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    I was doing alright in the beginning of the year; averaging more than I set my goals at and getting by and had money to spare...then I took a month long break, came back and I'm basically making a bit over minimum wage. When I have two kids to support this is not even enough for food/daycare/rent!!! I was camming on streamate, then I switched to daily pay with a new accountand doing horrible, hardly anyone comes to my room. I was doing alright on mfc still after the break, but then I changed my name (stupid I know) and my camscore tanked from over 2k to under 1k. I'm honestly desperate right now...we barely have money for foodand I'm going to be without a home if things continue like this.

    I'm considering stripping, but my husband says if I do that he'll want a divorce. I'm going to go for it if I can't make it work camming though, I need to support the family..

    I know you guys hate this question, but any camsites worth working on that are comparable to mfc/streamate? I have tried...imlive, icgirls, camwithher, adultwork, and livejasmin; these either had low traffic or horrible pay out rates or some other issue (I could never get approved to adultwork for some reason.)

    Please help, I have looked over literally hundreds of threads from the time I found this forum. Right now I'm signing up for xpeeps and camcity. Any direction is appreciated.

    Love you guys!! <3

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    Default Re: Camming "career" up in flames :{

    what about selling vids and stuff on sites like clips4sale or extralunchmoney?
    I make some $ on them. Its good to have a site to sell content on
    I also use mygirlfund, and today a guy who I talk to gave me $100 just because I was telling him how Im having issues with my rent.


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    What is your husband doing to support the family? If he really doesn't want you to strip, I hope he's willing to pick up a second and a third job instead.

    When I switched over to daily pay on SM my traffic/earnings tanked as well. It took a month or two to recover, but after that I started doing better than I ever did on my old account.

    Are you using the encoder? Is your computer/upload speed fast enough to support the new settings? Have you checked your stream in another browser to make sure you're not choppy, blurry, etc?


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    i really like webcams.com. ive always done well there. on streamate are you using the encoder with all the updated settings, are you streaming HD ?

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    I'm working off a mini laptop, it can't handle the encoder/hd. I can't afford a new laptop at the moment though. I do have a mygirlfund and I love it, but money is inconsistent there for me.

    My husband isn't working, everything is on my shoulders...he's "looking" for a job but this job hunt has been about a year in the making and I'm sick of the exuses...I'll definately check out webcams.com..PS do most strippers give "extras"?...my husband is convinced of this but I'm not.

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    ^^ LOL, he threatens he's gonna divorce YOU? He should be the one getting served with papers, not you. Tell him he better find his ass a job fast if he doesn't want you stripping. Putting food on the table is more important than catering to his poor manbaby jealousy issues.

    Why do you have to pay for daycare if he doesn't work? He won't look after the kids either? Geez.


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    Quote Originally Posted by robotron View Post
    I'm working off a mini laptop, it can't handle the encoder/hd. I can't afford a new laptop at the moment though. I do have a mygirlfund and I love it, but money is inconsistent there for me.

    My husband isn't working, everything is on my shoulders...he's "looking" for a job but this job hunt has been about a year in the making and I'm sick of the exuses...I'll definately check out webcams.com..PS do most strippers give "extras"?...my husband is convinced of this but I'm not.
    If you did not have kids together I would tell him to pack his bags. But since there are children involved this is a whole situation is more complex.

    I was recently involved with a man who lost his job and ran out of unemployment. The unemployment office gives you a % of what you made for x number of weeks until you find a job. It runs out after a certain time period of being unemployed. My ex had 3 months of unemployment after he lost his job. He was being a bum living off his parents and expecting hand outs from friends. I eventually got too embarrassed of him and let him go. On New Year's eve a friend of his took us out and literally spent $100 on my BF's drinks. I would not let his friend spend a dime on me and I was so ashamed that my BF would let his friend spend like that. He did not have a car so every few days he would beg me to drive him 30 minutes to his dad's house to get money. I remember the first time we went there and his father was saying that I have such a nice car and asking me if my parents bought it for me. I told him that my mother is poor and my father is dead, and that I bought the car for myself brand new from the dealership and paid it off in 3 years. He then started telling his son that he should be more like me and pay for his own stuff. His father really did like me. His mom did too once she found out that I am not a bum like her son.

    Since you have children together you really need to pressure him to find work. Even a few hundred every second week helps with food, bills, etc. My mother is an unemployed contractor right now (she does home renos and construction) because of her health. Yet every day she gets on craigslist and finds something to do. Some weeks she only ends up working 2 days, other weeks she works 6 days. She will help people paint their houses, clean up, evestroughs, etc. She just cannot commit to a job working daily for say 6 months because of her drs appointments, etc. My point is that there is work out there even if it is odd jobs. Any work is work and as my dad used to tell me "cash is king". Even if he could clean a house and bring in $60 that is better then nothing. Especially when you have mouths to feed.




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    You don't need a new job love, you need a new man! Sheesh, he sounds charming : /


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    Default Re: Camming "career" up in flames :{

    LOL fuck your husband. Sorry to be harsh but jesus.

