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    Default Question for the Dancers of this site-How do you know when a dancer is being "legit"

    *Guys feel free to chime in, but your responses will be taken with a grain of salt after reading some of the male posters response in various threads. Some of you really do live in your own little world.

    Back on topic, I'm hoping some of the dancers on here can give me some ques to look for. I was at an SC this weekend with one of good friends. We're sitting down just chllin, drinkin, watching the show, etc. I have a dancer come up and do her job, asks if I want a private dance etc. ect. I declined at first, politly told her no thanks not right now, but maybe later. Don't get me wrong she was gorgeous and all, but I was just trying to chill with my friend for a lil bit. Anyways she kept coming to me and asking as she's expected to. Well later on I keep seeing that one weird old man that there always is in an SC hitting on her. So I figured if she is putting up with that she atleast deserves a drink, so I ask her what she wants and a buy her a screw driver (vodka/OJ for those who live in a hole) and she comes and sits down with us while she can we're just talking and I told her why i thought she needed a drink. She told me it was sweet, she gave me a free private dance after that I still gave her the money afterward it was only $10 so I thought what the hell she was hot and the dance was good so I might as well compensate her lol (She didn't ask for it). So I don't end up writing an essay on the night, to make a long short a little shorter I got her number. She wants me to come back up there and see her. Sine she wants me to come back up there I'm certain she is just a damn good hustler, so I'm gonna play this sitch by ear and see what happens.

    Anyway dancers please tell me, what a guy should look for to know that a certain dancer is being sincere or if she is just hustlin?

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    She did what she's there to do.....she got a drink and some $ out of you and now has you thinking about returning. I'm not sure I'd say you were "hustled" per se. She didn't appear to mislead you, she didn't pocket hundreds of your dollars, but nothing in your post indicates she was interested in anything other than doing some business in the club. Giving out cell numbers is SOP these days. If your interest in her is something other than being a customer, you have her number, go ahead and ask her. Odds are she won't be interested, but you won't know till you ask, so I wouldn't waste a lot of time being a customer if that's not what you are looking for.
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    She did what she's there to do.....she got a drink and some $ out of you and now has you thinking about returning. I'm not sure I'd say you were "hustled" per se. She didn't appear to mislead you, she didn't pocket hundreds of your dollars, but nothing in your post indicates she was interested in anything other than doing some business in the club. Giving out cell numbers is SOP these days. If your interest in her is something other than being a customer, you have her number, go ahead and ask her. Odds are she won't be interested, but you won't know till you ask, so I wouldn't waste a lot of time being a customer if that's not what you are looking for.
    It wasn't like I was trying to take home a dancer lol. I went there with the intention of trying to cheer my friend up because to make a long story short he got a CRAZY ASS girl pregnant or so she says. I know it's their job and I'm pretty good at remembering that even when I've had a lot of drinks. I'm just asking for future reference if some dancers on this site could chime in. It's just hard to portray what your saying sometime on a forum because someone has to interpret your tone of voice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WhatShouldIDo View Post
    ...She told me it was sweet, she gave me a free private dance after that I still gave her the money afterward it was only $10 so I thought what the hell she was hot and the dance was good so I might as well compensate her lol (She didn't ask for it). So I don't end up writing an essay on the night, to make a long short a little shorter I got her number. She wants me to come back up there and see her. Sine she wants me to come back up there I'm certain she is just a damn good hustler, so I'm gonna play this sitch by ear and see what happens.

    Anyway dancers please tell me, what a guy should look for to know that a certain dancer is being sincere or if she is just hustlin?
    Don't be so jaded What. I think that she may really like you. But she really doesn't know you yet, so for now the club is her safe zone. Remember that a lot of the guys she meets in the club are assholes and she probably needs a little more time to confirm that you are truly as sweet as you seem to be.

    IMHO you should visit her some more in the club and see where it goes. But when you do, you will need to bring at least a little money to spend. The last thing that you'll want is to get her in trouble with club management for spending too much free time with you when they expect her to be working the room. Anything that you could do to make it easier for her to spend the time to get to know you would probably help move things along on all fronts.

    You can never be absolutely certain about whether a dancer is sincere or just hustling, but if you don't take a chance and live a little you'll never know! Let her see that you are truly different from the guys she normally has to deal with and you may be very happy with the result. Carpe diem!

    Good luck and keep us posted!

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    You can never be absolutely certain about whether a dancer is sincere or just hustling
    ...this is the answer and to think otherwise would be living in your own fantasy world.
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    Quote Originally Posted by WhatShouldIDo View Post
    So I don't end up writing an essay on the night, to make a long short a little shorter I got her number. She wants me to come back up there and see her. Sine she wants me to come back up there I'm certain she is just a damn good hustler, so I'm gonna play this sitch by ear and see what happens.

    Anyway dancers please tell me, what a guy should look for to know that a certain dancer is being sincere or if she is just hustlin?
    Um....so you did a dance with her and paid her. She gave you her number and she wants you to come back and see her. In other words, she did her job.

