I was hoping to get some advice on how to interact with a shy, tentative dancer. Let me explain:
I was at a club in the late afternoon/early evening, and I noticed a really striking dancer on the edge of the main floor. I was hoping that she might approach, so I tried to see what she was up to without staring. She seemed to be roaming the outskirts of the floor and scrupulously dodging customers and shuffling her feet nervously. After a while she did come by my table, and from about four feet away sheepishly asked if I would like a dance. Like I said, she was really beautiful, and I agreed without hesitation.
On the whole, the dance was really good. She clearly knew what she was doing, but there would be miniature shut-down moments. Sort of little regressions, if that makes sense. She still seemed ill at ease, but I wasn't clear how to handle the situation. I tried to smile and make a little eye contact without being creepy, but I was pretty much at a loss. When she'd finished, I paid and tipped her and tried to make a little small talk before she left. She did seem a little more relaxed afterward, but the whole thing made for sort of an awkward experience.
So back to the question: what could/should I have done to make her more comfortable? Talk about something else? Make eye contact? Ask her if something's bothering her? Just think about the dance? Not buy the dance in that situation?
I'd love to see this dancer again, but not if it's a stress for her or for me. Any feedback would be very much appreciated. Thanks in advance.



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