    He cannot EVER tell you how you earn your money or what you do with it, if YOU are the one making it when he isn't putting anything on the table. If you can't get camming off the ground (crossing my fingers for you!) then you go strip - and fuck him, ban his ass in RL and serve him divorce papers.

    Now that I got that out of the way. Make clips out the asssss. Since the computer you have right now can't work for the encoder on SM - make like 15 clips a day. Do fetishes. Sell them everywhere! Clips4Sale, ExtraLunchMoney, ClipVia, MyGirlFund, Adultwork, etc. until you can get a computer for SM. I know Xpeeps is good for some girls.

    Honestly, stripping is quick money - if you need it now, or super near future then I'd go out and land a job at a strip club today. Sometimes passive income takes a bit to build income from it. Even starting on a new camsite can be rough.

    Personally if I was in your situation I'd go strip, pull in $500/night at least and it would probably be less stressful than trying to scrape up money from several different websites. IMHO, someone can correct me if I'm wrong, I don't strip.

    Good luck OP!








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    Quote Originally Posted by OJenni! View Post
    If you did not have kids together I would tell him to pack his bags. But since there are children involved this is a whole situation is more complex.
    If that was me? And my children? I'd would kick his ass out. No fucking way I would let someone treat me like that, tell me how to make my money when he's freeloader, and no way I'd show that to my children - that is not an example of a good motivated person. He may be blood but he sounds like a loser.







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    How about you just go strip anyway, and when he bitches, dare him to divorce you. Then when he doesn't, you'll be able to sit back with your $$$ and say, "Yeah, that's what I thought, dickwad."


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    Quote Originally Posted by HaydenBlue View Post
    If that was me? And my children? I'd would kick his ass out. No fucking way I would let someone treat me like that, tell me how to make my money when he's freeloader, and no way I'd show that to my children - that is not an example of a good motivated person. He may be blood but he sounds like a loser.
    I would like to think that too, but we all know how people look down on this job. Children makes the situation more complicated as being in the "adult business" gives losers like him leverage in custody situations. Yeah he is not a prime example of a man, but really since he is their dad divorcing him could be a nightmare. Whenever you have children involved (even if you are not in the adult biz), leaving/divorcing is that much more difficult.



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    Quote Originally Posted by KimKlass View Post
    How about you just go strip anyway, and when he bitches, dare him to divorce you. Then when he doesn't, you'll be able to sit back with your $$$ and say, "Yeah, that's what I thought, dickwad."
    lmao, sounds about right. I feel soo much better, thank you guys for the much needed pep talk... :] I think I'll strip until I'm averaging better hourly on cam and can atleast afford what I need to make decent money again (better laptop, second webcam, new outfits, etc) and have a place of our own!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smurfette View Post
    ^^ LOL, he threatens he's gonna divorce YOU? He should be the one getting served with papers, not you. Tell him he better find his ass a job fast if he doesn't want you stripping. Putting food on the table is more important than catering to his poor manbaby jealousy issues.

    Why do you have to pay for daycare if he doesn't work? He won't look after the kids either? Geez.
    Holy crap! He is not working and you pay for daycare!

    I can't believe the nerve. I really hope something changes for the better soon. He should be doing housework and taking care of the children if he isn't working and you are.


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    Quote Originally Posted by robotron View Post
    PS do most strippers give "extras"?...my husband is convinced of this but I'm not.
    Actually, extras are rather the exception in most areas. I had danced for almost two years b4 I got pregnant and switch to camming. You really need to have a long talk with your man. Also, why the hell can't he take care of his children and instead virtually making you pay extra for daycare? Does he even know to change diapers?!





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    As a former child of divorce, I'd like to say...never stay together for the kids if there is a real issue in your marriage/relationship. Kids just need a happy, stable home whether it's with one parent or two. Money= stability, opportunities, proper care=well-adjusted, happy, healthy kids. I do agree sex work and custody battles seems like a dangerous mix, but there's got to be a way around that.


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    OP, does your man use the word "bb" a lot? He sounds like a freeloading bb-offender.

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    Divorce you????!!!! Where the fuck is he going? he ain't got no job! As far as I'm concerned u wear the pants... If he threatens you again tell him to sit his ass down. Also if he can't work he can watch the kids, girl don't give him an option.


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    i know u changed ur name already on mfc, but why dont u try changing it again? edit ur profile so it looks different too and 'start over'. have u tried adultwork? i make a bit on there from direct cam, but i dont use it much because im quite popular at mfc so i dont bother.... but you can set your rates ect on adultwork.com

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    Wow your husband sounds like a serious fucking loser. Looks like it's time for a "separation". I agree tell him he better get a job or you're getting a divorce. Ugg the nerve of that guy. And you're paying for day care when this fucker is home all day?

