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    Default Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    I find myself in dire financial straits. Being a camming single mom who has her child 24/7 has definitely not been easy (especially with traffic slowing down so much on my main site ) That is pretty much the only reason why I would even put this certain client's wishes up for consideration. For the past couple of weeks, he keeps stopping in my room and offering to spoil me. He keeps sending me messages saying the usual flatteries, along with his phone number if I ever "need anything", even though tell him exchanging contact info is prohibited. When we're in free chat, I try to convince him to spend money on me within the site, but he says he doesn't want to because I wouldn't get my whole cut.

    I'm not stupid. This guy has never bought a show on the site, and, no matter what his reasoning is behind it, that in itself is enough for me to call bullshit. I don't really buy into it, but he acts like he doesn't expect me to. Is this reverse psychology? Since I'm secretly so broke, I figured I would post here and ask what some of you might do in this situation. Is there a way for me to receive money from him in a risk-free way? That would solve several problems, because if he refuses my suggested payment method, I'll know for sure it was bull to begin with.


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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    You could test the waters by getting ahold of him using a skype number, or google voice or something similar and trying to get him to send you an amazon giftcard. If he can't do that, there's no way he is planning on spending money on you.

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    also, if cash is more important, giftrocket giftcards are nice

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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    I wouldn't believe what he's saying especially if he claims to not buy shows there because he's worried about the low percentage you get. If he was serious he could spend money on you within the site to show that he can back up what he says.

    I do have a regular who has been really spoiling me lately. I told him I want to get into photography and he's already bought me over 1000$ of equipment in the last two weeks but him and I have been camming together for almost a year and we've also become friends in that time.

    If it was a new guy who's never spent money on me but wants to exchange numbers and personal info I'd see it as a red flag. My advice would be to tell him to cam with you on site and if he still says no then I'd ignore him. He's probably bouncing from room to room giving the same line to other girls.

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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    If I were you I'd ignore him and try some different sites out instead. I know the idea of being spoiled sounds realllly awesome, but 99% chance if he won't tip or buy shows on the site, he's not for real. He's just one of those wannabe sugar daddies that likes to act like he'll spoil you but he never will.

    I always tell guys like this something like... "why don't you spoil me with a tip first?" or "We can talk about you spoiling me in excl." . 99% of the time...they leave or keep talking shit about how "i wanna take u shopping blah blah blah". If he really had $ to blow and wanted to spoil you, he'd throw down a big tip or take you private. The whole "oh they take a percentage from you" line is used by guys like this all the time and it's almost always BS

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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    Forget about him! He won't even buy ONE show from you because "the site takes a cut" yet he says he wants to spoil you? HAH. I call bullshit. And if he has never bought a show he is not a client, HE'S A FREELOADER LIKE ANY OTHER, he just says "I want to spoil you" instead of "show ass bb".... but he is still wasting your time while you get nothing in return.
    Honestly, he is probably broke and doesn't intend to ever get/give you anything. At this point he has realized his little suggestion has peaked your interest and he just likes that you'll talk to him without him having to spend anything and he will keep it up as long as you let him. If he had been a good spending regular who wanted to find a new method of payment to avoid the sites huge cut I would have a waaay different answer for you because that is totally understandable, but he isn't.

    Here's my suggestion..
    Ignore his ass and don't talk to him again unless it's in paid chat. And DO NOT call him or give him your skype. That's what he wants !!!!!!!!



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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    99.999999% of guys that say they will spoil you, will not even give you a dime. Real spoilers will shower you with tips/tokens/long privates first, without being all talk.

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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    Another stupid excuse I hear from these type of dudes (that claim they want to take care of you, spoil you etc), about not wanting to pay in the cam site, is that their cards will not work there but they will "magically" work on paypal.





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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    i call bullshit because guys who spoil me dont even care if the site takes a cut because money is nothing to them, they do prefer to buy me gifts from my wishlist though, but they always start by tipping me loads without question.

