and without offending anyone?
    I have no problem doing 2 girls dances with girls I know and am comfortable with, but..this chick was gross.

    Thanks in advance for any tips.

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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    This is a great question. I never know how to do this!!! I don't like doubles, no matter who it's with.

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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    You could say you have a customer waiting, unless the club is really dead.

    If it was me and I asked a girl to do a double dance and she told me she just didn't like doing them I would understand.

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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    Because it was the guy who wanted the double and because he had picked the girls... it seems like a case to me of just having to bite the bullet.

    Hopefully it wasn't a situation where she will expect you to return the favor because that's the worst part about doing doubles.

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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    If the girl isn't standing right there, I'll sell the customer on how much more attention he'll get with one girl in the room. Which is true! All of the doubles I've done are weird and awkward, since we're paying more attention to each other, and since there's really only room for one girl near the guy's lap. It's hard to do sexy and personal stuff (I'm not talking extras here, just simple stuff like brushing against his ear and whatnot) with two girls.

    That said, if the guy says he wants a double dance, then that's probably a fantasy he has in his head, so even a bad two-girl dance will seem like heaven to him. Either that, or he wants to see girl-on-girl action (which necessitates a two-girl dance even if the action is totally clean). So even if it seems lame to you, they'll usually love it.

    This is one of the rare situations where the customer is usually right, since they are the ones purchasing the dances. I'd offer a quick suggestion if the girl isn't there like "Two-girl dances can be fun...I don't know if you've ever had one of our dances, but they're much more personal one-on-one. Whatever you'd like!" You risk losing the sale if you try to turn it down, and you risk coming across negatively as well.

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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    You could also just point out the differences and let him order off of the menu--something you could prooobably get away with doing if the other girl is standing there if you're tactful. Say something like "Two girl dances tend to be sexy--we can touch each other and show off for you. One girl dances have more personal attention--I can get close to you and focus all of my attention on you. Which would you prefer / Which sounds like more fun to you?" (Obviously change this depending on who is in hearing distance and however you talk normally) Put the one-girl option last and make it sound much more personal and close to make it easier for him to choose that one.

    Obviously, it's best to do this if the second girl isn't already there--since that implicitly pressures him to go ahead with the two-girl dance.

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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    You have to prepare for the fact that some strippers have very delicate egos and you turning down a double dance will offend them no matter what you say. It may also lose them money if they set up the sale and the customer doesn't want anyone else for the double or even just a one-on-one dance with her. Your only safe out is if there's another customer you can go over and talk to (and hopefully sell to) so you can say you have someone waiting for you and they've been waiting for a while.

    I definitely don't recommend trying to turn it into a one-on-one dance sale. I'd be livid if I was the other girl, had offered you this double, and you tried to steal the sale out from under me. Even if I hadn't personally set it up and it was all the customer's doing, I wouldn't think very highly of you for trying to cut me out of it. Maybe it wouldn't bother you if you were in her position, but just some food for though.

    FWIW, I've never felt the need to turn down a double dance. It's fairly easy money, especially if the other girl sets it up. Even if the girl is "gross", just set some boundaries with her before you start dancing so her "grossness" doesn't affect you.

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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    I don't really understand the problem. I've had double dances, double VIPs. I just can't imagne turning down money or blocking another chick's money.
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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    "no thanks" with a friendly smile usually does the trick.

    and may i ask why is she "gross"... most guys when choosing girls to do double dances choose girls that have a similar look/same "type". not saying that that was the case with you cuz i wasn't there to see.

    guys have done this to me before, i understood that it was his type and the girl had a similar look to mine but obviously not twins.....but i still could not stand the girl that he had chosen, so i could relate.
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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    I've had a lot of guys who wanted two opposites as well. A white girl and a black girl, for instance. Not all guys want girls that look the same.

    If I were setting it up and he asked me to do a double with a girl that I wasn't comfortable with I might say that I'd have more fun with *girl I am comfortable with* but if he's dead set on a double, and dead set on /that/ girl, then it's pretty much bite the bullet time.

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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    I don't really understand the problem. I've had double dances, double VIPs. I just can't imagine turning down money or blocking another chick's money.
    This is exactly how I feel when it comes to double dances. It's a win-win situation for three people.





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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    Hey, that's money, and double dances are easier in my opinion.. You focus on the girl, and not as much on the man.. You can never disappoint during a double dance..

    I understand though, some girls can be really gross or just intolerable. Personally, I would bite the bullet in this case. Money is Money!
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    Quote Originally Posted by femmefatale88 View Post
    "no thanks" with a friendly smile usually does the trick.

    and may i ask why is she "gross"... most guys when choosing girls to do double dances choose girls that have a similar look/same "type". not saying that that was the case with you cuz i wasn't there to see.

    guys have done this to me before, i understood that it was his type and the girl had a similar look to mine but obviously not twins.....but i still could not stand the girl that he had chosen, so i could relate.
    Yeah, I should have been more specific than just saying gross.
    She just has a reputation of being dirty. Extras.
    Even when we did the dance I had to fight off HER hands from trying to touch my pussy. :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by _Avery_ View Post
    ..I had to fight off HER hands from trying to touch my pussy. :/
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    Quote Originally Posted by _Avery_ View Post
    Yeah, I should have been more specific than just saying gross.
    She just has a reputation of being dirty. Extras.
    Even when we did the dance I had to fight off HER hands from trying to touch my pussy. :/
    The best thing you could had done to avoid any unwanted touching is telling her beforehand with what you're comfortable. I had done many double dances and I had always told the other dancer before hand that the pussy, the buttcrack and the nipples are offlimits. There are so many ways to make a double dance sexy without having to touch those parts!





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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist View Post
    I don't really understand the problem. I've had double dances, double VIPs. I just can't imagne turning down money or blocking another chick's money.
    This^^. I don't like doing them really, not sure why!Just feel much more comfortable dancing alone.
    But what the hell? For a few mins of feeling slightly uncomfortable I make money, & don't piss off another girl.

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    Quote Originally Posted by _Avery_ View Post
    Yeah, I should have been more specific than just saying gross.
    She just has a reputation of being dirty. Extras.
    Even when we did the dance I had to fight off HER hands from trying to touch my pussy. :/
    Yeah that definitely would deserve the title of "gross" . ICK!

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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    Actually, that's one of the problems with double dances. I think most girls think, because you're a girl, you'll be down for whatever cos we're all girls... Right?
    I was in a double dance once and I dunno if it was intentional or accident, this girl licked my boob without me knowing and it freaked me out.

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    Default Re: How to politely turn down a double dance?

    In theory, I can understand the whole "don't be greedy--share money!" perspective. But...I'm a hardcore hustler, and on slow nights in the Midwest, when you're looking at the guy who might be the last new customer you see all night and it's only 11:00, your perspective changes a bit. I always defer to what the guy wants, but there's nothing wrong with trying to hustle both dances for yourself as long as you don't say anything bitchy to the girl and as long as the guy ends up happy.

    There's also the fact that sometimes strippers do know what's more fun than the guy does, even if he thinks he knows what he wants (such as when you know that 99% of guys enjoy one-on-one dances more than double dances). We know which dances are ripoffs, which dances are worth it, and all sorts of other things about the club and the girls who work in it. So a little push in that direction isn't out of line, IMO.

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