i don't think we've had a discussion on this in awhile...hope i'm not repeating things unnecessarily.
how do you feel about limits? there seem to be a few different philosophies on big box camsites...there are the top girls who basically do vanilla, no anal or squirting, etc. there are the girls who do everything under the sun (anal, gaping, ass to mouth, squirting, shooting rainbows out of their ass, etc.), sometimes ALL in a 5 minute gold show. in chatzy the other day we were talking about heel fucking as a limit...as in, no fucking way am i tearing up my vagina with something unsanitary just to get this asshole off.
i'm not so much curious about what your limits are (well, i kind of am), as much as...how did you arrive at the limits you have? how do you balance offering a wide variety of things to interest different types of customers with saying no to things because they make you uncomfortable/it's too much of a hassle/etc.? do you find limits empowering?
personally i have a lot of limits...and i love having the freedom to have limits. but sometimes i get tired of turning away/pissing off customers. it's empowering sometimes though. i absolutely hate gagging - i find it triggering and degrading - so i don't do it. i stopped doing anal with toys except during long gold shows because it's just not worth the hassle for a typical private or exclusive. i don't use huge toys or a lot of different toys because i'm allergic to a lot of things so i stick to small or average-sized glass. i do shoot rainbows out of my ass, but only in 2+hr exclusives, bbthere are a lot of things i'll do in real life with someone i care about - like deepthroating or anal - that i just hate doing on cam or with toys, so i don't. one of the things i appreciate about limits is that...it creates an environment with a customer where they have to acknowledge in some sense that i am not a robot - that i won't do things i'm not comfortable with. for example, i've stopped faking squirting...and i have guys who will pay to stay a few minutes longer and see me cum for real because they prefer that. sometimes they're asshats about it and rate me a 1 because they get into private and demand gagging/deepthroating when my profile clearly states i don't - but sometimes they're pretty sweet and respectful about it.
but at the same time, i do get a lot of requests for a few of the things i have limits about (especially anal and gagging). it makes me wonder how girls who offer everything handle it. or how girls who offer fewer fetishes or don't do hardcore/pussy fucking shows handle it (because i'd be totally destitute if i didn't do hardcore shows - that's where i make most of my money). but if i were deepthroating 10 inch silicone dildos and making my ass gape all day long, this job would so not be worth it to me. i don't think there's anything wrong with that - i love that some people can make that their niche - but i find it really interesting how people end up in different niches based on limits/fetishes.
i think that's the point at which i personally draw the line - there are some things that you just cannot pay me $5/min to do. i'd seriously rather work in food service than do a lot of apparently common fetishes on cam. thank god for the freedom to say no!



there are a lot of things i'll do in real life with someone i care about - like deepthroating or anal - that i just hate doing on cam or with toys, so i don't. one of the things i appreciate about limits is that...it creates an environment with a customer where they have to acknowledge in some sense that i am not a robot - that i won't do things i'm not comfortable with. for example, i've stopped faking squirting...and i have guys who will pay to stay a few minutes longer and see me cum for real because they prefer that. sometimes they're asshats about it and rate me a 1 because they get into private and demand gagging/deepthroating when my profile clearly states i don't - but sometimes they're pretty sweet and respectful about it.
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you put into words some stuff i had trouble verbalizing...especially separating work/personal life, why it's empowering, and how anxiety plays into it. for me i have so much anxiety around certain sex acts that i'm really not comfortable doing them unless it's with someone i'm very close to...and even then, sometimes i still get anxious. (plus just straight up social anxiety on top of it.) it's just not worth it to spend the time working in a high-anxiety state.







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