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    Default Im holding the door open for you! Say thank you god damn it!!!

    how many times did u hold the door open for someone to enter or exit a store and they did not say thank you?
    it happens to me SO many times, Im ready to beat someone up one day because of this...
    Is this really annoying to you as well, or Im being too sensitive about it?
    Its one of those little things that can ruin my day!!! LOL

    How do u deal with this?
    did any of u blow up on someone because they did not say thank u and how did they react to your reaction?

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    Default Re: Im holding the door open for you! Say thank you god damn it!!!

    I hate this. When I am in front of someone I always hold the door. Likewise when someone holds the door for me I ALWAYS say thank you. That's how I was raised, to always say please and thank you.

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    I always hold doors and sometimes I get stuck holding it for multiple people--lots! I get upset when they don't say thank you. Especially when men pass through and don't take it for me. I just had a drink at the pool. It was ten dollars and I tipped five. The server didn't acknowledge me at all. I overtip a lot and think I need to mellow down with all nice gestures. They drive me crazy eventually.

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    No good deed goes unpunished.
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    I used to worry about this but a good friend of mine explained to me that when you always expect something, then it rarely happens and you should do things just becuase you can. karma will take care of them, and if you think thats all BS look what their simple non thanks has done, sent you into a right ragee. even now they are controlling your emotions, imagine that, and the thing is they probably dont even care.......

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    Default Re: Im holding the door open for you! Say thank you god damn it!!!

    I always hold the door for people. If a woman is approaching (e.g. parking lot), I'll even stand there and wait. Almost everyone acknowledges with a thank you but on the rare occasion that someone ignores me completely, I'll just say, "you're welcome" right at the back of their head and walk away (usually around them).

    I had a girlfriend who loved that I always opened her car door for her and would reward me with a kiss when I got in the driver's side. I went on a blind date two weekends ago and the woman didn't acknowledge the gesture once (I opened her door six times). No big deal, and I didn't give a sarcastic "you're welcome"... it just showed me the type of person she was.
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    I ALWAYS hold the door open if I know someone is behind me. I loved it when they smile and say thanks, but it doesn't happen all the time.
    The best is when little boys hold the door open for in front of their parents. It's so sweet to see what a little gentleman he is becoming, and the proud parents are adorable as well!
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    I no longer bother to be bothered. Rather, I now think of it as something special when they DO acknowledge it, lol.

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    Default Re: Im holding the door open for you! Say thank you god damn it!!!

    I never hold the door open for people unless the person is really old or a kid, but I say always "thank you" when someone holds it open for me.

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    Default Re: Im holding the door open for you! Say thank you god damn it!!!

    Honestly I don't even notice if people say thank you or not. I hold doors open or whatever because i treat people the way i would like to be treated, it's just how i operate. I sure as hell don't do things for the praise. I'm not a dumb puppy dog.

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    Default Re: Im holding the door open for you! Say thank you god damn it!!!

    every single time, no matter who it is or where i am, when this happens i yell- "You're fucking welcome!"

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    Default Re: Im holding the door open for you! Say thank you god damn it!!!

    In all honesty, i don't realize whether or not they ever say thank you. It's not one of those things i pay attention to.

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    Default Re: Im holding the door open for you! Say thank you god damn it!!!

    Okay, there may be a reason they didn't say thank you just so you know.

    When I didn't have a voice for months & months (although I was in bed most of the time, I still had to grocery shop and do errands), I encountered some of the RUDEST people who THREW A FIT when I didn't say thank you or whatever else that required me to verbally respond. One guy even verbally assaulted me as I pointed to my throat, shook my head, and walked away, and continued to follow me down the isles of Target screaming at me for "being an entitled bitch" (LOL wut?). I remember being depressed and thinking how having a voice is like not having a limb. But it wasn't my fault. And I never let judgmental or assuming negative comments from people bother me.

    Yeah yeah respect, common courtesy blah blah, but sometimes there is a reason why people don't always do these things. So things like that don't bother me.

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    Default Re: Im holding the door open for you! Say thank you god damn it!!!

    ^ But they could look you in the eyes and smile right?

    I have been known to say "you're welcome" (makes me giggle to hear I'm not the only one) for the most part I don't get too frustrated. It usually achieves nothing but annoyed feelings for me.

