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    Default Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    I have noticed that it is much easier for me to have conversations with men over women. I wonder if this is something that has resulted from years of stripping, which is why I have asked it here--or if maybe this is just an innate personality defect? I really don't have a 'before' to compare to, so though I want to assume that this is from stripping I just don't know, lol.

    When talking to women, I am tense. I can feel myself being tense. I'm sure my body language would also reflect this, lol. It is soooo difficult for me too attempt to maintain eye contact with women. Also, I can't ever keep the conversation going. I don't ask the right questions, I don't have the right answers--its like my mind just goes blank. With men on the other hand it is like this switch in my brain goes off and I suddenly feel at ease and can keep the conversation going forever. Ultimately while talking to men I feel that I am in control of myself in the situation. It has happened twice now that I will initially meet the husband and we will have such an engaging, entertaining conversation that he will want to befriend me (and my family--and vice versa) but when I meet the wife I just completely make an absolute fool of myself, lol.


    In your opinion, do you find it easier or harder to talk to the opposite sex?

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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    It depends...I don't have a lot of female friends out of the industry because I have few things in common with them. If I'm talking to my work buddies we can yap all night.

    Usually when I talk to men they're busy looking somewhere else.
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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    ^lol! I can see that happening^^

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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    outside of the strip club yes, I definitely feel awkward around women but other strippers not at all. Still overall, guys are my fav

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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    Good thread not sure why it's gone quiet.

    I've actually switched since dancing. I used to get along easier with guys but now outside the club I find it easier to get chatting with new girls, if they're girly anyway, and feel a bit awkward with men. I suppose from putting on 'the act' at work all the time and finding something distasteful about most customers...

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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    ^ that makes perfect sense to me. I *think* that it would be relieving to talk to women, but when it comes time to put it into action i can't! Lol.

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    its hard for me to relate to non-strippers. my female housemate and her friends n i were hanging out and i was like really this is what i used to sound like pre-stripper? "he said hi what does that mean" 'omg i walked into this bar and TWO guys bought me drinks omg' 'are my boobs too small am i too fat my boobs are too small arent they thats why he didnt txt me back' BLEEERRGGHHH

    so if im in a situation where im out and talking to people its usually the guys. theyre just easier to carry on a conversation with as long as they dont use any of the 1000 questions i hate [mostly questions about my background or misinformation about stripping]. if they do im gone. also coz im so used to talking to guys for work i feel more at ease around them. but i never really related to women so i dont know. i prefer to talk to female strippers lol. i tend to like to gossip about men/love lifes etc and female strippers are just more informed.
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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    i find it easier to interact with men better in general, but in a non work setting, i interact with women fine anyways. at work i get along with my co workers EXTREMELY well (almost oddly well)--i've never had any problems or drama in the whole year i've been at my club when there is always at least one fight or argument or drama thing going on. but as far as CUSTOMERS at work, its SO hard for me to hustle women who are there, whether they are lesbians or girlfriends of a man there. its just so hard to pretend like i'm into/sexually attracted to someone who i would NEVER be. yeah, some guys are fat and ugly and old and stinky or whatever, but there is absolutely NO HOPE for me faking it with a woman. lol.

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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    I'm the exact same way you are. I have female friends but I do the same thing around them, trouble maintaining eye contact and my mind always goes blank and I don't feel like I can let loose around women like I do men, its like I feel more comfortable being just around men. I don't like going on women only outings either, I don't enjoy them at all cause OI just feel tense but if I go on a mixed outing I usually have a lot of fun hanging with the boys.

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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    I think men are much easier to talk to. I used to have almost all male friends, and I liked it a lot. I could joke with them more, for example. I have a varied sense of humor, from very dry, to witty/sarcastic, to dirty. While my guy friends could sit with me all night and make jokes about anything, even each other, females always seemed more interested in directing the jokes at someone, either a girl in the group or a mutual friend/acquaintance, and they were rarely without a bite to them. I can more often get along with females if I have had a few drinks and we're in an all-female group, but I only have one semi-close female friend. Even when I am dragged along to meet my sister's friends, the females don't really speak to me, whereas I can strike up a conversation with any of the males pretty easily.

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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    Men. I don't trust women. Every woman in my life has let me down or fucked me over in some way shape or form. Conversely, I've never been treated badly or abused by a man. I've had customers say shitty things to me obviously, and some TRY to grab me... but A) I don't see them as real men and B) I've never been attacked or had one succeed.

    As far as interacting with women, I'm never shy, or nervous or anything... I'm just very aloof and chilly with them, or ignore them entirely.