    It sounds like you are trying to make "hustlin'" a bad thing (perhaps by dropping the "g"?). Working customers and selling dances is what dancers do. I have no doubt that she was sincere. She sincerely wants you to come back to the club and spend more money on her.
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    Sometimes receiving a phone number can turn into a little extracurricular activities but it is almost always for money.

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    So much for my attempt at humor...

    FBR, it is good to see you posting again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    So much for my attempt at humor...

    FBR, it is good to see you posting again.

    I was wondering if you were serious.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WhatShouldIDo View Post
    *Guys feel free to chime in, but your responses will be taken with a grain of salt after reading some of the male posters response in various threads. Some of you really do live in your own little world.

    Back on topic, I'm hoping some of the dancers on here can give me some ques to look for. I was at an SC this weekend with one of good friends. We're sitting down just chllin, drinkin, watching the show, etc. I have a dancer come up and do her job, asks if I want a private dance etc. ect. I declined at first, politly told her no thanks not right now, but maybe later. Don't get me wrong she was gorgeous and all, but I was just trying to chill with my friend for a lil bit. Anyways she kept coming to me and asking as she's expected to. Well later on I keep seeing that one weird old man that there always is in an SC hitting on her. So I figured if she is putting up with that she atleast deserves a drink, so I ask her what she wants and a buy her a screw driver (vodka/OJ for those who live in a hole) and she comes and sits down with us while she can we're just talking and I told her why i thought she needed a drink. She told me it was sweet, she gave me a free private dance after that I still gave her the money afterward it was only $10 so I thought what the hell she was hot and the dance was good so I might as well compensate her lol (She didn't ask for it). So I don't end up writing an essay on the night, to make a long short a little shorter I got her number. She wants me to come back up there and see her. Sine she wants me to come back up there I'm certain she is just a damn good hustler, so I'm gonna play this sitch by ear and see what happens.

    Anyway dancers please tell me, what a guy should look for to know that a certain dancer is being sincere or if she is just hustlin?
    She did what any dancer would do. I assume it was a slow night and you were one of the few customers at the SC. She interpreted you offering to buy her a drink to mean you were interested in lap dances from her. She offered a 'free lap dance' hoping you would tip her afterwards (which you did), or ask her for a second lap dance. In the end, you paid her for the lap dance and bought a drink for her. If she gave you her number and invited you back to the club it means nothing other than to lure you back in the SC to see her. It is not unusual for dancers to give out their number hoping that customers would text them to ask them when and where they will be dancing at. The more experienced dancers don't give out their numbers easily, and if they do, they only share it with their regular customers with whom they are comfortable and find trustworthy. In my opinion, she is a new dancer who is trying to find regular customers. Now, are you asking if she was being sincere as in she is interested in seeing you OTC? I highly doubt it.
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    Do you know anything about this dancer beyond she's hot. A guy I work with married and divorced a dancer and she took him for everything. Even if she is sincre, and I don't know if she is or not as I've never met her, be careful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WhatShouldIDo View Post
    *Guys feel free to chime in, but your responses will be taken with a grain of salt after reading some of the male posters response in various threads. Some of you really do live in your own little world.

    Back on topic, I'm hoping some of the dancers on here can give me some ques to look for. I was at an SC this weekend with one of good friends. We're sitting down just chllin, drinkin, watching the show, etc. I have a dancer come up and do her job, asks if I want a private dance etc. ect. I declined at first, politly told her no thanks not right now, but maybe later. Don't get me wrong she was gorgeous and all, but I was just trying to chill with my friend for a lil bit. Anyways she kept coming to me and asking as she's expected to. Well later on I keep seeing that one weird old man that there always is in an SC hitting on her. So I figured if she is putting up with that she atleast deserves a drink, so I ask her what she wants and a buy her a screw driver (vodka/OJ for those who live in a hole) and she comes and sits down with us while she can we're just talking and I told her why i thought she needed a drink. She told me it was sweet, she gave me a free private dance after that I still gave her the money afterward it was only $10 so I thought what the hell she was hot and the dance was good so I might as well compensate her lol (She didn't ask for it). So I don't end up writing an essay on the night, to make a long short a little shorter I got her number. She wants me to come back up there and see her. Sine she wants me to come back up there I'm certain she is just a damn good hustler, so I'm gonna play this sitch by ear and see what happens.

    Anyway dancers please tell me, what a guy should look for to know that a certain dancer is being sincere or if she is just hustlin?
    Umm, if you've read so many other threads on here you already know your answer. No she doesn't like you. No she doesn't want to date you. Yes she wants you to come back and see her, TO SPEND YOUR MONEY ON HER.
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    I wouldn't even bother trying to hustle you, never mind wanting to date you. We are there to make money for a living, not to look for dates. I also find it hard to believe she gave you a free private dance. A ten dollar private dance???? Where the fuck is that???? Ugh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    I wouldn't even bother trying to hustle you, never mind wanting to date you. We are there to make money for a living, not to look for dates. I also find it hard to believe she gave you a free private dance. A ten dollar private dance???? Where the fuck is that???? Ugh.
    If he got a ten dollar dance from a dancer (I don't think it was that private for that little), and his info says he's from Virginia, he probably went down to Elizabeth City in NC; the only club down there (Headlights) sells ten dollar table dances and 20 dollar VIP dances (which are just like the table dances, but in a private booth).





