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    So, I saw this guy over a year ago and marked his date-check profile as "not reccomended" because he kept asking for BBFS and kept trying to get me to "swallow his load" (sorry so graphic lol don't know how else to say it and it's something I don't do). Additionally, he ran out with half my donation. Now, over a year later, he is threatening me with a horrible review (I thought their cut off was 3 months?) and a bunch of other stuff. I still have his appointment request so I can prove I saw him over a year ago but I also know TER tends to side with the guy. Any thoughts on this? I'm thinking I'll just take my reccomendation off date-check because I don't need any review bs but it would be nice to hear if anyone else has gone through this...

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    Default Re: Issue with date-check member. Suggestions??

    I say stick to your guns - and plead your case if he writes a bad review - ladies need to stick together and not let the bad customers bully or intimidate their way out of being outed - maybe you can tell him to pay you the money he cheated you out of and you could include that in your review of him that he made good on his wrong - anywho just my two cents - good luck getting it resolved

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    Default Re: Issue with date-check member. Suggestions??

    Wow, that is awful to hear. I cant believe that douche-bag ran out with your money and has the cojones to blackmail YOU? In my mind, when a guy stiffs you for your money after you have "performed your service", that's like rape. I know that sounds dramatic but to me, it is.

    You can call me all the ho's and whores you want. Call me every dirty name under the sun, but dont EVER fuck with my money.

    This is why I dont think I can mess with this review board stuff. I cant imagine a guy trying to blackmail me after he robbed ME! Especially when I know his phone number, address, place of business, etc.

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    Default Re: Issue with date-check member. Suggestions??

    Please don't give into this guy's blackmail. If you do, you are just putting other providers at risk. Plus if he gets you to change the recommendation that may just make him think he can get away with more atrocious behavior with other providers.

    Is this guy threatening you over the phone or through email? If its through email, make sure you save the emails and if necessary you could offer them as "proof" to TER if he submits a bogus review.

    You also may want to consider contacting Date-Check and letting them know about what this guy is doing. Again, if you have "proof" you can provide them with that would help greatly.

    Did you blacklist (ProviderBuzz, VerifyHim, DangerZone etc) this guy after he pushed for BBFS and stole half your fee? That is something to consider and its also something you can use as leverage on him if needed. Once again though, you need to consider the other providers this guy could pull that stuff on. Is keeping that leverage, the threat a blacklisting him, worth perhaps putting other ladies at risk by not just going ahead and doing it.

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    Yeah that's probably best...I texted him back that I'll see what I can do and he said "I guarantee you can change it", which makes me think this isn't the first time he's bullied girls into reccomending him. He's been texting me with all this crap (another reason to go back to e-mail only), but now that I think of it I think his cell # is listed on his date-check profile so maybe I can take pics of the texts with my webcam. Another girl already reported him on providerbuzz with a situation real similar to mine. What's funny is you can make comments on there: I commented that something real similar had happened to me and another "provider" basically commented that we are full of shit and he's a perfect client. That "provider" hasn't written any other alerts on there. Very interesting.
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    Default Re: Issue with date-check member. Suggestions??

    If his number is on his profile, take a screen shot of it, and then take pics of his texts threatening you. See how he gets himself out of that one.

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    Just this week a rob/rape guy attempted to use our agency. - if someone hadn't reported him myself or a coworker could have been in danger. - thank you to all the ladies who take the time to report these pieces of shit - please ladies - report and don't be intimidated - the system gives us power don't let them compromise it

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    Thanks for the advice. I've saved all his texts so if he does end up writing a BS review I'm forwarding them all to the staff @ TER, Date-check, and P411 because he is a serious pain in the ass!!

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    Default Re: Issue with date-check member. Suggestions??

    If you are using a smart phone you should be able to take a screen shot of the texts to better document who they came from. If you just forward them its probably going to strip out the original sender's info. Take screen shots or pics of the texts to document them.

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    Blacklist his ass.
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    Default Re: Issue with date-check member. Suggestions??

    Yes! I second this. The reason he's even doing this in the first place is probably because he wants to see another girl and do the same (or worse) to her - do you really want to be responsible for that?

    I'd even go so far as to beat him to the punch and make his threats known before he makes his nasty review.


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    Default Re: Issue with date-check member. Suggestions??

    Agreed. Don't wait for a bad review. Pre-empt him and contact TER, P411, Eccie, and everyone else you can think of that this is happening. Offer proof.
    Then also post it on the forums right at the same time so that people can see the bad review happened after you were complaining this guy was trying to blackmail you.
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    Default Re: Issue with date-check member. Suggestions??

    Ladies - let this be a lesson.

    Never, ever fucking ever tell a client he is blacklisted, or the reason why - whether you blacklisted him or another lady did. You never know what repercussions you will bring on yourself or the other lady. Some of these men are dangerous. Even run of the mill assholes can turn "dangerous" when they feel "threatened" by a blacklisting and want revenge.

    It is rare that "good guys" get wrongly blacklisted. You may think a client is nice, but he may have behaved badly with another lady. It's his problem, mind your own business. Let him resolve his own issues. Don't show clients blacklist site info!

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    Default Re: Issue with date-check member. Suggestions??

    I agree with not telling - for anyone who wants to know why pm me - i dont want to share this in open

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    AMEN!!! You're so right when they find out they've been blacklisted they go from a bad client to a total psycho! I like to give honest references but some chicks serriously need to stop running their mouths (no one here obviously since I don't know y'all lol). But anyways, I sent screen shots of his texts to the TER staff plus he's dumb enough to use his real world phone as his hobby phone so hopefully he'll back off.
    Quote Originally Posted by Obenta View Post
    Ladies - let this be a lesson.

    Never, ever fucking ever tell a client he is blacklisted, or the reason why - whether you blacklisted him or another lady did. You never know what repercussions you will bring on yourself or the other lady. Some of these men are dangerous. Even run of the mill assholes can turn "dangerous" when they feel "threatened" by a blacklisting and want revenge.

    It is rare that "good guys" get wrongly blacklisted. You may think a client is nice, but he may have behaved badly with another lady. It's his problem, mind your own business. Let him resolve his own issues. Don't show clients blacklist site info!

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    I figure this is a problem that comes about when you are cautious about advertising what you will do and with him asking in advance for what he wants.

    For example in the ad, "I'll do A, B, C. But you can't ask me anymore about it unless we meet."
    During the encounter:
    "I know you don't do D, but I assumed you would do a modification of B."
    "But I don't do a B-modified."
    "Why didn't you say so?"
    "Bacause of LE security issues."

    I don't know where the fault or solution lies because both of you were unsatisfied.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Default Re: Issue with date-check member. Suggestions??

    I get what you're saying but I have plenty of reviews that he could of looked at and none of them say "BBBJNQNS" or "BBFS" so in this case he was either a)too lazy to research anything or b)visited me with intentions of ripping me off.


    Quote Originally Posted by threlayer View Post
    I figure this is a problem that comes about when you are cautious about advertising what you will do and with him asking in advance for what he wants. For example in the ad, "I'll do A, B, C. But you can't ask me anymore about it unless we meet."
    During the encounter:
    "I know you don't do D, but I assumed you would do a modification of B."
    "But I don't do a B-modified."
    "Why didn't you say so?"
    "Bacause of LE security issues."

    I don't know where the fault or solution lies because both of you were unsatisfied.

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    inform all the review sites that the guy you're having trouble with is threatening you with bad reviews - if you don't know his handle, throw all the information you know about him at the support people along with the evidence, and they'll be on your side. good luck! guys are such assholes sometimes.

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