
Originally Posted by
cvarga
I'll bite......
There are 29 second guys and there are 2 hour guys.
First question, what are you charging? The lower your charge, the lower quality the viewer.
Second question, what are you doing in your show? Are you engaging? What role are you playing (strip now, dildo fast or tease em and ease em in?)
Third question, how much time are you putting into creating the image you want to create? Do you just hop on cam? Spend time & money first? What are you wearing? Is your profile conveying the same message you are sending in your shows? Do you stay consistent? Do you reinvent your shows or put on the same show over and over again?
There are ways to alter your appearance without dawning a mask. Wigs, extensions, eyelashes, makeup, glasses... men want a woman they can relate to. They want to see your eyes. They want to see your lips. They want to see you smile.
It doesn't matter if (I have a gap in my teeth) if you consider your smile to be imperfect because for every 400 surfers, 100 will love it. Hair is a fetish. Eyes are sexy, a smile is sexy. You are depraving them of this when you wear a mask.
No one likes, "wankers" in free chat. NO ONE. What are you doing in free chat to encourage them to actually pay you for that wank? Are you dancing, showing tit, ass, camel toe? You said, "no" but these are reasons for guys NOT to pay. Men will spend 20 minutes in PAID chat just waiting for you to take your top off just as they will spend 20 minutes in your FREE chat to see you take your top off. Every breast is unique and every woman is different. A tit isn't just a tit. Some of us have big aureola's, some of us have little ones.. a cup, b cup, c cup... it is one of the most magic parts of a woman's' body. Cleavage suffices. It leaves something to the imagination and if you are stubborn about it (but teasing enough) they will pay $100 just to find out what is hiding behind that amazing bra you have on.
It seems to me you have the same issues I do which is you are much more inhibited on cam than you are perhaps in your real life for fear of being recognized. What I have come to realize is this; they are no less innocent if they do find you and if you adjust your appearance they can prove nothing. Just go with it (easier said than done).
Free chat came about because Russian studio models were stealing photo's, posting them on their profiles and when John Q Voyeur logged in they were pissed off to find out Miss 24-24-24 with big blonde hair was actually 44-55-55 with black hair. It was designed to show potential viewers that the person they are paying TO GET TO KNOW in PAID chat is indeed the person who is in paid chat. ... and that's another thing.. are you allowing them to get to know you in free chat? "Getting to know you first" is a paid service. Why? The guy who, "wants to get to know you first" either has no money to spend OR is extremely lonely and will pay you, "to get to know you".
This is a sore spot for a lot of models but I am going to say it. I have been in this game since 1997 and am here again in 2012 so I do have slight knowledge. Call me obsolete, call me out of touch but the fact is men are very basic. They haven't changed, it's the guest chat game that has changed. It's an abused feature.
Do NOT pull your tits out, dance around, bend over and "show ass bb" because "I need to see what you look like first" unless you want freeloaders, trolls and cheapskates. BULLSHIT! They can see very clearly what we look like. If it's not enough, direct them to your photo's. If they have questions about your show direct them to your profile. When you start describing what you do in your paid shows it is a paid service. DONT fall victim to the asshole who is asking you to verbally tease him in your free chat and understand just how important the female voice is to the male orgasm. How many times in your free chat have you been asked, "do you like young, BBC, little, 12 inch..." and after you answer, no matter what answer you give, they leave. They didn't want the answer. They needed your reaction and your voice to complete their orgasm.
When you give it away for free, you will get just that, guys looking for something free. The ONLY two exceptions are the girls who have their own sites and can rely on their site members to pitch in, and the cheapskates who say, "show me bb and I'll take you pvt". 25% of them will take you private.. for 2 minutes..... and 75% will whack off to your tits and leave without giving you a private, and they will continue to return and do it again and again and again until you finally catch on. Use your own digression and better judgement because only you know your following. Yes, I'm sure there are some impulse buys into gold shows with it but overall? My opinion is you are working waaaay too hard and selling yourself waaay too short. Personally, I don't do it, but just because I say it's wrong doesn't mean what is wrong for me is wrong for everyone else. The question to ask yourself knowing guys will pay to see tits is are you a business woman or are you so desperate for a buck because "everyone else is doing it" that you succumb to the pressure and show your tits to the droves of freeloaders on social security and the teenagers that have faux member accounts on 7-11 bought cards purchased to troll SM. I made $1500 last week and it sure wasn't by showing shit for free. I also find my following appreciates me more when I say, "I have way too much respect for my following to give away for free what they pay their hard earned money for". They often tip me when I say it to show their appreciation. * please note: My bulk money comes from private chat. I do gold shows as fill ins when my following is over spent. This is also how I get $100 tips on my $150 goals.
IF you choose to tease in free chat. There is an age old saying I learned from the original adult webmasters who were selling my indie site and advising me in general. A first impression is immediate. It takes all of 20 seconds to differentiate between attraction and disinterest. If someone is interested they will continue to engage you for up to 3 minutes at which point a decision has been made. That said.. the way I operate my free chat is on a dating or sex premise. They either want to date you or have sex with you, either of which becomes a paying member.
That's not to say some silent lurker who has been watching you the last 3 months isn't going to finally convert, what it does mean is most shopping on these sites are either impulse buys or a calculated purchase. You need to get to know who is in your chat room to decide who is who and the only way to do this is to have a definite persona that you consistently project.
You can hop around from site to site and look for your following or you can have a set persona and have your following find you.
Arguably, I find SM to be a great site. Yes, sure, there are days where I have lovers quarrels with my site (slow days, troll days.. etc) but that's all it is. A lovers quarrel. I have the utmost respect for Shawn (SM site manager) because he has been good to me. Yes, there have been days where I question his judgement but over-all.. 2 snaps up in a circle. He's great and so is SM.
Ifriends was the first cam site. I have great respect for them for this reason but refuse to perform on the site for reasons only myself and ifriends know.
Cams.com I disrespect because I know Tony personally but just as any relationship someone else will come along and say he's been great and Shawn is the devil.
You are having a relationship with your site. Just as you choose individuals, you will choose your site.
That said. To be successful in camming to know who it is you are trying to attract to your chat room and portraying the image that will attract them is what it means to be successful. It takes research if you don't know what that is. If you are playing your own self as an alter ego (meaning you are who you are but you choose a side of your own personality that works for you) it should come easy.
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