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    Does anyone else that does any indy camming start to feel drained from just trying to get new customers? I don't know why, it just seems like ALL of the guys who even find me, approach me online and want to chat about life and everything else and I'll chat a little but not much. I don't be mean and say, hey, you need to pay me or we aren't talking, but it still just drains me down. And it also drains me down when I get no responses from efforts I make to promote myself and material.

    I just had one try to turn things around on me, I'll copy and paste it, actually...here ya go:

    me: oh what would you like to try that is different and fun
    him: i dont want to sound like every other guy but maybe i can watch you have your fun, but id also like to do anything i can do for you to have a good time too, wondering if i can do anything for you
    me: lol as long as you would be paying for the session we could do anything...i like to do cam to cam, most men do but some dont lol
    him:: i can understand some men, some might be like me that are just a bit nervious but i dont want to be one of thouse guys that get a show and leave, i think you need to see something to know that your turning a guy on, anything special you wanna see for your fun to make you hav a good time, ill try to do it?
    me: I'm not really sure what you mean lol
    me: I don't do cams unless I'm doing shows
    him: ill buy the show but id love to know what you would like too see lik if it was the otherway around, maybe can be someone you can remember and have one of the best time with, id like to be one of thouse guys

    Let me just say that I feel like jumping through my yahoo and punching the man in the face atm...
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    Default Re: The Indy drain...

    Indy is HARD work! But you have to hang in there. If a guy contacts you and wants to chit chat- you have to be a little mean, cause if youre not and you just let them talk about bullshit they will never go away. They will drain you down and you will end up getting frustrated and giving up. So be tough. Your time is money. Its no different then kicking a freeloader from your chat room. They are in your space, taking up your time.

    The guy in the chat above seemed like he was trying to make some sort of emotional connection with you.. wanted to be 'special'. Give you an experience you would enjoy as well... Meh. I dunno. He could turn out to be a good long term customer or turn into a pain in the ass leech (oh baby we had such a good time how bout we play for free since you enjoyed it so much last time) you just never know.

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    I feel you , those "I wanna be special guys" annoy me too. Like sure I have fun doing shows but I really don't like the guys that keep asking "what do you wanna see etc" because I don't get turned on with c2c..it does nothing for me to watch a guy jerk off or stare at me. So unless it's a sub that will dress up or stick things in his ass lol, it's not interesting to me.

    Anyway, with that guy I would've just had him buy the show, then made up something I "wanted to see". Something simple, him getting naked, stroke your cock slow/fast, use some oil/lube. If he kept pushing me to tell him what I want before buying the show then I would nicely but firmly tell him that we can start the fun once he buys a show. Don't be afraid to be a little mean, they know damn well that you aren't on yahoo to chat all day for free.

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    yeah he totally seemed like he was either trying to get me to actually fall for him or get a freebie out of me. I feel more like he was trying to get a freebie lol
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    He may have been just wanting you to type out what you want to see so he could get off on that. I get quite a few guys who want me to talk explicitly about sexual topics; I tell them that I can't give away ALL the details for free! I try to be teasing and playful about it. Usually when a guy IMs me and asks what I'm doing, I'll tell him I'm setting up shows for the night; would he like to schedule a show with me? I dunno if my directness is hurting me, but I'm not about to sit and chat for twenty minutes for free when I could be doing some work.



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    yeah...that is what I told him too...and then he was like well okay I'll pay for a session...and then he said he wanted the session to just be us talking, no sex, to get to know me...which was fine with me. but then he had to do something, i had to also eventually, and we never touched base. Needless to say, I don't think I even want to touch base with him again. It won't be worth the money and effort to deal with the guy. He doesn't get it, I'm a cam girl. I'm not there to talk for hours and hours and fall in love. LMAO
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    If I get upset, I just think about bubbles then go blow some...nothing makes me happier than watching beautiful, innocently fragile spheres float through the air then die. LOL!

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    To me it sounds like all he wanted was to have you watch him for free. You may not have to "do" anything cause he just wanted you to enjoy the show, haha! Of course what it's really saying is watch me wank off to your attention for free. Exhibitionist.