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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    "The site takes a big cut" line is bullshit. If he is sooo rich and wants to spoil you sooo bad, he should just tip you even more to make up for it. It just always sounds to me like they are concerned about the site's cut as a cost to themselves, rather than what you are losing.
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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    This guy is full of shit!!. I get one of these guys every fucking day. The issue with this guy is that he doesn't want to give you anything. He's just talking bullshit to see if you're in dire straights and will take him up on his offer. It's always the guys that really push when you're on a site that information cannot be exchanged. These guys are dangerous because their real goal is being able to control your life. In other words if you call him he can contact the site and state that he's being harassed. The site closes your acct and now you can't make money there. Fuck him! If anything this guy seriously hates cam models.

    I always tell guys like this that if it wasn't for the site, they wouldn't be speaking to me now. If they can't be grateful by paying the site their due share then I have no desire to speak to someone so selfish and greedy. Also if they can't respect the rules of the site and the models that WORK HERE, then they don't have respect for me and what I do here. So after you give a similar speech it makes them look like shit.

    A shorter version would be : I can't trust someone that can't pay into the site they found me on. If they need to do a side deal then it makes them sound devious and shady. So why would I trust someone with my personal information that operates in this manner?

    Bottom line: This person that wants to spoil you is really looking for control. A site that he pays into doesn't allow him to cross boundary lines. If he can get something from you and hold it over your head then he has power. If he can contact you whenever he feels like it then he feels powerful. On a site you log off and he has to wait until you log back on. Some guys feel powerless with the way this works but it keeps them in check from spilling into your personal business.

    There's one guy that's been pushing for over a year and when I didn't log in he started contacting the site asking them if I'm on --- site. lol They site already knows where I work but he wanted to act like he was getting me in trouble by not jumping online when he wanted me to. Backfired on his ass.

    Another guy has a fucking temper tantrum every time I refuse his prying questions . I mean literally goes into meltdown - berserk. His questions are always the same with call me at xxxx or meet me or a combination of both and what's your real name. These men are all over 50 yet they act like they just hit the age of 2. Control , Control, Control no other reason for this behavior.

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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    The guys that spoil me do so. It's not if you do this then I'll do this. There's no deal bullshit. They do what they do because they want to . When you have someone trying to play "give me this and I'll give you that" games, you'll realize fast that's it's never worth the effort and whatever they do end up giving you, they want to be praised like a god. Sorry I'm too dominant to kiss ass like that. Go find someone else to help you get through your need to compensate for you limp dick problems.

    I also noticed that many of these types are used to paying for in person sex. Now these aren't sweet men. They are those bitter types that can't just pay for a service and leave it at that. They want " a discount" or they probably show up without all the required money. To me anyone that makes paying for a service difficult tells me they are in fact DIFFICULT. When these types don't get their way, they will act out in the most childish manner possible. Avoid at all costs.

    Ok they have perpetual buyers remorse. Ego that says I should never have to pay for this bitch yet it's the ugliest guy you can lay eyes on. BAN, BLOCK, KICK!!!!!

    lol sorry for my rant ! I've encountered these guys in surprising numbers on all sites and they get so nasty when they can't get you to cave in.

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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    I'm sorry OP, but the girls are correct. 99% of the time, the guys who claim to want to spoil you just do it. They often don't even ask for anything in return at all. They don't run their mouths and distract you from your show- they just do what they said they were going to do. They don't expect you to bend over backwards or thank them on your knees. They like doing it, go figure lol. So be very, very, wary of a guy like that. And he is even more iffy because he keeps giving you personal info and stuff. Just stay away from him. If he magically pops up and starts spending, cool. But otherwise, you don't owe him shit for his "promises".

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    +1 on the REAL 'spoil' customers being low maintenance. They have alot of $$$$, so they don't feel compelled to micro manage ever dollar. On that principle alone the loser cited in the OP is a total fraud.