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    The reason she was hanging around the old guy is because he's probably a damn good regular!! I will be friendly to everyone until they do something that bothers me. I will be more friendly to people who are better to me.
    TBH if you are a younger guy taking your buddy into the strip club to cheer him up from "getting a crazy chick pregnant" you may not be her ideal client anyhow. She may have a dedicated phone line just for customers.

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    Why do I keep reading shit like this on SW? Are strippers really doing stuff like this? really? You're giving out your number for a drink? wtf is going on?

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    Quote Originally Posted by lokikola View Post
    Why do I keep reading shit like this on SW? Are strippers really doing stuff like this? really? You're giving out your number for a drink? wtf is going on?
    Ohhh yeah some off them are pretty dumb! 10 dolar and a drink must be so tempting to give guys number ... such a cheap ho or dumb ho or both! i hate girls like that ...

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    I really hate the term "hustling" or "hustlin" why is it that when a dancer or anyone in this industry does their job that they are some how doing something wrong by getting your money. That is their job! They are working! They are not there to date the 100 guys that ask them out. Seriously she gave you her number so you can call her when you'll come back in. That's it. I would never get so happy to see a guy that is cheap. Now put a few extra 000 behind that $10 and maybe I'd go on a date but I would still want to be compensated for the night of money I'm missing out on because I'm sitting across a dinner table with you.

    So you went to cheer your friend up after he got some "crazy"woman pregnant. It's funny how she wasn't crazy before he blew his unprotected load. Your friend sounds like he doesn't know how to keep his stick covered properly and you probably should have taken his ass to the nearest gay male bar instead. One benefit: he can't get a guy pregnant. I mean seriously you put the guy in the face of more vagina? I'm wondering if you're just dense or cruel. Plus while being there you had time to think about if your stick has a shot with a dancer? Wow you men surely know how to multitask.

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    Who wants a guy spends only 10$ and buys only one drink...? ohh so tempting siriously //WTF! that girl must be hardocre drug addict or somethin or she must have very low IQ or somethin. Obviously the guy droped 10 $ on u ,not gonna be obviously a potantial customer. Doesnt even worth to say hi , if he ever could come back again.

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    I really hate the term "hustling" or "hustlin" why is it that when a dancer or anyone in this industry does their job that they are some how doing something wrong by getting your money. That is their job! They are working! They are not there to date the 100 guys that ask them out. Seriously she gave you her number so you can call her when you'll come back in. That's it. I would never get so happy to see a guy that is cheap. Now put a few extra 000 behind that $10 and maybe I'd go on a date but I would still want to be compensated for the night of money I'm missing out on because I'm sitting across a dinner table with you.

    So you went to cheer your friend up after he got some "crazy"woman pregnant. It's funny how she wasn't crazy before he blew his unprotected load. Your friend sounds like he doesn't know how to keep his stick covered properly and you probably should have taken his ass to the nearest gay male bar instead. One benefit: he can't get a guy pregnant. I mean seriously you put the guy in the face of more vagina? I'm wondering if you're just dense or cruel. Plus while being there you had time to think about if your stick has a shot with a dancer? Wow you men surely know how to multitask.
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    Seems like we have a lot of these noobs on the site, it's a must read lol:

    (I think that stripper really liked me)
    http://www.theonion.com/articles/i-t...iked-me,10883/

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    *Guys feel free to chime in, but your responses will be taken with a grain of salt after reading some of the male posters response in various threads. Some of you really do live in your own little world.

    Back on topic, I'm hoping some of the dancers on here can give me some ques to look for. I was at an SC this weekend with one of good friends. We're sitting down just chllin, drinkin, watching the show, etc. I have a dancer come up and do her job, asks if I want a private dance etc. ect. I declined at first, politly told her no thanks not right now, but maybe later. Don't get me wrong she was gorgeous and all, but I was just trying to chill with my friend for a lil bit. Anyways she kept coming to me and asking as she's expected to. Well later on I keep seeing that one weird old man that there always is in an SC hitting on her. So I figured if she is putting up with that she atleast deserves a drink, so I ask her what she wants and a buy her a screw driver (vodka/OJ for those who live in a hole) and she comes and sits down with us while she can we're just talking and I told her why i thought she needed a drink. She told me it was sweet, she gave me a free private dance after that I still gave her the money afterward it was only $10 so I thought what the hell she was hot and the dance was good so I might as well compensate her lol (She didn't ask for it). So I don't end up writing an essay on the night, to make a long short a little shorter I got her number. She wants me to come back up there and see her. Sine she wants me to come back up there I'm certain she is just a damn good hustler, so I'm gonna play this sitch by ear and see what happens.

    Anyway dancers please tell me, what a guy should look for to know that a certain dancer is being sincere or if she is just hustlin?
    One of a few basic "regulars cultivation" tactics.

    As for being able to tell if a girl being "legit"... if she's really into you, you won't need to ask. It will be crystal clear.

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