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    I was looking through the 'best of' thread yesterday and came across the craigslist sugar daddy one. It made me wonder how many of you were sugar babies, how you found them, and what all it entailed. Does anyone actually just have a platonic relationship? (ie: company only, no sex?)

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    I used to have one in Atlanta, when I first left home and started dancing.

    It was a slow night, maybe my second week dancing ever, and 2 older guys came in, and were pretty much the only money spending customers in the club. (I don't do this type of thing anymore though,because after a year of dancing on and off I know better)

    So I danced for them for a while they tipped me excellently and I exchanged numbers with one of them. He was married with 4 children who were all older than me...

    He used to take me out to eat whenever I wanted, buy me work clothes, give me cash/put money in my account, and we'd go have spa days together and give me rides to work and life advice when I needed it. He used to always offer to take me along on trips with him but I was leery of doing that.

    In exchange, I just had to smile, laugh and be sexy when he introduced me to his other business owning friends around the city.

    He was a good sweet man, I kind of wish I still had his number.

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    Well that sounds ideal, if he did not try and pressure you into anything besides company and smiling! You said that you don't do that kind of thing anymore? Is that just referring to giving out your number or would you not have a sugar daddy again?

    One of my friends is in her upper 30's and married now, but was a dancer for years and had a sugar daddy. She keeps swearing that I need one and that its the way to go, I was just curious about other girl's experiences, so thanks

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    I have one now. Since 2009. We met at a party and we've been "together" since. We have sex. He pays bills (i pay .y own so he just gives me money) we go out shopping, dinner, movies. I'm 22. So i was 19 when i met him. Just smile & be cute.
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    i dont have a sugar daddy but i think there is a certain ideal sugar daddy relationship and you need to know what kind of guy to look for. my customers in the club that are the best, the biggest spenders, and most enjoyable to spend time with are guys who are mid thirties, divorced, and have children that they have mostly primary custody of. they did everything they could to make their wife happy, but nothing was ever good enough. she was greedy and treated them like crap. they love their kids. just to spend time with a beautiful girl who is actually NICE to them and enjoys spending time with him is so spectacular to them. thats all they need and all they want. they are so thankful for that. my customer usually gets 2-3 hours in champagne and i dont even dance or get undressed the whole time. we just chat and laugh and giggle.

    so yeah, look for a guy like that. thats what i would say would make the best sugar daddy.

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    Well that sounds ideal, if he did not try and pressure you into anything besides company and smiling! You said that you don't do that kind of thing anymore? Is that just referring to giving out your number or would you not have a sugar daddy again?

    One of my friends is in her upper 30's and married now, but was a dancer for years and had a sugar daddy. She keeps swearing that I need one and that its the way to go, I was just curious about other girl's experiences, so thanks
    I have always said I need a 'financier'...lol...I have always been the hopeless romantic but now I just want someone to help pay bills and leave me the hell alone. Don't want a step-dad to my kids anymore, don't want anyone coming in my house telling me what I'm doing wrong with XYZ...we can go out to different events, I can be cute and smile and crawl in my bed at the end of the night....ALONE...

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    I had a few before I was married. None ever paid my bills directly but would offer plenty of cash, gifts, trips to keep me happy. The question of sex would always come up eventually and then it's up to you to decide if that's something you want or not.

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    LOL "now I just want someone to help pay bills and leave me the hell alone". Sounds good to me. Versus being married. Unless that's what it could entail.
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    I am an active suga baby! I met him at the club.
    He bought 10 dances and told me to just sit down and talk to him!He's 43 (im 24) and he's a single computer guy from italy.
    He's lonely, no family or friends here in the states and enjoys having someone to spend time with. We do have sex.
    He takes me to fancy restaurants, takes me shopping and gives me lots of money.
    He has a girlfriend in another state, so I've made it very clear that I have no interest in being in a relationship with him. He's been talking about me moving in with him lately which I really would like because I could have a beautiful downtown condo and pay no rent
    He just wants someone to come home to after work instead of an empty apt. I love beinga sugar baby cause if i have a bad week at work, I know he'll make up the difference lol
    I also have another older guy that came in and spent like 1000 on me that I keepn in touch with.
    He's taken me out a few times and gives me 500 each time. Every time I get a big spender at work thats nice and respectful I try to keep in touch to see what else i can get out of him
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    I wish I could have a platonic relationship with a sugar daddy... I'd looove to have a sugar daddy, but I'm against sex in exchange for money. I met a multi-millionaire at a club I tried out a couple hours from my house and he fell in love with me and bought a Camaro just to waive in my face to try to get me to f*ck him and tried to take me shopping for wedding rings... but there was no deal because there was no sex. What was I supposed to do? I'm not f*cking a 50 year old.

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    It's about what you are comfortable with. I had a millionaire regular who used to beg me to be "one of my girlfriends". He said he'd set me up in my own apartment rent free and i'd have holidays, clothes, jewellery, anything i wanted so long as he could visit me. Now that was a no deal for me as I had a professional day job and a committed relationship and wasn't interested in any OTC arrangements. But he'd always spend on me in the club and used to always buy my thong at the end of the dance as he tried to convince me to agree to his offer.

