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ive always been told on this site, at work, by coworkers etc to draw the line, leave your persona behind when you walk out the door. i dont want to go home to my great man or even mediocre man and charge him for listening, smiling, cooking and sex?
have we forgotten where to draw the line? my personal life is my personal life and i dont want my job to take away from the few things i find pleasurable.
okay i know most of this above rant has to do with promiscuous women but whatever makes them happy. if sleeping around made me happy [and it has in the past] then i would do it. or if i wanted to make money having sex i would become an escort. simple. i think the issue here is that some women are not very selective with who they sleep with and its their problem. if you arent attracted to the person, not dating, dont feel like it, then dont have sex. no one is forcing you. instead of wishing for compensation for casual/unattractive/unskilled sex partners, how about be selective and dont sleep with everyone. if you only sleep with the men you find attractive, who treats you nice and quite frankly you wanna fuck him, do it. theyre worth waiting for. i would much rather keep my legs closed and wait for someone who can really get me off than have sex several times a week with several different partners.
escorting is fine, i have no problem with it, but its not for everyone. lets not be condescending and judgemental towards the women who want to have sex without any financial compensation. i almost feel like im in a minority here because i dont expect anything other than [depending on the person and relationship] mutual trust, respect, chemistry and pleasure.
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Are you speaking from experience? Or, are you throwing in cutesy mindless one-syllabic one-liners because you don't have anything intelligent or worthwhile to contribute to this debate? Perhaps, with your 1,000 posts and your membership on this board since 2007, you would be willing to enlighten us?![]()
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Uhhh... my philosophy comment wasn't directed at you and Lovelyme's little spinoff thread. Rather, it was directed at the OP... You know, because her thread is about the broader ideas here, not you and Lovely's battling POVs concerning the escort industry. The OP's problems originated when she read the words of a scholar on feminism/anti-feminism, so this thread is probably more about philosophy and its applications than much else.
When you call people "sweetie," it comes off as condescending, whether it's meant to or not.
I don't think this thread was just for people in the escort community. It's not called "Women who get paid for sex, do you think women should get paid for sex?" Rather, the OP was having a personal internal debate and wanted some opinions. I think that Thinks! referring to one documentary as his source for his argument is foolish because, as I said, documentaries generally come at subjects from one angle. Largely, any media coverage of the escort industry shows it in a negative light. Thus, my response wasn't so much an attempt to claim I have a broad understanding of your niche in the sex industry as it was to say that I could say an agency does the same things Think says it does but in a positive way.





SECONDED!
everything.
especially the doco thing. from my past experience in studying documentary making in depth in my film studies course several evidences and exercises point to the fact that documentaries are usually already biased because you are being presented something 'real' to justify the filmmakers passion and point of view. thats why so many documentaries on the same subject can be so different in presentation of opinion. think of it as debating or essay writing.
also the sweetie thing bugs me too can you stop that kthnx
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Hey op SlutGoddess we discussed this before. Your question about "should" women get paid for sex doesn't really make sense to me because you said you did get paid for sex before through escorting. So why would you question this now like you're unsure of how this all works. Our back in forth in that post was mainly because you commented on something I said almost a year ago. Like you resurrected the thread. Here was what we discussed a few months back.....
Here was my quote post back in 05/2011 : AND HERE'S YOURS: 04/2012
THEN I SAID:
THEN YOU SAID: THEN i SAID : THEN YOU SAID:
THEN I SAID: I ALSO ADDED : Now what I'm trying to figure out is why do you care what some women some where thinks? If you want to give your ass away then do it. No one is going to hold you back. If you want to get paid like you have in the past then do that too. But "should women get paid for sex" is like saying " should women get paid to cam?" , "should women get paid to strip?". It's an industry job that you've done yourself so I don't get the confusion in your post.
Desire is not what you want, but what you imagine--Paulo Coehlo.





i was gonna say this thread makes me wanna turn lesbian, but because of the multitude of pink responders being condescending and quite frankly talking out of their ass, where do i sign up to be asexual? i wonder if charlie would date me...
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^You only referenced the documentary as your source for that opinion. If you've been in the field doing research on escorts for a decade, my apologies. However, yes, I think that taking a documentary for fact is foolish, but stating that opinion isn't a personal insult. Not sure why you're turning this thread into something so personal, but have at it.




This is coming from a guy that said all escorts are pimped/managed and that we come from low class families. YOU have no respect for sex workers in general - period. Puzzling - I don't understand what it is you are doing here. I mean you are so much better than us.
Now you are whining because you have made a fool out of yourself. Think, you can't watch a documentary or two and say the things you said. You should go back and read what you wrote to me. You clearly have been misinformed which is why I called you "ignorant".
I haven't read through this thread, but to respond to the OP- I have sex when I want with who I want and whether or not I get paid for it is nobody's business, but I will say that I've had plenty of random stranger sex for free and had a great fucking time. Anyone, man or woman, who wants to tell me I'm a "fool" for doing it a certain way and should be doing it another way can fuck off.
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This is turning into a Théâtre de l'absurde. Quote me in any of posts where I state "all escorts are pimped/managed."
Second, you have little or no understanding of the sociological concept of "social class" I am using otherwise you would not be making such accusatory comments. Again, quote me where I use the term "low class families." The fact is, you have an agenda. You are unable to engage in a meaningful dialogue and it is pointless for me continue this conversation. Read bell hooks for a change.
Desire is not what you want, but what you imagine--Paulo Coehlo.





