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    Default Re: Feeling for my customer?

    He's married, usually good things do not come from those situations. It isn't easy to deal with that but that's how it usually goes. It may be different, you might have to just give it time to find out what will happen.
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    Quote Originally Posted by itsraining View Post
    Hi, I've been dancing a few years so as you can imagine, I've had many customers, regulars and one hit wonders .. good times and not so good .. singles and married..

    I have one customer who is married. We get along really well and I really enjoy him coming to see me. These past few months he's been coming more frequently, and we've become intimate. I don't mean sexually but mentally and emotionally.

    This has never happened to me before. I've had customers that I like and respect, some that I've even found attractive.. but this man is different. I think I'm developing feeling for him.

    I go home and think about him
    I look forward to seeing him and being with him.

    He's married (I normally don't care) but this is freaking me out.

    Please give me some sound advise?
    I actually have had this happen to me and it turned into a nightmare, for both me & the dancer. Thankfully it ended before it got too far, but she was too young & immature to handle it properly and it became a trainwreck. When your customer is married, happily or not, nothing good will come from starting up a forbidden relationship, especially if one party is beginning to develop deep feelings for the other. Once that happens, trouble is usually not far away.

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    Tough question without knowing more of the scenario. On this board, we have no idea what his intentions are, what his home situation is like, how much he's spending on you, how often he comes in, etc. But whatever the case, please, please, please be careful.

    On one extreme, perhaps he's genuinely into you, is on the edge of divorce, and really does care about you too.
    On the other extreme, perhaps he's only hoping for a future sexual conquest and will never leave his wife.
    The truth is probably somewhere in between.

    Remember, you have to accept whatever reality will befall you - good or bad - and you alone must live with whatever consequences occur - good or bad.
    I'm in no position to tell you what to do - only to be careful with your body, heart and soul.

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    wow. I guess that does happen. I was sure no one would believe me if I tried telling this tale (which until now, I have not)

    There is a dancer whom I've seen over the years at a couple of different clubs, But recently it has changed. The lap dances have become far more personal. She's suggesting meeting up, for a day or even taking a vacation together. Repeatedly suggesting how happy she could make me. Comparing me to her sister's husband.

    It's getting tricky. She is a very sweet woman, and to be honest, if I were free I would probably pursue her. And I sure don't want to hurt her. Honestly, I'm not sure what she sees in me, but it's a little hard when a sweet creature is offering more than just her beautiful body to me

    I'm old enough to know better. And hopefully wise enough not to hurt her. But the temptation..

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    Default Re: Feeling for my customer?

    Honesty, it probably doesn't matter what any of us say to you about this, but...

    If I were you, I would run, not walk, to the nearest exit. When dealing with married men, the other women almost ALWAYS end up heartbroken. Do you want to be some guy's mistress, getting affection only when he has time for you and sitting alone on the holidays? Or, if you did manage to snag him away from his wife, do you really want a guy who is looking for love while her is already married - how do you think that would bode for his future relationships? And, if there are kids involved, do you want to be a home wrecker who would be confronted with those children for as long as you are with him?

    Anyway, just my thoughts fwiw.

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    Quote Originally Posted by itsraining View Post
    Hi, I've been dancing a few years so as you can imagine, I've had many customers, regulars and one hit wonders .. good times and not so good .. singles and married..

    I have one customer who is married. We get along really well and I really enjoy him coming to see me. These past few months he's been coming more frequently, and we've become intimate. I don't mean sexually but mentally and emotionally.

    This has never happened to me before. I've had customers that I like and respect, some that I've even found attractive.. but this man is different. I think I'm developing feeling for him.

    I go home and think about him
    I look forward to seeing him and being with him.

    He's married (I normally don't care) but this is freaking me out.

    Please give me some sound advise?
    There are many suggestions on this, but the reality is that you are going to do whatever you are going to do. One thing I have always found is that an open and honest conversation about this always helps. If you go forward, I'd talk to him about this at a quiet coffee shop or similar. Assumptions cause too many problems. Do NOT have this conversation with him in your club.
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    Thank you everyone. I needed to hear this. I know you're all correct.

    I needed to vent and get my head out of the clouds.


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    Probably what i cant overemphasize is I believe a few of the ppl in this thread who are telling you to leave are married (or seriously committed) and have been / currently involved in extramarital relations and are telling you feelings are a terrible idea. That should be super sobering? Not trying to be an asshole or shaming to the aforementioned people but that's pretty powerful advice for someone who may have unrealistic expectations.

    Id also say - dont rely on an open and honest conversation with him? He's probably not in a great or realistic place himself and is eager for the excitement and newness of this to continue & may not be upfront with you in a way that you need... plus the context of where you two met is fantasy already, he may not even really view you as more than a fantasy or just a distraction either, which may give you false hope? Im not at all trying to be callous in saying that, I apologize if it comes out that way.

    It can be tough to find out where that line is, esp if the customer is really awesome. Flirtation and excitement about someone (esp at work) can be so much fun, but it can done with boundaries... bc when youre longing and hoping for more than just flirtation with someone who is unavailable - that can be very crushing.

    Beyond that, an extremely helpful site to find other people in similar situations is http://gloryb.com/, I'd highly recommend it.

    Seriously.

    I highly recommend it.





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