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    As the title states, there was a cute girl at the cash register at my local hardware store that I felt was feeling me. So I am the fourth person in line, there are three dudes ahead of me. Dude one was an older gentleman probably in his 70s, second dude was a younger gentleman in his late 20s to early 30s, pretty good looking I gotta say. Third dude was about my age, early to mid 20s (Im 25 btw) and he had the whole hipster looking going on, in my opinion it looked super feminine because his jeans were so tight I could see his leg structure. Anyways the cashier girl, early to mid 20s roughly about 5'3" to 5'5", redhead, fair skin, pretty petite frame, cute little cupid lips and some big eyes (im not talking about her boobs) starts chatting me up. She didnt chat up the other dudes whatsoever but she does so with me. Asking me if I am from around there, what I was doing with the stuff I was buying (wing nuts, lock washers, and some bolts) etc. etc. The whole time she was smiling (seemed very sincere) and it felt as if she was stalling. As in taking her time executing the transaction and as I was signing my receipt she was staring at me with a what I presume was a "Ask em out already!" look. Now I could be misinterpreting all this but I figured I shouldn't discount myself, I dont see myself as a hunk by any sense but I gotta be decent enough. I got a soft yet masculine voice that everyone seems to comment on, they like how I am "out there" with my ideas and unorthodox ways of executing things. I am pretty well versed in many genres from automotive to health to current events and everything in between. Now if your still reading, you guys think I should go back there and chop it up again and this time ask her out? Get her number? Its been a long long time since I have been in the dating/relationship scene (I am 25 and have only had one girlfriend my whole life, 3 years and 9 months was how long we lasted). Just like that LL Cool J song, I need love. I though I could swang and bang solo and while the relaxation assistants help get my rocks off, I realize I need a girl in my life. One to love and cherish, confide in, be proud of and show off, take care and brush her hair and know we are a good pair. So if you guys have some suggestions on how I should go about asking for her number/out, let me know. BTW I will just be myself and not pretend to be anyone else but good idea/plans of approach are appreciated.

    P.S. Here is a photo of me, feel free to rate me from 1-10 (My emotions have no need for lotion, if you feeling me say so, if you aint say so. all good)

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    I am just asking tips/ways of approach from some of you who I assume have been in the dating game. Ive been deprived and therefore have forgotten the laws of attraction. Guess I should say, "Want to grab some lunch with me sometime?" Honestly I would hate to be rejected (who wouldnt?) but damn what have I got to lose? Screw it Im going back in to buy some 10 cent washer and ask her out. Worst comes worst...oh nothing really.

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    yep go ask her out. Just tell her you enjoyed talking to her the other day and wanted to know if she'd be down to get something to eat or something of that sort. She'll probably be turned on by your confidence !
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    Default Re: Cute girl at the cash register flirting? Need advice please.

    The girl works in customer service, of course she's smiling and nice to you. She was most likely "staring" at you while you were signing the receipt because you had been staring at her the whole time you were waiting in line or because, you know, what else is there to look at than the customer she is serving.

    I urge you not to go back into her place of work to ask her out or get her number. Having been in her shoes, it's an awkward situation to put her in, regardless of her interest level in you. If she likes you, she doesn't want to get in trouble for giving out her number at work to customers. If she doesn't, she has to deal with the awkwardness of rejecting you while still being a nice cashier.

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    Thanks for the input guys, initial reply was reassuring. Second one...not so much lol. Well I dunno, its not like I can find her outside of work and plus if I did thats stalker status.

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    Default Re: Cute girl at the cash register flirting? Need advice please.

    Ok I'll go middle of the road on this one. Keep going in to buy stuff for a while. Like a month or more. Then if you feel she's really flirting every time you go in , then ask her out. It will be so obvious she likes you others will be watching you two talk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherryblossomsinspring View Post
    Ok I'll go middle of the road on this one. Keep going in to buy stuff for a while. Like a month or more. Then if you feel she's really flirting every time you go in , then ask her out. It will be so obvious she likes you others will be watching you two talk.
    Hmmm food for thought, thank you I appreciate the input.