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    This is the main reason I haven't gone back to independent shows. Too many guys wanting it free or taking up my time for nothing. It's easier to just go on a big box site and get guys who actually will pay.


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    Oh god, I m so sick of indy sites!!!!!! I ve been forgetting to log in most of the time lately cause they are DEAD, camwealth seems to be ignoring girls, they r not getting paid, I heard the guy from xxxcambabes it s gone too..... not sure what s going on there.
    I m on virtualxgirls and I think i ve only got a PAYING customer, only one, in like a yr.... they all wanna do paypal or get free shows.. it s a waste of time...
    I started working at indy listing sites last yr and it was alright but this yr it went DEAD, really slow, almost pointless to log in.
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    sounds like he just genuinely wanted u to break his c2c virginity and he was a little nervous about what he was supposed to do for you? i guess he justed want to hear u say "bb just sit there and stroke" or something. i could be wrong though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by melanielive View Post
    Oh god, I m so sick of indy sites!!!!!! I ve been forgetting to log in most of the time lately cause they are DEAD, camwealth seems to be ignoring girls, they r not getting paid, I heard the guy from xxxcambabes it s gone too..... not sure what s going on there.
    I m on virtualxgirls and I think i ve only got a PAYING customer, only one, in like a yr.... they all wanna do paypal or get free shows.. it s a waste of time...
    I started working at indy listing sites last yr and it was alright but this yr it went DEAD, really slow, almost pointless to log in.
    It wasn't until I got listed on VirtualXGirls that I got my first indy customer. I'd done Skype shows before, but with guys who found me on Chaturbate and ended up taking me off-site (I get more money that way; I'm game). I set up a show with a guy (don't remember where he found me) a few nights ago, but he never showed, so after half an hour I logged into my free chat. His loss. Before that, I never had a show. I'd be logged into Yahoo during the day to set up shows (unavailable for shows, as my Yahoo status ALWAYS said, and my schedule was on my bios!), but everyone who contacted me in that time wanted it RIGHT THEN, no scheduling, and when I told them I couldn't, they'd either try and get me to cyber-sex chat with them, or they'd just stop responding. When I was logged in during my available hours, all the guys wanted a domme (again, I have it stated on ALL my bios that I'm NOT a domme). >.<

    So VirtualXgirls has, with its one show, been my highest success. Of course, I've been too drained to log in the past couple of days. I'm sick of being let down by guys who can't read.



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    DO u girls get a lot of guys who don t speak or read English on those sites?? ( camwealth , well it s closing now, xxxcambabes, virtualxgirls, etc), I get a bunch of them, " Cam bb, open cam, and they try to see my cam like 3 times, I end up blocking them lol, it s like talking to a wall ha ha
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    Finally got set up on xxxcambabes, and nothing. Not one show. Its been a week and nothing. Ive been listed on Virtualxgirls and I get lots of im's but not one show. I have billing in place and no one wants to use it. Had a guy saying he would give me a amazon giftcard for $15. WTF? Who are the girls that are accepting this?(Rhetorical) And the paypal request I cant even begin....



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    I'm listed on VirtualXGirls as well and have gotten a few shows from there, so I'm not going to complain. But I do get quite a few IMs from guys that don't want to book because they seem to think I like wasting my time on non-spenders. I usually only chat for 2 or 3 minutes, then send them the link to my page on VXG and remind them that time is money for me. They either go book a show or leave me alone. I've only had one guy I've had to block, and that was because EVERY single time I was logged in, he would hit me up, trying to get me to turn on my cam for him for free, so he could see what he was getting. I finally had had enough of him, and just told him he had 5 minutes to go book or show or STFU and GTFO. He left me alone, but I blocked him just to make sure.

    I don't stress about it, I enjoy indy camming, and working on AW, since neither requires free video chat.

    And as for the gift cards, I only have ONE person I allow to send me gift cards and even he has to ask beforehand. It's been pretty nice to use them to buy things for our new house. But like I said, he's the only one I allow to do that, and he's someone who has religiously bought seriously long shows with me for the last year. I get asked, but I usually tell them that's a privilege they have to earn LOL
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