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    Has this happened to anyone else?

    I've been working on SM for a little over a year and so far this hasn't happened.
    This guy (screen name 'jigga') comes in my room and says ''go kill urself''.

    I ignored him and he said ''u aint dead yet'' (as if I was really supposed to get up and go kill myself when he told me to).

    I blocked and reported him. When I was on MFC a lot of the 'guests' would say rude shit but I muted them 99% of the time.

    On SM I don't really have that problem so this was upsetting. Does this occasionally happen to you? Someone just saying something terrible for no reason?


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    Ban! and forget about it...
    Everybody with a keyboard these days thinks they;re God.
    People do this because of many reason, the main one being lack of brain development.

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    It happens to me from time to time. These guys just want to get a reaction out of you. Any reaction. They are lonely and have the emotional maturity of a 10 year old. All I can recommend is that you not give any sort of attention; just silently ban and forget about it. You have hundreds of guys telling you how sexy you are every day. There's no reason to dwell on the haters.


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    I'm sorry that happened to you but yes, this kind of thing does occasionally happen on SM. All sites, really. Guys have told me terrible things in the past for no reason whatsoever but luckily they are very few and far between. I agree, just ban and keep it moving.

    Also, fwiw, I notice I get a more rude comments when I am in party chat and hardly ever get any insults at all in classic chat (where members can't read what other members have typed). I think a lot of these guys start shit for no reason because they want the attention and they want to feel big and bad. They want some type of validation, and by ruining your mood and making you upset it makes them feel like they are powerful. They want other guys to see how much they can affect you because it inflates their own ego. When you take that option away from them it isn't "fun" anymore and it's much less likely to happen.

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    Not that simple, do you know about it ?? YOU SHOULD!
    Last edited by loveshooks; 08-19-2012 at 03:25 PM. Reason: trying to not fuel the fire here

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    That forum (most know the specific one that I mean) is just a large gathering of men who like to feel powerful. They have a lot of resources and they're quite intelligent, but it still boils down to them being people who like to feel validated by doing something, and that something is generally what they'd consider social justice. Many of them see camgirls as smut, so that's one of the groups they'll target when they get a hankering.

    Ladies, it doesn't matter who it is. If you're the kind of person who is perfectly capable of laughing at stupid shit like that, then by all means, troll-bait away! But if you know you could not handle someone telling you to kill yourself, then don't respond at all. If you know that you won't laugh, but get upset, then ban immediately. It doesn't make you weak to know what will and won't upset you. :-)
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    Quote Originally Posted by DominicanDream View Post
    Has this happened to anyone else?

    I've been working on SM for a little over a year and so far this hasn't happened.
    This guy (screen name 'jigga') comes in my room and says ''go kill urself''.

    I ignored him and he said ''u aint dead yet'' (as if I was really supposed to get up and go kill myself when he told me to).

    I blocked and reported him. When I was on MFC a lot of the 'guests' would say rude shit but I muted them 99% of the time.

    On SM I don't really have that problem so this was upsetting. Does this occasionally happen to you? Someone just saying something terrible for no reason?
    Guys are going to say terrible things on cam sites for no reason. It's what happens.

    Did it REALLY bother you that much? I mean think about it... some random guy comes and tells you to kill yourself.... and you really gave it a ounce of thought? Why? Who is that guy? NO ONE. Ban and move on.

    Of course this happens to all of us... so lets start another thread about trolls and give them exactly what they want = ATTENTION.
    xoxo ~ Sarah




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    True! but would you enjoy them sharing your personal info and attacking your family and sending pizzas to your house.. i know from personal experience.. in fact none of you have sympathy for me for their well ochestrated plan.. shame on you girls! this can happen to anyone. that is what they do! they will post all your personal info for every rapist and murderer to see.. but somehow i became the villian.. hmmm?? yea that's why my name is anonymous. good luck girls!

    Quote Originally Posted by ThatOneGirl View Post
    That forum (most know the specific one that I mean) is just a large gathering of men who like to feel powerful. They have a lot of resources and they're quite intelligent, but it still boils down to them being people who like to feel validated by doing something, and that something is generally what they'd consider social justice. Many of them see camgirls as smut, so that's one of the groups they'll target when they get a hankering.

    Ladies, it doesn't matter who it is. If you're the kind of person who is perfectly capable of laughing at stupid shit like that, then by all means, troll-bait away! But if you know you could not handle someone telling you to kill yourself, then don't respond at all. If you know that you won't laugh, but get upset, then ban immediately. It doesn't make you weak to know what will and won't upset you. :-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by anonymous camgirl View Post
    True! but would you enjoy them sharing your personal info and attacking your family and sending pizzas to your house.. i know from personal experience.. in fact none of you have sympathy for me for their well ochestrated plan.. shame on you girls! this can happen to anyone. that is what they do! they will post all your personal info for every rapist and murderer to see.. but somehow i became the villian.. hmmm?? yea that's why my name is anonymous.
    I'm sorry that this happened to you.

    However, I don't think that starting to talk about them on here (or anywhere) is going to do anything but make the problem worse for yourself. Giving them attention in your chat room, on this forum, anywhere... is only going to make them attack you MORE, not less.
    xoxo ~ Sarah




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    I wasn't meaning to minimize anyone's experience with trolls... I know that horrible things have happened, and I'm very sorry that it happened to you. My point was that trolls like to get a rise out of people, and that they generally target people they think are going to get upset. I didn't mean to personally offend anyone (or to offend anyone period).