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    i mean the worst that can happen is she'll say something like "I have a boyfriend" and that's that. Just go for it. I guess that kind of boldness is hot to me. I worked in customer service as a hostess and if someone I found attractive asked me out at my hostess stand i'd be down lol. I sure didn't flirt with every customer
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    Dude... waste no time. Go back and ask her out. I agree with LaurenAus... Just be straight up, tell her you enjoyed talking to her, and ask her to lunch or something during the daytime that is "safe."

    What's the worst thing that can happen? She tells you no? She looks at you like you are crazy? She laughs?... even if it's all three... you smile and you leave. Sure it'll bruise the ego, but you seem like a good guy so it would be her loss. Bottom line tho, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

    And frankly... the way you describe this chick... if you don't ask her out, well then, the next time I'm in northern CA... I WILL LOL

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    I say go ask her to lunch or dinner, if I see something I like, I go after it. If she says she has a BF, chalk it up to lucky guy he is & don't look back, no biggie.

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    I'm a little concerned you were checking out the competition in line so closely, you made note of the hipster's "leg structure". Lol j/k

    Go back through her line again. Buy something car related. If she asks about your ride, you will have a reason to chat back and advance the conversation. Take a risk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LaurenAus View Post
    i mean the worst that can happen is she'll say something like "I have a boyfriend" and that's that. Just go for it. I guess that kind of boldness is hot to me. I worked in customer service as a hostess and if someone I found attractive asked me out at my hostess stand i'd be down lol. I sure didn't flirt with every customer
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    Dude... waste no time. Go back and ask her out. I agree with LaurenAus... Just be straight up, tell her you enjoyed talking to her, and ask her to lunch or something during the daytime that is "safe."

    What's the worst thing that can happen? She tells you no? She looks at you like you are crazy? She laughs?... even if it's all three... you smile and you leave. Sure it'll bruise the ego, but you seem like a good guy so it would be her loss. Bottom line tho, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

    And frankly... the way you describe this chick... if you don't ask her out, well then, the next time I'm in northern CA... I WILL LOL
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    I say go ask her to lunch or dinner, if I see something I like, I go after it. If she says she has a BF, chalk it up to lucky guy he is & don't look back, no biggie.
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    I'm a little concerned you were checking out the competition in line so closely, you made note of the hipster's "leg structure". Lol j/k

    Go back through her line again. Buy something car related. If she asks about your ride, you will have a reason to chat back and advance the conversation. Take a risk.
    True that, nothing to lose really and truly.

    Yes sir, time is of the essence. Daytime hours are good, lunch sounds good. And once again, true typed (not spoken) words. Lol I dont blame you, she is a cutie.

    Yes indeed, thank you.

    LOL well I try to be as observant as possible at all times. Not just with people but my environment as well. Gotta practice that situation awareness, it wont hurt things and can most certainly help.

    Good idea with the automotive related product purchase. Maybe she will dig my hair dresser car...errr I mean roadster. The Miata on the left is my baby, Porsche on the right belongs to a friend.

    P.S. This photo was taken in front of the hardware store on the day of the event. :p

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    I would respectfully suggest that you are way too far up in your head about this. And that can work against you.

    Girls may like guys who look good and drive nice cars. But they don't like guys who worry a lot about how they look, or are too concerned about the status of their ride.

    That lack of confidence can kill your chances.

    So FWIW my advice is to dial down your mental soundtrack by about 100 dB and just be yourself. You seem like a nice enough guy and if you let that come through, you'll be fine.

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    You're getting way too ahead of yourself. It's kind of in her job description to be sincere and friendly. She really wasn't showing you any special attention. If you're not afraid of rejection, then ask her out, but don't be surprised if she says no. I'm just being honest.

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    go in and buy a washer.

    that being said, i feel you might be a little too on the self conscious side as well. try to tone down the assurance you need on your looks and car and just go with the flow, if she's into you, great, if not, you have a washer.

    no disrespect intended.

