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    Default Private show with no information going in?

    This is an exchange from ELM. He placed an order for a 10 minute Skype show, and I haven't approved it yet. He put in the order at 8:00am yesterday morning.


    • Hey there :-)

      Before I accept your order, I just wanted to check with you and find out what sort of show you're looking for, and when. I'm available for shows between 8:00pm and 12:30am CST. I do use toys (when asked); dildo, vibrator, and Hitachi.

      Let me know what you're looking for and what day/time you're looking to do it. :-)


    • Sent 2012-08-13 01:55:58hey there. Around 8pm pst and I'm open for anything

    • Sent 2012-08-13 09:46:13I won't be able to be on at 8pm PST; my camming hours start at 8pm CST (10pm PST), and tonight my earliest show time is 11pm PST. Is this okay?


    Am I out of line for getting irritated that he has provided me NO information? And I don't know if he just doesn't understand the time zones, but he won't be the first to ask for a show earlier than I can accommodate even after I tell them my hours.

    What makes me especially nervous is the fact that he's a virgin buyer. He hasn't bought anything. I'm afraid of disappointing him and having him deny the funds; realistically, he wouldn't have a case, since I've got proof that I tried to find out what he wanted, and he basically said "whatever you want!" I dislike going into a show and not knowing what he's expecting. This guy hasn't bought any videos or photos, and I've got no idea if he's been in my cam room before (if he has, then he's got no idea what I do in Private, since I rarely do public shows). What's normal for a show? Most of my guys who take me private like to sit and talk to me for a little bit before "getting down to business", so I don't know what people expect for short shows. :-/
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    Default Re: Private show with no information going in?

    He has told you what he wants. He is 'open for anything'. Just go in there, be happy, smiley, fun, and charm his pants off for ten mins. You will figure out if he just wants chatting, or a toy show, or whatever, when you are in there. Sounds like he might be just buying a short show to see if there is chemistry, and may become a good repeat customer.

    I find it helps to stop putting so much pressure on customers to 'define their expectations'. In my experience, the best viewers are the low-stress ones who will happily pay you to sit around, goof off, and drink a beer. If you put too much pressure on them to tell you 'exactly what kind of show are you looking for?', you will scare them off, and demonstrate that you only view camming as a rigid, uncreative, 'payment-for-a-particular-service' transaction.

    Take his money, and go in there and have fun! :-)
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    What I DO have issues with, is that this was a couple of years ago And Judas is still in the freezer.

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    Thanks. ^-^ One of the reasons that I don't like when they don't tell me what they want is that I've had guys tell me that, and then get angry when I don't do anal or something. I'll see how it goes!



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    ^^ I totally understand you. I have no idea what payment processor you are using and what the possible chargeback situation is, but I would have absolutely no problem telling him (nicely) that anal is not on the menu, and that you DID ask what he would like beforehand. :-) Be sweet and coy about it... if he protests, don't let him get you angry. :-)

    Let us know how it goes... hopefully he's a sweetheart and you will have a nice time.
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    What I DO have issues with, is that this was a couple of years ago And Judas is still in the freezer.

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    Hmm.... I don't know. I think Jessica has a point, but on the other hand, some guys expect certain things to be "normal" in cam shows that not every model can or will do. Things like squirting, anal, ATM, etc. Do you have your boundaries listed anywhere on ELM? I understand you wanting to get a sense of what he wants just to make sure you're actually comfortable with what he has in mind. Hopefully your shows with him will be straightforward and enjoyable for the both of you

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    I have a list of things that I won't do no matter what on my ELM profile, as well as my cam show availability hours. I don't really expect it to impact me negatively as far as his payment goes; ELM holds the payment in escrow until the buyer releases the funds, and if the buyer denies the funds, then I think that ELM looks into it. One of the nice things about the site is having messages and stuff on-site like this, so that a buyer can't be like, "I said I wanted X, and she agreed, and then didn't do it!" So in this case, he's leaving the show up to me, which means he's got no reason to deny the funds after the show. I just don't want him to leave negative feedback or anything.



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    I ended up canceling the show. He gave me a time that he said was alright, so I accepted the job and sent him my Skype name, but his messages were always 24 hours after the ones that I sent. I sent him my acceptance yesterday around 5:00pm, and have not heard from him either on ELM or Skype. Maybe that sounds like a short timeline, not giving him a bit to respond, but considering this is supposed to be for a show, and not for a video, I frankly do not want to work with someone who's going to make me wait an entire day for a five-word response. I have to be able to schedule shows; videos and photosets have more leniency, since I can do them whenever I get a chance. So even with being okay with going into the private with no info on what to do (I didn't want a script; just a general idea of what he likes), I can't clear my schedule for 9pm every night waiting for him to respond.



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    Good call, ThatOneGirl. I always wondered how some guys could book relatively far in advance, and how likely they'd be to actually follow through when it comes time for the appointment. I mean, how can they know days prior when they're going to be horny? I'm sorry you had to cancel the show but if it saved you a headache it sounds like you did the right thing

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