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    Default Re: Do you get angry when a guy doesn't get dances with you but does with someone els

    No. there are a thousand reasons why a guy might not get a dance off of me other than "I think you are ugly compared to that girl over there".

    The one that did bother me for a bit was when guys would dance with one of the two sloppy, unattractive, extremely overweight girls that I work with. Then I realized they're probably either assuming extras will be more likely from the bottom of the barrel, they are intimidated by the girls that look "too strippery", or they really just have a thing for fat chicks, in which case I DO NOT want to dance with them.

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    No. That means he can't afford me. ;-P
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pig View Post
    Then let's see some pics, sweetie.

    I would also like to add that strippers can be quite self conscious. One asked me for a dance twice in a span of an hour, then when I said no she asked if I was planning on getting dances with anyone else. I think she was relieved when I said no. And a friend of mine got yelled at by a stripper for not getting a boner during a dance. So I wonder, are you as confident as you'd like me to believe?
    It sounds as if you want us to admit that we're insecure so it makes you feel better about yourself. This thread has some snidy details to it, though. You would be better off being genuine and friendly and asking outright.
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    Default Re: Do you get angry when a guy doesn't get dances with you but does with someone els

    As soon as I read your OP, I thought to myself that you are one of those guys that come to a strip club to power trip. You're one of those strip club guys who thinks that your opinion really matters in our lives because your opinion never mattered anywhere else. "Show me a pic, sweetie?" LOL I am surprised that Desu hasn't ripped you a new one by now.

    And you are wrong for assuming we come to work to get our egos rubbed. This is not self esteem boot camp, this is work. Don't want to dance? NEXT! Just like you, we have a rotating door of encounters in the club.

    "Strippers can be self conscience." This is my biggest pet peeve when it comes to the ignorant ideas people come up with about strippers. WHAT HUMAN BEING ON THIS EARTH DOES NOT GET SELF CONSCIENCE ONCE IN AWHILE?!?! I am so tired of people who keep forgetting that we are people too. Like YOU don't get self conscience?

    And to answer your question directly, no. And I am especially not sitting around all night keeping an eye on you to make sure you don't get dances from someone else. Sorry, but I have a life and bills to pay- that dance you turned me down for, more than likely turned into a VIP with someone else. I am sure it happens at times but tell me, why do you care so much?? Does it excite you?

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    Yup I go cry in the bathroom and usually end up going home early...


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    Tiny tweaks----->BIG CHANGES

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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Default Re: Do you get angry when a guy doesn't get dances with you but does with someone els

    only if the guy led me on for a considerable amount of time (like 10 minutes or more,, my time is valuable) that he was going to get dances/spend money then some random mcnasty walks up to him and asks him for a dance and he goes for it. that really pisses me off. its like i dont care if you want me or not fuckhead just dont waste my fucking time. happened to me last night. went for a huge fat lard tard cuz she had a russian accent. hope you enjoyed her shitty ass dance / fat shake fest while i made money off of other guys.

    **not in the best mood today**

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    Default Re: Do you get angry when a guy doesn't get dances with you but does with someone els

    Quote Originally Posted by JoJoX View Post

    "Strippers can be self conscience." This is my biggest pet peeve when it comes to the ignorant ideas people come up with about strippers. WHAT HUMAN BEING ON THIS EARTH DOES NOT GET SELF CONSCIENCE ONCE IN AWHILE?!?! I am so tired of people who keep forgetting that we are people too. Like YOU don't get self conscience?
    Thanks for this x Million! EVERYONE is self-conscious about rejection - we just so happen to work in a profession where we get put in the position to be rejected over and over and over again. So do I wonder for a second why some guy went for a different girl over me? Sure. Do I dwell on it to the point of it ruining my night? No. Do I ever show my emotions over it in front of the customers? Absolutely not. And by the time I would be in a position to let my emotions show (bathroom, dressing room, my car at the end of the night), I'll be over it. It's human nature to wonder for a split second "what do they have that I didn't?" but the answers to the question could be infinite and don't necessarily mean there's something wrong with me. The only time I get "angry" is when a guy doles out some BS excuse about not having any money left or "I'm too tired to do dances tonight" and then 5 minutes later, he's handing someone else $100. That's not really anger at rejection - it's annoyance at people straight-up lying instead of just being honest or, at the very least, vague.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pig View Post
    I would also like to add that strippers can be quite self conscious.
    Really? I may be going out on a limb here but it seems to me that anyone can be self conscious especially in difficult or uncomfortable situation. Maybe you could show up for work in your underwear and try to do your job without being a little self conscious. Oh, and you don't get to just stand there either. You have to walk around and ask total strangers to spend money on you while they are groping at you...
    Quote Originally Posted by Pig View Post
    One asked me for a dance twice in a span of an hour, then when I said no she asked if I was planning on getting dances with anyone else. I think she was relieved when I said no.
    I think it's more likely she was simply trying to determine if she was wasting her time approaching you. If she was "relieved" it was over the fact that she knew she could stop wasting her time approaching you.
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    And a friend of mine got yelled at by a stripper for not getting a boner during a dance.
    LOL, really? That says more about your friend than it does about the dancer. Just sayin'
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    So I wonder, are you as confident as you'd like me to believe?
    Not sure if this is a general comment or a specific response to one of the ladies here but it really doesn't matter. Confidence is not as important as perseverance when it comes to making a living as a dancer. There will always be more no's than yes's and there will never be a shortage of guys who make a dancer wonder if she will get through the night without wanting to slug some time-wasting loser.
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    yoda, I want you so bad it aches in the swimsuit area.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DesuvsDeath View Post
    C. If you want to see me - pay me. I am a stripper - I do not show off my body, to include my face, for free or for fun.
    Do you really mean that? Where do you live? If you live close enough, and if you are as attractive as you say you are, I might be willing to make the drive to see you. But that also depends on what your dances are like. How much contact do you allow? Is anywhere on your body off-limits?