    I do however Death stare people who don't offer their seat to someone who needs it more (unless I am dying I will offer mine), I have been known to ask people to move so someone else can sit down.
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    Some people are just fucking rude and that's it. They were not raised with manners. So yes some people will walk right through and keep on walking. To me it's one of the most disrespectful things you can do when someone is being extra polite. They don't have to hold the door open for you but they decided to take an extra minute out of their day to help you minimize some extra strain. The very least you can do is say thank you or at least nod with a smile. I've had people not even know the damn language and say thank you in their native tongue wtf is wrong with the rest of these selfish fucks?

    When someone does it for me, I'm so pleased that I say thank you more than once and I'm smiling because it's like someone saying" we are not all selfish bastards in the world" I do appreciate human kindness. If we all were like that there wouldn't be so many problems in this world.

    But no you selfish bitch strutting through like you own half the continent. Fuck you and bam!! Yup shit hit you in the face!! Now what..
    Pay it forward or Pay attention!<--you choose.

    Simple decency and kindness really does make my day. I especially love shopping around the holidays. Yes you get a few assholes but they are assholes all year round. However everyone is usually extra fucking special. I mean people holding doors.. It's lovely. I always go out of my way to help others, I wouldn't feel right if I didn't. I've seen people struggle holding shit and said " ooh do you need help". It's just common fucking decency. I remember hearing on the news that random strangers were paying off other people's holiday gifts that were on layaway. Just going in picking up some items and asking for a few names and dropping bills on gifts for other people who are less fortunate. That's what I'm talking about!! No need for praise , they just did it anonymously.

    You see someone struggling to pay some groceries .. dig deep..... I remember going to the store to buy something and leaving money in my car. So I told the checker I'd be right back and someone paid for my shit. I was like wait where are they?? I was running after them with money in my hand but they refused lol it was funny. The person was laughing getting away from me from giving them the money.lol... The scene was so funny to watch that other people were busting out. That one act of kindness put a smile on my face and so many others. It's the simplest thing in the world to do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Flickdreams View Post
    ^ But they could look you in the eyes and smile right?

    I have been known to say "you're welcome" (makes me giggle to hear I'm not the only one) for the most part I don't get too frustrated. It usually achieves nothing but annoyed feelings for me.

    I do however Death stare people who don't offer their seat to someone who needs it more (unless I am dying I will offer mine), I have been known to ask people to move so someone else can sit down.
    No I could not smile or move my mouth for at least 2 of those months. I even cried whenever I had to eat bc it hurt. My lymph nodes (in my throat) were swollen to the size of golf balls, my throat was bruised and purple so I wore a scarf that covered my throat and usually a hood over my head. It hurt really bad to make any movement (including smile) or attempt to talk, and I didn't want to take oxycontin and drive in the same time period.


    Also, when it comes to seating I wouldn't let that get to you either. People with lupus, arthritis, parkinsons, MS, and a bunch of other neurological or suspected neurological disorders may need the seat. And that could be someone of any age or gender and you probably could never even tell they had it unless they told you. Symptoms are really easy to hide- especially with medication. But on the inside if feels like you're dying and you may be unable to stand for long (or even short) periods of time. And the pain alone can be nearly unbearable if you're not on something like oxycontin but outsiders would have no idea.


    Going through all that for so long induced like an existential crisis for me because I was judged on a daily basis by people that *expected* me to do certain things (talk to them, say thank you, give up my seat on the bus, go to birthday parties when i physically couldn't get out of bed, etc.), even though I physically couldn't. I didn't look sick to an outsider bc I hid it well, but the people really close to me saw how sick I was. For a long time I tried to hide from most ppl that I was sick, but all the people close to me saw what was happening and then jumped to ignorant conclusions like OMG YOU CLEARLY HAVE AIDS OR CANCER (I can't tell you how many times I heard that), so I just decided to come clean to EVERYONE to get them to STFU, and then of course a quarter of those people were like "you're too negative for focusing on the illness so of course you're sick!!!" or thought it was like an attention ploy or something so then I realized FUCK IT you can't win them all, I'll tell who I want what I want, and I'm not telling strangers anything.