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    Sounds like he's very down about his situation and feeling very insecure, it's a hard place to rise up from but if you start stripping and he really doesn't like it that could be the incentive he needs. You do need to do what you can to bring in enough money, and he's just going to have to deal with that if he can't/won't change the financial situation himself.
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    Robotron, I'm so sorry to hear that you are in such a stressful situation. I was in a VERY similar situation a year ago with my ex, except luckily there were no children involved. Even so, I can totally relate to wanting to appease your partner and still having the obligation of making an income, and how difficult it is when those two desires clash. While I don't want to bash on your husband, I agree that he doesn't really have the right to dictate how you earn money when you are the sole provider for the family.

    I absolutely believe that you can go back to making good money as a webcam model, but after an extended break (plus name changes) it can take some time. But I promise you, if you are consistent on cam you WILL be making what you were making before. I also took a month and a half long break recently, this is only my third week back but literally every day I am getting closer and closer to earning what I once was. I know you can do it, too. It's disheartening when you used to make so much and now you are making so little comparatively, you feel like you will never be successful again, but if you can afford to put the hours in you will see your hourly rise up sooner than you think. For me, when I left xpeeps in April I was in the top 10 making an excellent hourly. When I came back I was all the way on the third page and was seeing hardly any traffic at first, as a lot of my regs have moved on. For the first couple of weeks back I was literally making around $8/hour and was afraid I'd never do better than that. But you know, I still stuck it out, and now my hourly is MUCH better (not where it used to be yet, but respectable), and I'm sitting pretty on the fourth row of the homepage. So it CAN happen, it just takes time. Don't give up!

    As far as what sites are good, have you looked into RealTouch Interactive? There's a whole thread on it you may want to check out. They send you the joystick for free if you are an active model. I am only partially registered, as I didn't have enough USB ports to use the joystick, but as of yesterday that problem has been resolved and I plan on completing my resgistration today so that I can start doing dates there. I've been looking at other models' pricing and feedback and as per my calculations, some of these girls are making pretty good money. Like this one girl (she's not even a featured girl) has 47 positive feedback ratings this month, meaning she has done At Least 47 dates this month. Her cheapest date is $25. Assuming the bare minimum numbers here, she would have made just shy of and extra $600 this month- not bad for a program you can run in the background while you cam elsewhere. There's another girl who by my calculations has made a minimum of $630 this month (again, assuming every guy has gotten her cheapest date, which is not likely, she's probably had many more expensive dates). According to her feedback numbers she only averaged around one date per day. It's really not a lot of work, there's no free chat so it's not a huge time commitment at all, but it looks like you can still make a very respectable part time income there on top of what you are already doing just by getting set up and making yourself available.

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    Lmfao " Where the fuck is he going"
    Quote Originally Posted by Ms.Lacey View Post
    Divorce you????!!!! Where the fuck is he going? he ain't got no job! As far as I'm concerned u wear the pants... If he threatens you again tell him to sit his ass down. Also if he can't work he can watch the kids, girl don't give him an option.

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    What Ms Lacey said. And pretty much most of what everybody else said. WTF?!!! Who the fuck does this dude think he is?! And WHY are you stressing about work and daycare and thinking it's okay for him to dictate what you do!? I won't ask why you married him, for all I know he has chocolate flavoured spunk or something. But please know your worth! Freeloaders I have experienced firsthand and they get to me mega. You're a hardworking mother, and you deserve better. Strip and dare him to divorce you. Do you have support from friends/family?

    Sorry if I sound hard on you, I really feel for you, I've been in situations where I've felt taken for granted, nothing anywhere NEAR this bad though and I don't have kids. Don't waste your life with losers though, and I agree this guy is not a good role model for your kids.
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    Hi. I know this is a really old thread, but I found it after just having joined this forum and I have to comment in case your husband still hasn't found a job. You should make your husband join Amazon Mechanical Turk. It's a "micro worker" website that hosts 100s of thousands of "small" jobs, called HITs, that can't be automated. The pay for each job is usually around 1 cent to $1-$2. There are a lot of academic surveys uploaded by universities, transcription jobs, and content farm type writing jobs. It's slave work and he'll make less than minimum wage until he figures out what's what on the site (this can take months), but mturk doesn''t reject anyone and there's no excuse for your husband not to be bringing in anything at all when sites like this exist. He can literally turk in his underwear while watching tv. There's a subreddit, r/hitsworthturkingfor, where "turkers" post better paying HITs as they come up. There are also forums dedicated to finding good HITs and improving efficiency, etc.; the one I'm a member of is called cloudmebaby. Most users on there have gotten to the point where they make minimum wage or more and they share a lot of good tips. Participating in forums will help him get past the learning curve much faster than he would winging it on his own. If he uses the site for a while he'll probably end up on such a forum eventually anyway. When I turk - usually for a few hours/day - I usually make around $15-$30. I've had days when I made $150, but they're rare. Anyways, I usually end up making around $400-$500/mo on there. It's very very little but it's better than nothing and jobs are always available. Hope your situation has improved and you don't need this info, though.

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