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    PIG, no one gives a fuck about you. Scram. Tool.

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    yoda, I want you so bad it aches in the swimsuit area.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    yoda, I want you so bad it aches in the swimsuit area.
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    Always amusing to watch SWians tear shreds.
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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post

    LOL, really? That says more about your friend than it does about the dancer. Just sayin'

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    That's a little mean spirited. I've had plenty of lap dances without getting aroused, and plenty when I have. My ATF gets me aroused because she knows my personal likes and dislikes but I'm not about to "train" someone who just met me. If I don't get aroused, she shouldn't take it personally and the LAST thing she should do is question my manhood in general. That's a bad way to make herself or the club desirable. Although I've often wondered if in general dancers feel like they weren't doing their job when customers aren't aroused. Obviously this one felt humiliated, but blaming the customer is a bad way to express that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Easy Mark View Post
    That's a little mean spirited. I've had plenty of lap dances without getting aroused, and plenty when I have. My ATF gets me aroused because she knows my personal likes and dislikes but I'm not about to "train" someone who just met me. If I don't get aroused, she shouldn't take it personally and the LAST thing she should do is question my manhood in general. That's a bad way to make herself or the club desirable. Although I've often wondered if in general dancers feel like they weren't doing their job when customers aren't aroused. Obviously this one felt humiliated, but blaming the customer is a bad way to express that.
    Eh, none of us was there, including the OP. I call BS when I read it. Since he's been banned for trolling I think I was on the mark.
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    Honestly, I get a little sad. It's obvious my sales techniques didn't work for the customer and I feel a bit blue for a second or two. Then, when I do get a dance, Mr. Rejection sees what he has been missing out on. 90% of the time Mr. Rejection will get up from his seat, walk over to me, ask me for a dance. Sometimes he will grab my attention while I'm in the midst of dancing for the guy who said "yes". He says "hey, can you come over and dance for me next?"....

    It breaks my heart to tell him that the guy I am dancing for, Mr. Sure-I'll-Get-A-Dance, has already asked me to do a one hour VIP room. Oh well. I wish Mr. Rejection the best and hope that he has a good time. It's just business, baby.
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    i dont care if you dont want a dance, just be up front about it. don't waste my time. let me know asap so i can move on to the next one.

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    I've been to a few new strip clubs lately where the ladies are really upfront about asking for lapdances that sometimes before i even get a chance to sit down there on me about getting one. i usually just decline no. My favorite thing to do is cross my leg over my knee. I'll only move my knee if interested. If a dancer tries to sit down I will stand up and move away. But never lead a girl on... I usually say I just got here, I want to chill. There are douchebags custies in every club, there's no avoiding it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Honestly, I get a little sad. It's obvious my sales techniques didn't work for the customer and I feel a bit blue for a second or two.
    For me its never about sales technique. I have specific interest and taste. If you do fall within my taste then I will want a dance, but not right away. I like to watch a few stage shows first, especially from a girl a want a dance from.

    For me its always the same thing:
    - Watch a few stage shows for 1-2 hours, while im picking out a girl or two I want to ask for a dance
    - Get two dance from one girl, I pay $50 almost always (unless a really bad dance was done I always get a second one and tip)
    - Watch a few more stage shows and leave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    The only time I get "angry" is when a guy doles out some BS excuse about not having any money left or "I'm too tired to do dances tonight" and then 5 minutes later, he's handing someone else $100. That's not really anger at rejection - it's annoyance at people straight-up lying instead of just being honest or, at the very least, vague.
    this is EXACTLY why I get frustrated at times. If you don't want me, cool - I get it - I'm not your type. Don't lie to me. If you want another girl I'LL EVEN GO TELL HER TO COME OVER!

    I also hate customers who just turn down everyone because they think they are too good for dances or "I don't pay for dances" - and how looking at woman is free. Blah blah blah.

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    the only time i get upset with a customer if he's said no to a show with me is when they string you along "after this drink ", or worst constantly be touching my arms, back, hair etc whilst staring at my tits to only turn around and say no i don't want a dance, or im only here for my buddy etc or were going soon..only to see them walk out of a show a couple hours later.. dont be a dick and waste my time just tell me im not wat your looking for. saying that it only bothers me for 5 min because i no ill find someones else $$ and if we were in a normal bar setting i wouldnt even looking twice in their direction.. *snigger*

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    Something I've noticed over time as a dancer - time and time again I've seen customers go for the girls who are on the lower end of the club spectrum (if you will) in the looks department if they are looking for extras, to take someone home, get someone to come back to dance a private party, etc. because getting a 4 to go above and beyond is a lot easier than getting a 9 or a 10 to go there (in their mind). I've noticed they also gravitate to the girls who look the most intoxicated (duh). Path of least resistance. I've had customers in the past admit that getting the courage to talk to or approach a 5 or a 6 is a lot easier than trying to catch the attention of the hottest girls at the club. Guess it goes to show everyone deals with rejection differently, even if it seems unfathomable to think of customers as being timid or subdued.

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    Well, um, Mr. "Pig", I never got offended when customers did that, I'd rather see that so I know to avoid them the next time they come in instead of wasting my precious time with someone who doesn't spend money on me.

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