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    Default High personal standards causing lack of motivation

    So lately I've really gotten in my groove at work. I'm able to hustle without thinking and easily make at least $1000 working three 7 hr shifts a week... which I feel at my club is standard for a good hardworking dancer where I work. Sometimes I make more, but we're in a slow season right now, so I'll mainly shoot for that. It also depends on which days I work. I work mostly weekdays, and sometimes they can be hit or miss. Lately I've been beating myself up for not being a top earner and not hustling hard enough. I don't know what's wrong with me. Especially since some nights I've made good money when girls couldn't pay their house fees. I still look at some other girls and give myself shit because i am not as good as them. I do realize that I've only been at this probably 6 months total and some of these girls have a few more years of experience under their belt. Also I seem to think I don't have enough money....which is not the case. I save diligently even though I do spend a decent amount. Having been broke for almost 2 years on my own and just moving into a new place I've had to spend money on things like furniture, clothing that doesn't look like crap, and good makeup for myself. I have saved at least a 1/4 of what I've made every month at this point. I also have a few health issues I'm trying to deal with at this time, which is making it harder to be on my game, so I know I shouldn't be so hard on myself, but still.... I hear of girls making 500-800 and Im like ughh i need to be better. I know this attitude isn't helping my situation and that it's only hurting. I know I should just have fun, relax, do my best, and let the money come to me, but it's been hard to get into that frame of mind. Anyone else a completely ridiculous perfectionist like me?

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    Default Re: High personal standards causing lack of motivation

    It is always good to set a goal so that you don't get lazy but you can't be too strict about it. I do complain on $600 or $800 nights because I know I have the potential to make more but early on I had a very real moment. I told a guy I was seeing that I was upset for making less that night. He got really upset and told me to be thankful because I made more that night than most people do in an entire week. You want to make sure to be real with your self. Be thankful for what you make. Always go in and do your best but don't get too mad if that means a lower night. Can I ask what city you are in by the way?

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    Yeah... I feel like being thankful for the money is really helpful... I follow a lot of law of attraction stuff, but sometimes I just get out of the zone. It leads to a downward spiral of "i don't know if i can do this.." Usually when I go in believing that I'm a top earner is when I make good money... I'm more on my hustle game, as well as able to take rejection a lot more gracefully. I think I just need to take things shift by shift and stay more in the moment...stop thinking about what I'm going to do with my money and obsessing about my goals all the time. It's driving me bananas. I've always been a high achiever. I'm in a club in central PA btw.

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    this EXACTLY happened to me last year from mid November-February. The club was like. dead and making even 500 was like making 1k. It was so frustrating to go from making a lot to like, nothing, overnight.

    then, one day a girl said to me "how much does it cost for you to live a day" and when I calculated it, it was like 50$ on a day that I didn't work and 70$ on a day that I did work. So I started seeing it as just make enough money to cover my basic cost of living so I didn't burn through my savings. Of course, I didn't really learn that until January which meant that I DID burn through some of my savings but I still had and have money so it's not a huge deal. These days when I go to work and it's bad I just remember that there is really nothing I can do. You can't make it good, you can just make it work. So go in, make 1-300$ and work it as best as you can. If you get too annoyed doing that, you can always cam.
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