    I am positive a lot of the distrust for women comes from being abused to a very shocking level by my mother.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DaisyD View Post
    I'm the exact same way you are. I have female friends but I do the same thing around them, trouble maintaining eye contact and my mind always goes blank and I don't feel like I can let loose around women like I do men, its like I feel more comfortable being just around men. I don't like going on women only outings either, I don't enjoy them at all cause OI just feel tense but if I go on a mixed outing I usually have a lot of fun hanging with the boys.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Men. I don't trust women. Every woman in my life has let me down or fucked me over in some way shape or form. Conversely, I've never been treated badly or abused by a man. I've had customers say shitty things to me obviously, and some TRY to grab me... but A) I don't see them as real men and B) I've never been attacked or had one succeed.

    As far as interacting with women, I'm never shy, or nervous or anything... I'm just very aloof and chilly with them, or ignore them entirely.

    I am positive a lot of the distrust for women comes from being abused to a very shocking level by my mother.
    I know it doesn't change the past, but i really am sorry that your mother was abusive. Maternal abuse shocks, pisses me off and confuses me all at the same time.

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    I know you! ...I think... lol
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    ^ lol, i dont blame you. You try to tell the truth about clubs out there (and the truth isnt awful or anything, just that the clubs are dives and you arent going to make 500 bucks a night) and people call it "talking shit". Wtf.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MyButter View Post
    ^ lol, i dont blame you. You try to tell the truth about clubs out there (and the truth isnt awful or anything, just that the clubs are dives and you arent going to make 500 bucks a night) and people call it "talking shit". Wtf.
    Exactly. That is why I changed my account again and didn't want it known who I was because of people talking but you know what, I'll reveal myself, I have nothing to hide from cause I really did nothing wrong but speak the truth and I don't care what people out here say about it.

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    ^ RIGHT?! Omg my Nook wont let me PM right now but I feel you on that!

    Eta: I always thought your info on Guam was great, btw!
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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    Its easy for me to interact with women at work..Outside not so much....I am a very defensive person though so its hard for people to warm up to me bc I keep them at a distance...

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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    Both/neither.

    Thanks to stripping, I suppose, I am able to make upbeat conversation with anyone and people always describe me socially as enthusiastic and friendly. Yet I never feel like I connect with anyone, I have two or three close friends and that is it, like zero acquaintances or fringe friends. So I can easily interact with both but I can easily connect with neither.

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    Default Re: Do you find it easier to interact with men vs. women?

    when it comes to girls, only strippers. they're not intimidated by me and we just have way more in common. In general, I do like hanging out with guys more cause it's usually more fun. I'm silly and guys are too.

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    I'm so glad I found this thread... I thought I was the only one who had a hard time talking to other females! I know that for me, I've felt this way long before I started stripping. I just feel like women are much more critical, and when it comes to men in 'real life' (outside of work) I almost never try to impress them, if they're interested in me, cool, if not, I keep it moving, but when girls don't like me I'm much more disappointed. As a result, most of my friends have always been guys which almost always becomes a problem over time because a girlfriend/mother/random chick will be convinced we're having sex.

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    I find it a lot easier to talk to other strippers than just everyday women. Most of the time when they're talking I just have no clue what they're yapping about. It's not good.

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    It's so easy to talk to men because it's so easy to talk to someone who is imagining you naked, intoxicated on the smell of your hair, etc. You can say pretty much anything to a guy and he may not even hear you because his mind is busy elsewhere. maybe he is thinking, "Oh yeah, I really have a chance with her, I think she likes me."

    Versus...

    What another woman is thinking when you talk to her... "She is such a slut, where did she get that purse?" "It has to be fake!" "I bet her tits are fake too!" Competition and jealousy versus someone who wants in your pants. Naturally it's easier to talk to men.

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    I find it hard to talk to both. I can, because I can fake it really well. With men I am constantly thinking about what kind of guy they'd be in a strip club, and I just can't stand most men. With women, it's just hard to talk about my life without revealing I dance, and it's hard to connect.
    I hang out with a lot of gay men mostly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lifetravelergirl View Post
    You can say pretty much anything to a guy and he may not even hear you because his mind is busy elsewhere. maybe he is thinking, "Oh yeah, I really have a chance with her, I think she likes me."
    ^^This. I find it so much easier to talk to men because that is soooo true! I don't feel self conscious talking with them, because ime they're (most of the time) still going to like me no matter what I say. With women, I typically either just get annoyed by the stupid things they talk about, or I like them at first, but assume that later they'll be judging me or talking shit behind my back based off something I said (and therefore, I tend to avoid saying too much.)

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