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    Default Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    I would post this in the camming section, but SW must think only women cam. Funny.

    Was browsing reddit when I stumbled upon this:


    So... which one of you is it? Would any of you 'mind' playing the role of his dead daughter or would it be too weird? I couldn't imagine doing it if it was his son who'd died.

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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    Oh dear.... Whatever makes people feel better, I guess.
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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    Odd, but since it was non sexual I can see it as therapeutic.

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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    Maybe this is completely off-topic, but my favorite part was the discussion about how shitty it is that she charged him for that, and somebody made a comment about how she didn't have to because camgirls can go into a private show without charging... hmmm... really? Must've missed that feature. Every site I've been on, I have no power over initiating privates or when the site starts charging them... durr durr durrr

    On a more serious note, I'm glad he found an outlet. Maybe it was a bit of an odd outlet, but where else could he find a girl who looked exactly like his dead daughter who would be willing to roleplay that for him? I don't know if I could ever do it myself though... it would completely kill my mojo and I'd have to be done for the day.
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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    A bit odd... Only a little bit...

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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    I was going to log out when I noticed some "receipt of funds" type emails from a cam model website and I couldn't help but click on them and see he had bought 200 dollars worth of tokens. I then saw an email from a cam model comfirming a private show with him for a half hour from now.

    I had signed up for the site once to be able to chat with a few of the models and knew they had a "peephole" feature where if you payed you could "spy" on private shows. Models can disable this option but she hadn't and I couldn't resist, logged in and gave them my credit card information and went into peephole mode in her room.

    "I could hear my bosses voice through her audio asking "how is heaven "Jenny?" "I miss you so much!""
    Tokens, email from the model for a booked show at a specific time, and a peephole feature that allows audio? The details of this site sound like no camsite Ive been on or heard of.

    Anyone else trying to figure out what site this even is?





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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    To break it down for cam models:

    -$200 worth of tokens (so that is the value of time, not gold or credits or dollars, "tokens" specifically)
    -Confirming start of a show at a specific time that isnt immediate
    -Immediate billing prior to a show happening
    -Peephole or "spy" feature
    -Peephole feature is optional
    -Peephole feature allows audio of the model
    -Peephole feature allows audio of the customer

    .....Uhhhhh what site could this even be? Id guess it is a common one if this employee had a pre-existing account





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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    Oh like his audio was playing through her speakers so it echoed, sorry didnt get that. Asides from that the details dont sound familiar at all, idk what site that could even be.

    Sudden and violent death of a loved one is an absolute mindfuck. Closure is a really hard part of grief. So whatever gives him relief.

    The original commenter was a huge asshole for sitting reading someone elses emails in the first place and even going beyond it - but not surprised at the tone of most of the comments.


    .....Moral of the story? I hope his boss changed his pswd.





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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    More upsetting is not that the Boss would seek out a Camgirl to act as his deceased daughter. I can see the need for closure there. That someone as trusted as the employee would then go on to share that experience with the World Wide Web. Does no one understand the obligation it is to be placed in someones trust, anymore?

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    @Roast, I'm guessing a smaller site that has both a 'voyeur' feature and uses 'tokens'. Alot of smaller sites seem to piggyback on the ideas of the big three (mfc/sm/cams) so it's probably one of myriad small/lower-traffic sites that don't immediately spring to mind.

    Regarding the 'pre-booking' part of the story, that's not necessarily a feature of the site...when I did big box camming I tried to schedule as many shows as possible beforehand. It's not a guarantee the guy will show up, but it was a way for me to make sure it would be worth my while to log in on a busy day or evening. Since the arrangement was made through the chica's site email system, they were probably corresponding to arrange a date and time to get together.

    The 'hearing the voice of his boss' thing is tricky....I can't think of any site which uses customer audio in any form of group/voyeur chat mode. I figure either the chica was talking to the boss through speaker-phone (allowing the redditor to hear his voice through the chica's audio) or he slightly embellished the story and the boss was actually typing. Assuming this is a true story, I mean. Who knows?

    I find the reddit comments amusing too. Many actual psychotherapists don't require much in the way of formal training, yet it's considered acceptable that they charge for their work. If the boss got something out of his cam show experiences (he was clearly a return client), then they obviously had a value to him. The chica was doing her job, meeting the needs of a customer as he defined them. Ethically, I see no problem with the chica charging for her show (assuming she even had an option not to charge him for private one-on-one time). If I gave free shows to every guy I actually liked who just needed to talk about something going on in his life my lifestyle and financial goals would be severely constrained and I wouldn't have to time to meet my other responsibilities. Just because I also sell sex doesn't mean that I'm obligated to cater to the non-sexual needs of people for free. I'd never ask anyone to make a choice that negatively impacts their own life for my benefit, and none of my guys would expect that I'd be open to it either.