    It made me realize that the people who judge others for *not* doing what they think others should be doing, are just as bad or worse than the people they think are rude for not doing those things. You shouldn't judge a person til you walk in their shoes, but most people are too close-minded to take a minute to even think about what could be inside those other shoes. That's my experience.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DesuvsDeath View Post
    ^It's not about the praise... it's the lack of recognition that someone is going out of their way to do something that they don't HAVE to do for you.
    I feel like these are the same type of people who would ask you to drive them around all day running errands because their car broke down and not even offer a thanks or recognize that you're doing something nice for them that you don't have to be doing.
    Oh no I don't disagree wit you that some people are rude and ignorant. Ignorant people are usually clueless about their ignorance and pointing it out to them is a total waste of time.
    Been there done that and I've had so called frinds get me to jump through hoops or run them around etc and then get all shitty the one day I decide not to be their personal slave. But knowing people are like that is exactly why I don't expect praise, if i do something for someone now it's because I want to and it makes me feel good. I don't need validation from a stranger that I'm a good and considerate person.
    The problem with expecting a thanks or acknowlegement and it doesn't come and you get all shitty and bitter and hating on humanity. Even worse is when you get all shitty about it and then find out that there was a reason you didn't get a thanks (they were severely depressed, their vice was gone as mentioned etc) then you can triple that feeling of shittiness just from doing a deed and expecting a thanks.

    By the way I always thank people for doing things for me, even my husband who opens my car door and he's been doing that for 15 years. I can't say there has never been a time when I haven't. I'm only human after all.

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    I don't really notice door holding but I get irritated when I let people in traffic and they don't waive lol


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    I always hold the door for people. I think mostly it's because the way I dress ( bit unconventional) and the fact that I usually have crazy hair (mega long extensions and different colours) makes people expect a certain thing of me. I get followed around shops, (especially the more expensive ones)by staff as I think they think I'm going to shoplift, and I get funny looks and I kind of like busting the opinion that unconventional looking people are impolite and unfriendly.
    It's also yes the way I was brought up. I do more acts of politeness for the elderly or infirm (eg a wheelchair user , I will hold the door open until they're fully through) and if I'm at the Doctor's or something and an elderly person wants to sit down I will give up my seat. I USUALLY get thanked. It's weird, I am often taken aback if I hold the door open for a chavvy or scruffy looking person and I get thanks, or if a chavvy person holds the door for me-I tend to thank and smile a bit more vividly if I don't expect a thanks!
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    The worst thing about holding doors open is calculating how far the other person is, and how long it would take you standing there holding it before it gets awkward. I'd say around ten steps is the limit; I'm not gonna just stand there caressing the door waiting for slow people to catch up, unless they're elderly. It's just as bad when someone does it for me; I feel an obligation to speed up just so they don't have to stand there for a long time.

    Quote Originally Posted by babylovexxx View Post
    I don't really notice door holding but I get irritated when I let people in traffic and they don't waive lol
    Maybe they waived their right to wave.

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    Well, don't do it if you expect anything in return. I help others, it doesn't matter if they don't say anything. I am not doing to get feedback or make me feel better..
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    UGH! It happens all the time in Cleveland (I'm not a native)! People will slam the door in my damn face if I'm behing them, or just look at me with bewilderment and quickly walk away if I hold the door open for them!

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    Yeah it's pretty rude but I don't really get bothered by it. Now, I feel like someone I know held a door for a lady and she was a crazy-feminist type and found the act quite sexist! Sheesh!

    And people up here say london is unfriendly but I see many more acts of kindess there- offering seats on the tube, helping carry things. Some guy carried my heavy bike up a flight of steps when I tried to take a stupid shortcut. And another down on another shortcut haha :S I swell with pride when my bf rushes to help some lady carry her suitcases or pushchair up some stairs

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    Default Re: Im holding the door open for you! Say thank you god damn it!!!

    I have some weird door holding code of courtesy, not sure where I picked it up from but basically...

    If a lady is holding the door, I will say thanks, but "take the door" so to speak, so that she can walk on.
    If it is a guy, I will say thanks as I walk through, unless he'd been standing there while people just walked on,
    then I would take the door, sometimes they insist on holding it for me, other times they will say thanks in return,
    one guy told me he really appreciated it cause he was starting to feel like the doorman

    When Im holding the door, I stand partially inside and hold the door open from behind me...
    I expect anyone coming through to "take the door" from me...because of how Im positioned, usually they will...
    If they dont take it, or esp not even look at me to acknowledge Im there holding the door for them, Ill just let go.

    Now if its someone Im dating...well, okay with my ex bf, I didnt acknowledge every single time he did a gentlemanly thing with a thanks
    Otherwise, wed never have a real conversation and Id be saying thank you all day .

    But when I would get "thank you" happy...like saying it all the time after something he did for me
    He would tell me, awe of course you dont have to thank me, of course I would do this for you.
    But he would do it too...like in the course of half an hour, we would thank each other 10 times a piece.

    Instead, we told each other all the time that we appreciated the things we did for each other,
    or say we were lucky to have each other etc hard to feel underappreciated when you hear that everyday
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