    Everyone here has already written awesome posts, but I just gotta add one thing. One of the most important things I've learned in camming is that the most valuable commodity we have is our attention. Not pussy, not tits, not our asses, not even whatever words we say. Attention. This guy is getting what he wants for free, and he knows he's doing it at the expense of you, OP; a chica who's struggling slightly right now. That makes him an asshole as well as a fraud.

    Next time you encounter a guy like this...and you will, we ALL will, simply state your approved payment methods. End of conversation. What he chooses to do with that boundary is up to him. Trying to convince guys to pay onsite is giving them the attention they crave. For free

    Don't give guys what they want until they earn it. Your time and attention has a value, so please don't sell it short or give it away for free on the promises of brokeass internet fools.

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    Real guys who want to spoil step up with $$$ right from the start. If you say take me private to talk, they do. Anyone else is just a pretender getting his rocks off discussing spoiling you. Don't even acknowledge these guys, they are a waste. As lovehooks said our attention is our most valuable commodity, particularly with these kinds of guys.
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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Vlodina View Post
    "The site takes a big cut" line is bullshit. If he is sooo rich and wants to spoil you sooo bad, he should just tip you even more to make up for it. It just always sounds to me like they are concerned about the site's cut as a cost to themselves, rather than what you are losing.
    This ^


    Also I have this regular that comes into my chat every single day I'm online.
    I've been ill since last night but hey, bills have to be paid.

    By the time he came into my room (paid chat only) I apologised and said I had to log off because I was feeling too ill to sit behind my pc let alone entertain people.
    He asked if I had a busy week with custies and said it was okay. He then tipped me 150 euro and said "Please take the weekend off go lay on the sofa or in bed and watch some chick flicks, I'll come back when you're feeling better again.

    When I'm all better again I'm going to take a personlised sexy picture for him to send to his account to thank him since he spoils me a lot.

    But I would never give him my bank account number, phone number or whatever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by moonjade6 View Post
    I try to convince him to spend money on me within the site, but he says he doesn't want to because I wouldn't get my whole cut.
    I give him points for being original, I haven't heard that one before...but I agree with the others, it's total bullshit I'm afraid. Guys try as many ways as they can to get us to take payment off the site and get our personal details.

    I had a client in December who he came through a couple of times on AW...he told me that he sensed money was tight and he wanted to help me, he could tell I was a spiritual person and said that this was the Universe's way of giving back to me...each session he chatted with me on the phone and on cam, giving me time to have my pleasure first before him and he spent 200 credits on me each time. Totally giving all the way and asking nothing from me.
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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    oh he is just taking advantage of you.. it's like emotional blackmail or something.. he thinks if he stands out from the crowd of cam customers you might give more special attention. He is probably broker than you. BTW I feel your pain.. I raised 2 kids by myself doing cam... One I never received child support for.. I am still supporting those two kids and still camming 7 days a week.. In my case nothing changed for me the last 12 yrs.. Now I am still supporting the oldest and my younger one went to go live with dad so now i am paying child support for one and fully supporting the other one. So I have had many moments and met lots of generous clients who would send me hundreds to help me out. But they bought shows and proved themselves...

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    I agree its probably bs. But there are always exceptions to the rules so who knows. I once had a guy in my free chat all the time who was very sweet but claimed he couldnt tip or go prvt cause his card would let him buy credits for whatever reason and I was just like yeah right, but he wasnt annoying me and he kept the chat going so I didnt ban him and after a few months I jotted down his personal email he kept spamming me with and sent him a casual message from a disposable yahoo mail I made up asking him to go buy a green dot money pack card and send me the numbers off the back if he was sincere in wanting to send me something for all the months he spent watching me in free and not tipping, and he did. So I turned him from a non paying on site freeloader to paying skype customer. He still comes and sees me on site and when he wants a show we go to skype.

    I would tell your guy its nice he wants to spoil you but 100% of 0 is ZERO. so tip something or gtfo.

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    Default Re: Have you ever let a client "spoil" you?

    I had one of these guys, turned into great big nightmare. Avoid like the plague!

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