    Also, what the commentators on this story don't understand is that the transactional nature of this interaction probably also catered to what the boss needed and desired. A space where he could talk about something private and personal in accordance with his own needs without being required to do the same (be the cam chica's therapist, sounding board) in exchange. Further, he could act out his need for closure without ever having to interact with this chica in any other environment. That's often a part of 'closure' for many people, and is part of the theraputic value of divulging personal experiences within an environment that is fairly anonymous and circumscribed in nature.

    The morality policing of sex work also extends to when it's acceptable to charge, apparently. In ways that don't apply to other 'caring' professions such as nursing, therapy, and education. Sure, there are formal education requirments for many such occupations, but some of the work done by individuals within these fields arises from innate human capacity for listening, compassion, warmth and comfort. Some guys (many guys, actually, as every cam chica knows) want that comfort from a hot woman in a sexualized environment. What's the problem?

    I agree, the only ethical lapse here was on the part of the employee. His behaviour in intruding on an obviously private and painful moment was despicable.
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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    To answer your question - personally, I dont get many emotional requests in general, Im not very GND. But even if I were asked, I wouldnt have done it, but only if I was aware of what was even going on? Which isnt even common on cam to begin with.

    You cam, so you mustve done (both sexual and nonsexual) roleplays with a micromanaged scripts or youre called by a certain name where the context isnt 100% clear in general or at least until the end. I think abruptly ending it once you realized what it is about (in this instance) probably would be more socially acceptable in the mainstream, but probably wouldve fucked him up.

    Just from a "preserving your mind" perspective - personally, I wouldve ended it midway if I caught onto what was going on, and banned him from re-entering out of concern that he'd eventually want a more sexual show - even if there was no likelihood he would have ever done that. But that is probably a really dark way of interpreting his intent and is probably way more brutal for him to abruptly cutoff communication - doubt that'd assist his mourning process.

    We're not licensed therapists - there isnt like a camgirls best practices handbook or something, but people use nontherapists for therapy all the time. Even if she was or wasnt aware - just going along with it was probably the more compassionate choice?

    But basically I hope Im not in this dilemma but I really doubt itd be explained to me why he wants to do it beforehand. I see nothing wrong with her doing it though?

    I dont think by mainstream ethics there is anyway the camgirl could win in this scenario.... which is usually how nonsexworking people squabble about if and why sex workers charge to begin with. Not everyone seeks out sex workers just for sex, basically this story is probably more of a shock for anyone not in the industry





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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    ^ Yes, that's right.

    There are some aspects to the reddit story as written that do strike me as embellishment. But writers will often defend this as crucial to conveying the message.

    What saddens me above all is the implied social shock at a sex worker providing non-sexual comfort. As you note, people use non-therapists for therapy all the time.

    Yet it's also a universal truth that men have long sought out sex workers for non-sexual comfort and counsel, a practice that extends not only into many ancient cultures but also contemporary ones, and in many cases is pursued solely in a non-sexual way.

    It was perhaps too much to ask that the gospels actually outright state that Mary Magdalene was the driving force in the relationship with the historical Jesus. But her presence is so powerful and central to the crucifixion and resurrection story that you could hardly come to any other conclusion.

    Anyway, the fact that this is a surprise at all reminds me once again that we live in a very young country in the U.S. that continues to struggle with this ancient and puritanical concept of sexuality as some sort of necessary -- and universally pervasive -- evil that automatically "contaminates" every interaction.

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    I can definitely understand the client going to a cam model for something like this; most models get weird requests all the time. Models train themselves to be able to handle a lot. I'm glad he got the closure he needed after the sudden death of such a close family member. It's rather lucky for him that he found a girl whose physical aspects fit, AND was compassionate enough to do it.



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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    This is the kind of twisted stuff that I live for. I would have totally done it!! Of course I'd charge him, no question.

    Ah camming. You seem so interesting, yet are an impossibility for me.

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    Default Re: Redditor tells story of how his boss handled his young daughter's death...

    I've done shows similar (emotional and not compliant with social norms). It's really a different environment when someone is using you to gain closure. It's exhausting. I imagine these people really aren't trying to sit face to face and deal with their emotions with a third party. It's much easier to use fantasy and role play in a setting that is more than just in your head.

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