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    Okay, so someone has been dropping my docs. I have been getting insane messages and horrible hateful things written about me. I can't deal with it anymore and I think I need to just make a new cam persona. I have quite the following now. I have close to 3k in followers on twitter (not a lot but finally starting to pay off...) and a ton of other things.

    Idk I just want to know if anyone else had to start all over again? Just thinking of starting over again makes me want to vomit. I can easily change up my appearance. Just re building everything is going to be a pain in my ass. I just can't deal with the abuse anymore.


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    I recently had to start all over again. In my case it was *only* about 8 months worth of promoting compared to the time you've no doubt put in, but it can be done. Not fun, but it can be done. Granted, all I did was lose a site, I can't even fathom trying to rebuild an entire existing customer base.

    Not knowing the details of the situation, how bad is the harassment? Where are these things being written? You don't have to answer, I'm just raising the possibilities I'm thinking about in my head. If it's a troll on a cam site, be a pain in the azz with site support, document everything and do not shut up about it until the troll is banned/blocked from the site. If it's ish written elsewhere in social media online, block their twitter and don't read the ish they post elsewhere. If it's really derogatory, contact the site/forum/whatever to see if it the hateful posts/blogs can be removed on the grounds of harrasment.

    This sounds like a horrible situation but on the bright side, real customers (as in the guys who actually PAY) don't have the time or inclination to get involved in drama. While no doubt this is causing you a ton of grief, I don't imagine many paying customers are declining your services just because of some crap that's out there in the internet ether. Cam drama usually involves cam chicas and broke ass trolls. Why would you allow them to ruin everything you've worked hard for?

    You can definitely start again, but if I were you I'd make that my last resort. I'd try everything else first. Report the hate, disengage from the drama...maybe even think about creating a profile on a different site than you use already, just until the drama boils down? That's a way to temporarily preserve your sanity while you figure out how to go about dealing with the situation more permanently.

    Drama llamas eventually get bored and move on, and they'll do it more rapidly if they can't get what they want, which is to cause you to fuck up your game and allow yourself to dismantle everything you've built thus far.

    If you do decide to start all over, make your first priority connecting with your customers to let them know where you're going. I did that as well several years back, and while it was successful it was a headache. That's why I strongly urge you to try every solution you can before taking that step.

    good luck, stay strong, and hugs<3
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    Thank you a lot. I think I may just end up gritting my teeth and sticking with my name. Someone was giving out my phone number and full name. My full name is very unique...I am just going to change my phone number and not tell anyone I know.


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    sorry to hear ur going through such a mess. i recently had to do a complete camming overhaul myself, but not for ur reasons at all. it was for the better for me in the long run. if u do have to change ur camming stuff around, u can still filter the good paying guys where u need them. they are very understanding. do what you gotta do what is best for you and ur situation even if it is a pain in the ass, it will be worth it in the end. sending positive energy ur way and things will get better

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    hey, i have a very unique name too. i didnt think it was that unique until i googled it and i was the only 1. i decidedif i couldnt change my real name that id just create fake people with the same name as me instead. i have created about 33 so far, all in different areas around my country all with different ages. i made them on facebook, myspace, amazon wishlists, yahoo answers sites, random forums such as haircare and shit that shows on google, dropped many reviews on random products what id never even bought, with the name. my name is now all over the internet with all kinds of different persona's it took me a while to do but i feel much better now. all the facebook accounts have 100+ friends (u just add a random school/college and it gives u 100s of ppl that went to that school, add them all and dont think anything of the 100s of "hi who r u" msgs,90% of them WILL accept with no question - because they think u went to their school) hope i helped.

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    WOW!!! smart thinking annie

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    That's freakin brilliant Annie!!

    Set up random Google numbers that go to those break up type lines that tell them F*** You!!!! And let them slip.

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    why did you let them know your real name in the first place? was it just a mistake on your part or? just curious...

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    Quote Originally Posted by EvilChick1989 View Post
    Okay, so someone has been dropping my docs.
    I feel really stupid but..... what does this mean?
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    Ha - good thinking Annie!!!

    I was actually thinking about it from the OTHER side of things....that depending on your personal situation, you could actually change your name. I changed mine a few years ago, then added a middle name a while after that, and am looking forward to changing it again when I get married! But I've never been attached to a family name or symbolism or anything like that - I'm guessing that while I would happily change my name NOW, I will feel different once I am married and the name represents the relationship....

    Given that our names are brands, and that the time that goes into building a brand can be the difference between subsistence camming and making good money, I would be loathe to start all over again with a new name. I think that it depends on your priorities, and whether this one is a career or a side-earner for you....

    In any case, a name-change is just a thought. Definitely change your number, and get yourself off any directories. Good luck
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    Quote Originally Posted by ManyRoses View Post
    Ha - good thinking Annie!!!

    I was actually thinking about it from the OTHER side of things....that depending on your personal situation, you could actually change your name. I changed mine a few years ago, then added a middle name a while after that, and am looking forward to changing it again when I get married! But I've never been attached to a family name or symbolism or anything like that - I'm guessing that while I would happily change my name NOW, I will feel different once I am married and the name represents the relationship....

    Given that our names are brands, and that the time that goes into building a brand can be the difference between subsistence camming and making good money, I would be loathe to start all over again with a new name. I think that it depends on your priorities, and whether this one is a career or a side-earner for you....

    In any case, a name-change is just a thought. Definitely change your number, and get yourself off any directories. Good luck
    ^ thats actually a really good idea. I think it would be less of a hassle to change your personal name rather than a internet one. Clean slate in RL and make it really hard for the bitch who blasted your personal info out in the open to sniff you out again.







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    Quote Originally Posted by SarahTime View Post
    I feel really stupid but..... what does this mean?
    I don't think you need to feel stupid. Unless we're both stupid.

    I have no idea what 'dropping my docs' means either. Someone....found...documents? lol
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    I think she might mean documents that she used to sign up with a site or sites in the first place. documents that would have both her persona name and real name on them.

    EvilChick, I can't imagine what it is like to go through something like that and I dread ever facing it, but at the same time, you might be able to turn it into a positive thing in the long run as far as traffic goes...are they attracting a lot of attention to your site or profile? If you can, laugh at them and tell them thanks for making you famous...don't let them knock you down and more importantly if they do, don't let them see it. I seriously dread the day I'm outted...I know I'll eventually be, but to be honest, I plan on fully embracing it when it happens. I'd consider a name change perhaps if I was going to work in another industry that would have a problem with what I do now, but other than that, I'd say screw it, thanks for making me famous bitches
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    Dropping docs is troll lingo. Evil can explain it, I forgot what it meant. lol







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