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    Listen to me... lol
    the EASIEST way to deal with it when this happens is to think of them as BOTS.
    No one is real unless they pay..
    They are all computer generated programs.
    Ok?
    How can you get upset at a computer program LOL


    and even AFTER they do, they have NO RIGHT!!! to put you down .
    so BAN even if they paid already or paying at the moment.

    This is SPARTA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    I never thought of it that way, but that's brilliant, Fridays!



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    Quote Originally Posted by ThatOneGirl View Post
    I never thought of it that way, but that's brilliant, Fridays!
    I know my shit... lol

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    this is talked about a lot

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    I happen to agree with Sarah, so I edited the post that refers to another forum

    AC, I am deeply sorry for what has happened to you, and I truly hope it will blow over quickly. No one deserves what you've been through.

    I do also agree with everyone above who has stated that engaging with trolls, whatever their origins only fuels them. They thrive on attention, and they don't deserve to get it. Further, battling with trolls only encourages more of the same.

    Part of being a cam chica is figuring out a way to get into a head space where these people....don't exist. It's difficult and we shouldn't have to do it, but that unfortunately is the reality, for as long as there are people in this world who thrive upon the suffering of others. What sw needs to be is a place wherein we can support each other in disengaging from the cruelty and the noise, not a place where we turn upon or judge each other.

    Again, AC, I am deeply sorry for what happened. If there's any way in which we here on sw can support you in dealing with what happened to you, please do let us know.

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    Fridays, please write a book! I would buy it. You always have great advice!


    Quote Originally Posted by Fridays View Post
    Listen to me... lol
    the EASIEST way to deal with it when this happens is to think of them as BOTS.
    No one is real unless they pay..
    They are all computer generated programs.
    Ok?
    How can you get upset at a computer program LOL


    and even AFTER they do, they have NO RIGHT!!! to put you down .
    so BAN even if they paid already or paying at the moment.

    This is SPARTA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    I don't let online assholes rent space in my head. Block, ban, chop him for your well being and sanity! Outta sight, outta mind!
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    These guys are like that because they cannot afford you and they cannot get it from any woman for free in real life. They are nothing but ugly ass tricks.



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    I had the same guy in my room (ban list now) that said the same stupid shit. I'm sure I said something really quick like if u die first u will be happier and banned his ass. He was going around doing that in multiple rooms. I have a smart mouth so I don't always let it slide but I ban like crazy on sm. One thing I've learned in working anywhere is you have to LEARN to leave work at work and stop it from filling up ur normal day. I had that issue way before camming and my hair would fall the fuck out because I was stressed and depressed. Now I go and chat with my girls have a laugh and work the next day like the night before never happened.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OJenni! View Post
    These guys are like that because they cannot afford you and they cannot get it from any woman for free in real life. They are nothing but ugly ass tricks.
    what guy?
    you call that piece of shit a guy? lol..
    lets get out terminology right here...

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    Just train your brain to control you when youre on cam instead of your heart.

    Your heart lets yourself get hurt, easily. Your brain works quickly and thinks

    'Well this guy is obviously not

    a) rich or successful otherwise he'd be buying a show from me instead of bitching.
    b) happily married with lovely kids or else he'd be uh...spending time with them right now?
    c) a nice person because well DUH he just told me to KILL MYSELF.

    This guy is a fucking piece of loser asshole by default...and I am a smart, confident, nice, sexy business woman. WIN. why did i think I ever think I even cared about what this dick said?'

    Then lather, rinse, repeat.
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    Frankly, I have to ask

    IS THIS THE FIRST TIME YOU HAVE BEEN ON THE INTERNET?!

    Not to be rude, but it's more that I am aghast that you've never come across this behaviour before!

    If you look anywhere, ANYWHERE on the internet for long enough, you will find people telling other people to kill themselves, go die in a fire, etc.

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    honestly, nothing they could ever say would hurt my feelings in the least bit. i have had guys say mean shit to my face while i was stripping but nothing even close to the comments ppl make online. I KNOW my worth and value deep in my heart, so how can they know better than me? they are miserable individuals and misery LOVES company, i dont even give them the satisfaction. you know they would NEVER have the balls to say that same shit to you in person, guaranteed. none it even bothers me, i could care less what they think of me. now what DOES bother me is the 'open tits bb' 'show pussy bb' etc. and nonstop, that shit gives me a fucking migraine. - thats something i need to work on. but truly they're comments are just laughable to me and sometimes i even get amusement from it before a ban. they have no power over you, they only have power unless you give it to them. just like in the movie the labyrinth, the goblin king really didnt have power over her, when she finally realized it at the end it was all over. really? just flick em off like the little flea bags they are, cuz all they do is make my ass itch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bubblegumbitch View Post
    just like in the movie the labyrinth, the goblin king really didnt have power over her, when she finally realized it at the end it was all over. really? just flick em off like the little flea bags they are, cuz all they do is make my ass itch.
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    Awesome idea. From now on, whenever I get a rude asshole, I'm going to amuse myself by imagining which goblin they probably look like in real life. Ha!
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