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    Default Telling my boyfriend's parents what I do for work

    I know similar questions have been asked about 'what should I tell people what I do for work', but my question is a little more personal and I hope to get answers that really pertain to my question.

    My boyfriend's family knows about my past career in the adult film industry and know that I webcam. Although I'm very "take home to mom" in real life, and I don't really carry that stripper persona, his family does not like me. My boyfriend and I dated for 6 years, have been best friends for 7 years, and took a break for a year, but still remained best friends. Now we are back together, and he hasn't told his parents yet. This is the only guy I ever thought of marriage with and when we got back together, he told me that he feels that way too.

    But his family hates me and his father and sister think of me as a "joke". He doesn't get along with his father, but he is very close to his mother. He says his family loves gossip and when he tells anyone in his family that we're dating, they're gonna wanna test me by throwing a party and the first thing anyone is gonna do, is ask me about my work. And try to hit me off guard and see what I say. I would make something up, or not say the full truth, but my boyfriend has this thing where he "doesn't lie to his mom". I'd be happy to say I'm in customer service, but these people would really try and ask me what my daily routine is and although he wouldn't want me to go into detail, he doesn't lie to his mom.

    What do I really say that I do for work? Where I'm not lying but I can be tasteful or something... /?

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    Default Re: Telling my boyfriend's parents what I do for work

    You could say you're getting into affiliate marketing (I am working on this line too). I know I actually DO NEED to start doing affiliate marketing, and it's going to be my "cover" as well.

    You could even say you're trying to focus on affiliate marketing for adult websites if you want to be "specific".
    "Well then it's a good thing your faith in me has no impact on how much I make." - MissEgo

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    Default Re: Telling my boyfriend's parents what I do for work

    I wouldn't go honestly, I wouldnt want to be apart of a family that "tests" me and considered me as a "joke". PLus if your bf knew how you felt he should side with whatever you tell his mother you do as work, in the end its an option to tell them. Sorry you're dealing with such people....


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    Default Re: Telling my boyfriend's parents what I do for work

    I probably won't be much help to you, but I trully agree with Kisca. I try my best to NOT deal with people who do not have my best interests at heart, whether it be friends, family, strangers, significant others....I just completely cut people off. Yeah, life may get a little boring or lonely that way, but I prefer boring and lonely over ill intentions, fakeness. And to me, I would be being fake if I felt the need to lie to someone about aspects of my life, whether it's any of their busness or not.

    Sorry you are dealing with this situation.

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    Default Re: Telling my boyfriend's parents what I do for work

    "Doesn't lie to his mom", huh? Well then, don't lie! They sound like a buncha judgmental buttholes who want to make you feel bad about what you do. Their tune isn't gonna change no matter what you say (as other posters have pointed out) so why bother wasting the mental energy to come up with some intricate lie? Just tell them you're a camgirl and if they ask for details get graphic until they no longer want to talk about what you do for a living! XD I always tell people I do sales and customer service online and when they ask me what I'm selling I just say "adult stuff"...the conversation usually stops there. ;p

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    Default Re: Telling my boyfriend's parents what I do for work

    I keep a crappy part-time retail job (like 4-8 hours per week) just as a resume filler and employment excuse.

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    Default Re: Telling my boyfriend's parents what I do for work

    I have reached a point where I feel confident that I can tell anyone what I do
    and what they think or not think about it is their problem.
    The greatest ignorance is to judge something you do not know anything about.
    If this is the intellectual level of his family, they I'd personally want nothing to do with it.
    But in the same time, if cornered and put down for what I do for a living, I would stand for what I believe in.

    Do not feel that you are a "joke" to anyone.
    Do not feed into that idea.
    No one is a joke to no one! ever!
    We all have our place in this world and we all have the right to do whatever brings us happiness.
    If this is the right man for you , knowing what you do, he should stand by your side and "defend" you in front of his family.
    Otherwise he is not the right man for you. At this time.

    Its when YOU PERSONALLY believe that this job is wrong that you allow others to judge you.
    When you personally believe it is shameful that you start to fear others will think the same.

    In the past men went to war, conquered other continents JUST to prove to the woman they loved that they would do ANYTHING for her. Nothing and no one would stand in their way. What happened to that?

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