I think a woman should do whatever they want with their sexuality. Who cares what someone else thinks? If you want to give it away, fine. If you want to charge for it, great, and that should be legal.
It's your body and your will. Do whatever you want with it, no shame nor recriminations.

I agree with Camille. I have had sex for lots of $$$ on occasion. I think because I require a deep connection (and skill) to cum makes this easier. By nature I am extremely sexual, but discriminating. Probably the opposite of promiscuous.
What I have learned from my past boyfriends is that I need to look out for number 1. My mentality used to be that all the knowledge I have gained to manipulate for monetary purposes were to be used strictly on men in the club, and I refused to play games with men I dated/cared for. I would drop my guard completely. This in turn made me discover that I had grouped men into two categories and spliced my behavior, I was a very vulnerable yet predatory woman! The contradiction in my life left me so confused; I was powerful at work, weak at home. After leaving these relationships, the men had no clue what I had sacrificed for them. Money, time, power.. I submitted to them, thinking this is correct behavior because society taught me this was correct. Dancing was grouped into being "bad", sweet complying girlfriend was "good".
I no longer yearn for a relationship, I yearn for independence. In retrospect if I had not had these relationships I wouldn't be able to base Camille's theory off of them. I truly do believe a man needs to put in work and effort to have sex. To prove himself worthy, that in the future you can compromise/sacrifice because he truly cares. Until then it's fuck you pay me. although I do not sleep around, if I like a man, it can be easy to get me in bed. Not anymore. I'm fine with fucking myself until I TRUST someone enough to have sex.
As for women who need sex, then by all means have fun. I wouldn't agree with Camille that they are "promiscuous fools", but if every woman adopted this theory we would be a lot more rich





First off, asking such a question on a website for sex workers and their customers is going to generate a predictable response. Secondly, every activity one engages in provides to them some benefit, whether it be financial, emotional, or even imaginary. If no other benefit is perceived, one ought to get paid for what they are engaging in. This is not limited strictly to situations sexual in nature. I'd say it applies across the board.
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If you're in your twenties and aren't a liberal, you have no heart. If you're in you're forties and aren't a conservative, you have no brain - Winston Churchill





As a guy who counts several sex workers among some of his best and oldest friends I've spent many years listening to and being a sounding board for women who have had to contend with both the public image of what they do for a living and, more importantly, their self-image. The reality is that you can't live your life, no matter what you do for a living, to please someone else. Not your family, not your spouse or BF and most certainly not a total stranger who makes a living by espousing controversial opinions.
Camille Paglia is entitled to her opinion on what other people do with their lives-just as we all are... but, you know what they say about opinions right? This thread proves that you can pose the question to a dozen different people and get a dozen different answers. Some of the responses will resonate with you, some will piss you off, some will be pure gobbledegook and a few will leave you scratching your head with their irrelevance. In the end, you have to decide what works for you. Assimilate what you read or hear from others and talk about it with people you trust and who's opinions you respect but make your decidions based on what works for you, not for others.
I'm not, by the way, saying that this is easy but you have to be true to yourself. Living life "by the book" so to speak rarely works out. Remember the old expression: Life is what happens to you while you were making other plans.
long thread lol....
Ill keep this very short.
No mater how you think of sex.. as a need or pleasure, if a woman wants to offer it for money, she should have all the rights to.
Every other need and pleasure, in this universe is SOLD for money.
Need for food , pleasure for good food ( $50 small plate of food anyone?)
Need for transportation, pleasure for comfortable, luxury transportation.($20 K cars anyone?)
Need for sleep, pleasure for comfortable, better sleep ( $3k mattresses anyone?).
And so on......
If people cant see this, they;re PHONY!!!/ OR its due to cultural upbringing. Period.
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Most women who screw around, it seems to me, look down on escorts merely because the laws says it's illegal. That's their basic problem with it, even if they deny that specific reason; if it were not for that, many of them would be charging too, and relationships would probably be more honest.
I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.
Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.
NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.




This argument has been posed before in milder form as “Should stay-at-home-moms be paid?” (Or ‘calculating a value for their work’.) So just add sex to the mix of other tasks performed – cleaning, cooking, getting the kids ready for school, driving them to their activities, etc.)
Ultimately it comes down to finding a partner with the same sexual appetite as your own.
Not many wives would be as cool with hiring a prostitute as they would be hiring a house cleaner to do an unpleasant task… (Although there are a few that would say go ahead "It's less wear and tear on me"...)
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