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    Sorry if this is an age old topic or there's already a thread-I couldn't see one.

    What I mean by the title is, situations with other girls. Scenarios such as;

    I went over to two guys tonight-another girl already sitting with one of them, I asked the other for a dance-guy with the girl said 'Go on get a dance *Mick!'
    The other girl had been sitting with guy 1 for a while, she was new to the club so I said to her 'Sorry what's your name , hun? Okay guy1, have you had a dance off *Jewel , yet? You best be getting one!Anyway then guy 2 that I had gone over to took my hand, and handed guy 1 a £20 note to get a dance, off ME.
    Because this girl had obviously been trying to get a dance off him, herself, I said to her 'Do you want to split £10/£10? And she said yes so we both danced for guy1 that guy2 had paid for and I took a £10 instead of the £20.

    As we walked to the private dance room this girl said 'Thank you' to me and I said, well I didn't think it would be fair for me to just take the money that *you* had kind of earned, for myself?

    Reason I did this is because I had just walked over and got offered a dance, from 'her' customer (albeit the other guy paying) and I didn't see that as far as I had done no work to get him, and she had.
    I can't help but think most girls would probably have just taken the £20 and danced by themselves.


    Another scenario, I went over to a group of six guys, one girl already sitting there, I joined in the conversation and then girl said to them, 'Okay so you all want a dance from me? (they'd obviously already been discussing it.) They all got up to go for a dance with her by herself and she said to me 'You coming too?' and I said 'No, won't steal your dance hun'. Because she had obviously already talked them all into having dances from her, I hadn't done any 'work' and had just walked over assuming that she would be getting a dance off one of the customers, not all six. But she had hustled and got them all to take her alone, and I had gatecrashed.

    Another scenario-completely different. I am friends with a girl, as in we always have a proper chat, she's invited me to her place , I speak to her on fb-I've not seen her out of work, yet-but she's more than just a colleague. She was absolutely skint last week and the club was dead, so I took £30 from the cash machine and bought us both a few beers. To me, that's a 'normal' helping a friend out and cheering us both up on a dead night where we wouldn't make money anyway so from my POV we may as well make the most and have a nice night together, if we weren't going to make money my spending a few £ is worth it and better than being miserable all night!
    Reason I ask about that one is, I mentioned it to another girl during the ride home and she was like 'You bought Jules a beer? ! I'd never do that-I'd never buy anybody a drink,I'm there to make money!

    For the record, that girl had had a regular in and had made about £130. Nothing on a 'normal' night, but Jules and I made nothing at all, we didn't get lucky and the club was DEAD I mean proper dead.

    Don't get me wrong this isn't just for my benefit that I do things like this, I don't believe in altruism. But had I done the alternatives, I may have been unfavoured by said girls and then they're less likely to look out for me, if situations arise that have me in the opposite position. I am personally willing to lose a few £ to figure out people's characters, in that sense. If say, with scenario one, that girl wanted a double dance, she would be more likely to come and find me than anybody else? Also if the same scenario happened but the other way around, she'll be more likely to do the same favour for me?

    Anybody get what I mean?

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    In the end we're all alone in this business. I look out for #1.
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    Default Re: How 'Nice' are you?

    Quote Originally Posted by sugarmouse0707 View Post

    Anybody get what I mean?
    Yes, I get what you mean and I am a lot like you and do the same sorts of things. However I also realize I am not going to last long in this business but this business is sort of awful anyway.

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    ^ The guy was just sitting with her for that long he probably didn't like her and when you came up his friend thought you were more to his liking. I wok in huge clubs and I had this happen this girl was sitting with 5 guys , she wasn't talking and she had an ashtray on her lap and was smoking I couldn't even figure out which one since she was next to two but talking to no one but was staring at me with her mouth open looking like she was going to drool( no lie) The customer I was sitting said get that girl out of here she's weird. I told him that's his fiends responsibility and he said here here's 40 bucks just go dance for him. I waited until she went on the stage but they didn't want her there. I would have said to the guy who paid hey why don't you get one with her and i he didn't hey not your prob just cuz she was sitting there doesn't mean she did any work. I wish these chicks would get the hell up when after 15 minutes it's apparent the guys not into you. This pisses me off more than anything when a guy is eyeing me over and there's a girl sitting there an hour with no clue!

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    Default Re: How 'Nice' are you?

    #1 I would've done the same. Though I think a lot of girls would just take him alone, you'd feel pissed if that happened to you so you're avoiding drama/earning brownie points with the girl and to me it's only fair.

    #2 If she was genuinely asking I would have gone too, if she sounded a bit snide/nasty as though I'd muscled in I might pass... but you're not in the wrong for joining a large group when there's only one girl. Obviously she's getting more money for taking them all so depends how you feel the girl would react.

    #3 Nothing wrong with that! A lot of girls at my club are friends and they always buy each other drinks. No reason to sit bored and tired all night if you don't mind buying a few.


    I'm pretty 'nice' at work. There's nothing wrong with that IMO. Make sure to look after yourself first but if you are a fair and nice person there's no point causing yourself drama/bitchiness for the sake of an extra £10 here and there!

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    I feel like I'm lucky because the girls in the club where I work are all pretty nice. I mean... I look out for myself in a way that if it's slow and my friends want to sit at the bar and have a drink, I'd rather hustle the couple guys that are actually in the club. We all tend to help each other out.... Like if we're sitting with a guy next to the stage, we'll lay on the stage and put on a sexy little display to tip the girl. It usually ends up in the girl on stage getting more money, and the guy you're sitting with being more interested in you because he saw you play around with the girl on stage. My club doesn't hire bitches with shitty attitudes anyway, and drama is not tolerated at all by the management. I think it's stupid to be a straight up heartless bitch in this industry. I mean you have to be strong and take care of what you need to do, but without putting other people down. I think being nice and helping people out here and there a little goes a long way... as long as people don't take advantage of you. Plus, karma's a bitch.

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    I am civil and polite because I have to see the people I work with on a day to day basis and drama is a waste of my precious time. There's a difference.
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    Default Re: How 'Nice' are you?

    Depends on the club and the girl(s).
    If it's a friend of mine who I talk to of course I'll help her out anyway I can.
    If it's someone who I don't associate with at all, then no, I won't buy her a drink or let her use my things.
    Someone I know, of course...they can use whatever they want of mine and I will gladly buy my friends drinks.
    Just because I know they'd do the same for me.

    While working, if we're all talking together, I will try to push EVERYONE (if I know the girl or not) for a dance. So we all go together (like if there's a group of guys)
    If someone gets me a dance that I don't know, then I would try to return the favor. Good karma.

    I guess in the end, I'm nice to those who are nice to me.

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    I'm too nice sometimes and it gets me nowhere or just stepped on. I practice dancer etiquette but I will not go out of my way to help someone I don't know or don't talk to. People will take advantage of you if you're nice in this business. Girls will step on your toes because you're "nice" and won't do anything about it. Ugh..

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    ^So true.

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    In my club, girls do not care. I mean, we all have dancer etiquette, but it all depends on a night. When the night is busy and we have like 80 girls vs 35 customers, than there is no etiquette. You see two girls attacking one guy, one after another, and girls attacking guys after another girl who was sitting with the guy before was called on stage. And NOBODY ever shares anything with anyone. It is not even a discussion!!!

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