I guess I've always been polyamourous, it was just recently I discovered the term for it and read up about it. Monogamy has never felt right for me - I feel trapped and pressured and usually end up cheating, but that doesn't mean I don't want a relationship. For the first time in my life I really do.
Anyway, was wondering if anyone else here is polyamourous and how do you deal with it? I.e. bringing it up with potential partners, dealing with jealousy, rules about who else you sleep with etc.
I'm asking because I'm new to it, I don't want to be the cheater anymore but I don't want to give up my sexual freedom (I have never associated sex and love so never really understood why sex is such a big deal and why a partner would care as long as I was being safe and if they were unavailable). Also I recently met a guy who I'm really interested in and we have great chemistry emotionally and sexually but he is a big believer in monogamy and I've tried to explain polyamoury to him but he doesn't understand (though he tries and doesn't judge me), he has a lot of questions and since I've never been in an open polyamourous relationship before I can't answer a lot of them. I've promised not to sleep with anyone else until we've figured it out.
Just looking for someone else's perspective and experiences.



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