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    Default Re: Cute girl at the cash register flirting? Need advice please.

    Thanks guys, much respect for the responses. And yes I am pretty self conscious (appearance wise) no doubt. As for the car and its status, its a Mazda not a Lambo lol. I was just emphasizing thats its controversial (ie. the stigma of the Miata) and girls find it cute so its like a chick magnet. Never land a chick that just likes you for your car, that will never work out.

    As shallow as this sounds if I did have a Lamborghini/Ferrari id be all over the ladies using that to my advantage...then again thats more of a sugar daddy relationship. I am fully aware of the exchange there. Im just a regular dude out here trying to function and get myself a down to earth chick for a long fulfilling relationship.

    P.S. That washer wont fit in my tiny car.

    *Update*

    I went back to the hardware store today to no avail.
    Ill try back next week on thursday during the same time frame.

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    I think you're overthinking it as well, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't ask her out. I do know she can't say yes unless you give her the chance too!

    I'll share a story with you. Back when I was a bit younger and taking BART every day I used to see a girl get on and off at the same stop as me daily. I was about 20, taking a semester off school to work, making more money than I had ever seen and brimming with... confidence? Who knows, but one day I timed it just right to exit the station and walk with her. I chatted her up, found out she was a lawyer, and... well I have to be telling you this because its a success story right? Nope, shot me down. Well, I'm still alive and nothing bad came of it and I wasn't left wondering. I have a story, she has a story, end of story.

    You could also slow play it like others suggest, just don't get crazy and start inventing elaborate situations in your head or ways to figure her out. I wouldn't go into any dating situation thinking long term at the beginning either. Good luck, keep us posted.

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    Couldn't read all the responses because the new stripperweb forum is really awful and refuses to fully load 80% of the time.
    I suggest you go back, buy something, if she seems keen, just ask her if she has a break coming up soon and maybe you can have a coffee together. If she is interested she will give you a time to meet or some contact details. If not she will find all sorts of excuses that she has to work until midnight and get straight home to tend to her sick grandmother.

    Coffee invites are alwasy good for a starting point, they are casual, quick, in neutral territory and easy to escape from or extend depending on how things go.

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    1 Grow Balls.
    2 Use Balls
    3 Ask her out
    4 Expect to be turned down
    5 Ask her out again later (first rejection is probably a test to see if your serious)
    6 Have a plan for your date (drive in circles until arriving at a make out spot is not a good plan)
    7 After date assess if you want to do that again
    8 No? Repeat step one with new girl
    9 Yes, repeat step 6
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    ^^What ArmySgt said.

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    Hey if you are successful in asking her out and you end up tapping that... let us know...

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    Quote Originally Posted by DeltaHouseJay View Post
    Hey if you are successful in asking her out and you end up tapping that... let us know...
    *Update*
    Success!
    Were going on a date this Friday, all worked out. (I couldnt believe it, it truly was being in the right place at the right time)
    Kinda long story, well all that matters is shes giving me a chance.
    Photo(s) to come.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackSheEp3 View Post
    *Update*
    Success!
    Were going on a date this Friday, all worked out. (I couldnt believe it, it truly was being in the right place at the right time)
    Kinda long story, well all that matters is shes giving me a chance.
    Photo(s) to come.
    NICE! Now that's what I'm freakin talking about! I feel like a mentor here lol. I'm still kinda laughing at the advice you got to not approach the girl. Whatevs...

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    ^I told him to wait a month or more and looks like he listened.

    Most of the responses were from women obviously based on the site and they know how it feels to be hit on when they are doing a job. If the woman wasn't interested and said "NO" it could have gotten ugly if she said that to the wrong guy.

    Still he waited for a month + and it worked out. She's giving him a chance.

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    I have a nearly 100% success rate in situations like this. It amazes me how often people of both genders fail to act on an opportunity out of nothing but fear of rejection. As has been said here many times - the worst that could POSSIBLY happen is a no. Your success is indicative that you were paying attention and not wring in noting her interest. Good for you getting the date - should've asked the 1st time instead of posting here.

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