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    Default How to deal with a broke Capt'n Save a Ho?

    Ok, I need some advice on how to deal with customers who want to talk/text you all the time about how they want to see you and how much they think, miss, and worry about you but when you ask them "Would you like to make an appt?" they have excuses about why they cant (Im assume they cant afford to see me as often as they would like).

    Now usually I just stop responding or am blunt but I would like to keep as many regulars as possible but not have to respond to talk to them every dam day. How do you "Dont contact me unless you want an appt" in the nicest, most flirtatious way as possible?

    Or am I right in dismissing them?

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    Default Re: How to deal with a broke Capt'n Save a Ho?

    I'd tell them that you'd love to see them and talk to them, but you're too busy with work, school, whatever, and that you can't text much. If they want your time, they need to pay for it.

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    Default Re: How to deal with a broke Capt'n Save a Ho?

    After a while, they are hopeless. They shouldn't be called regulars if they aren't paying. Move on. They get off just by you responding. Stop giving them that benefit.
    "Where there is love there is life"-Mahatma Gandhi

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    Default Re: How to deal with a broke Capt'n Save a Ho?

    Tell them you find email to be too impersonal and that you prefer to chat in person.

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    "No money, no honey Mister!"

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    Default Re: How to deal with a broke Capt'n Save a Ho?

    Quote Originally Posted by Obenta View Post
    Tell them you find email to be too impersonal and that you prefer to chat in person.
    They will probably think I want to see them for free. lol

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    Default Re: How to deal with a broke Capt'n Save a Ho?

    I understand escorting is different than camming in a mumber of ways, but we encounter those guys as well.

    Assuming I'm on track with your "I just want to talk" guys being similar to cam customers, I'd establish a new boundary...the phone is for booking appointments only. As far as texts, I'd say hello/how's it going and within my second or third message in the back-and-forth back I'd ask if they want to book a date. If not, say it was cool to hear from them and you hope you see them soon.

    If the guy learns to expect that every time he contacts you he'll be asked if he wants to book time, he'll become less likely to hit you up every damn day and you'll teach your guys to respect your time. I'm assuming you have more to do in your day than hang around chatting, even if you wanted to, and your guys need to learn that as well. You deserve to have a life outside of your work, no matter how enjoyable any given customer may or not be.

    If I'm off-base, I apologize for crashing this thread. I'm not as escort and I understand there's probably huge differences between the two customer sets. The reason I'm writing was that developing boundaries with my regulars was a learning curve I struggled with in the beginning, but once I started I was shocked at how easy it was to establish what was acceptable to me in a warm way that didn't alienate me from my guys. Once I established what I was and wasn't ok with, I was surprised at how most of my guys were totally willing to adjust their behaviour to meet my needs. The ones that weren't, well...I wasn't prepared to do what I'd need to in order to keep them.

    I hope what I wrote helps.
    peace and $$$$$$

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    Default Re: How to deal with a broke Capt'n Save a Ho?

    Quote Originally Posted by ItsSamyall View Post
    They will probably think I want to see them for free. lol
    Then you say, "What day and time would you like an appointment?"

    If they don't get the message after that, don't respond at any longer.

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    Default Re: How to deal with a broke Capt'n Save a Ho?

    I'm not an escort either but I will agree with cam customers we do encounter this as well. I used to be all chatty bubbly and sweet and started realizing my time wasn't being valued. I just annoy them every time they contact me with " do you want a show". It's like a tuning fork training every time they contact you as loveshooks put it , they will know you'll ask them " do you want to book". Some will get it and book for your attention others will get pissed off and say something stupid like" can't I just say hi", "you just want my money" etc. It's their problem not yours. So if they want a free girlfriend they can go out there and look for one. Your time is too valuable to waste on someone not paying for it.

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    Default Re: How to deal with a broke Capt'n Save a Ho?

    Quote Originally Posted by kikiwiki View Post
    After a while, they are hopeless. They shouldn't be called regulars if they aren't paying. Move on. They get off just by you responding. Stop giving them that benefit.
    Best answer yet.

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    Default Re: How to deal with a broke Capt'n Save a Ho?

    time = money

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