    To an extent in my OTC single life i've had SB elements to various friendships - they know they get me looking all sexy on their arm to show off as long as they are picking up the bill. But i'm never interested in making a physical trade for that.

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    This was similar to how I felt, I am in a relationship and therefore have no desire to sleep with anyone. I also want a platonic sugar baby/daddy relationship

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    i wish i had better experiences finding one. everyone one that has offered i found extremely creepy or just not my type. Have any of you ladies ever tried those websites that there always talking about on the news. i think one of them is called seekingarrangements.com
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    I haven't tried that website... I do know of a younger woman who did, and she found herself a millionaire who actually wasn't even that old (I think late 30's). They ended up having sex, but not until about three months into it. I'd use the website if I knew there was a likely chance of me just finding a guy who doesn't need lots of attention and doesn't want sex, but it typically doesn't work that way. I wish I'd just find a guy who'd pay me lots of money just to go out to dinner with him once a week or something. Lol. That would be the day.

    But it's alright. I do just fine on my own.

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    I'm 30 and only fairly recently ended a SD relationship. I may look for another one. I used to think I was too old now, but then I think, I'm still cute ish and I actually dont fancy guys my own age, I like them older, at least by 15 or so years. So there are plenty of opportunities for me to have a SD. It's just finding one!
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    I'm 30 and only fairly recently ended a SD relationship. I may look for another one. I used to think I was too old now, but then I think, I'm still cute ish and I actually dont fancy guys my own age, I like them older, at least by 15 or so years. So there are plenty of opportunities for me to have a SD. It's just finding one!
    you are definitely not too old. most guys don't want to date someone who is the same age or younger than their daughter. even if they're creeps they're usually not THAT creepy. honestly most of the top earners at my club are 30+ because they are still wicked hot but the men who are 50+ refined with REAL money want "real women" like them (i'm talking from their perspective not mine, we are obviously all real women). they are in champagne ALL night and never even get naked.

    believe it or not, some rich guys really just DO want genuinely enjoyable company... they could pay a young broad to fuck then any day of the week any time they want... but its even harder to find someone who can make you feel special.

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    That post really cheered me up hun thanks
    I know you're right,and I would say the same was it not me asking the question. I'm weird- I could sell you a broken handbag but when it comes to selling MYSELF!I struggle to hustle.
    I agree-older guys often want younger women as in younger than them, but not THAT young.
    Some SDs on the site I am on are the same age as me which worries me a little?Or at least is a bit concerning. If you see yourself as a SD at 28/29/30, what age are you looking for? If it's just early twenties or something surely that's a fairly normal age gap and not grounds for a SD relationship. I thnk I may be a bit outdated on my opinions here though.
    I've said ths before but on clubs, consistent top earner in my usual club is 43!
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    i would like a sugar daddy just not one i'd have to have sex with...
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    I put a profile up on seekingarrangement.com and got nothing. A couple guys added me to their favorites, and I think one or two sent me a message but then didn't reply once I wrote back. There are only like 30 dudes on there from my city, and at least half of them I totally don't buy as legitimate sugar daddies, either because they're, like, 21, or they look like they live in a trailer park.

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    i would like a sugar daddy just not one i'd have to have sex with...
    Yeah me too but unfortunately I don't think these things are possible long term. The closest thing I got to that was a customer who would come in to the club 2x a week stay for an hour and give me $300. After about 6-7 months he started wanting more. After dropping thousands of dollar they are ALWAYS going to want more.

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    I put a profile up on seekingarrangement.com and got nothing. A couple guys added me to their favorites, and I think one or two sent me a message but then didn't reply once I wrote back. There are only like 30 dudes on there from my city, and at least half of them I totally don't buy as legitimate sugar daddies, either because they're, like, 21, or they look like they live in a trailer park.
    I've noticed this on that site, too. 'SugarDaddies' in their twenties?WTF? Even early thirties freaks me a little bit...
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    Yes, I've had a legit, no-sex sugar daddy. I met him in my club, the day he met me he watched me in the club for hours (rejecting everyone that went up to him, i didn't thinking he would do the same) before finally motioning me over. He bought me out for the night and threw 20s on the stage when I danced. Other customers were actually upset when I came off stage, went around and collected my tips and tried to get me for a dance and I declined. Why make $100 when I know I can get more if I stay focused. And I did. He is a prominent appellate attorney in my area and we texted, he would ask when I was coming in the club so he could be there and every time I'd get a couple of thousand. That was until I stop dancing. I never saw him OTC.

    As for SA and similar site. 95% of the men on their are fake SDs. They are more than likely hobbyists used to paying for a lady's time and wanting to get more bang for their buck. It's been discussed on here MANY times. Do a Search and you'll see. Say they give a SB $1000 and he expects to spend a night or 2 a week. Divide the amount received into the time spent with him. Sadly it's going to be WELL below the average hourly rate of $300-$500 of a mid-range escort.

    As an escort, I don't have the aversion to (safe) sex with an older distinguished gentleman, and I've definitely had a great time with men who just DON'T do it for me physically but they knew what they were doing and my body responded. For those who are not against having sex with their SDs, make sure you aren't getting the $hort end of that $tick...

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    I did. My first was before I ever got into any adult business. I had no idea what a sugar daddy was, I just thought I was such a fascinating person that wealthy older men enjoyed taking me out to nice restaurants, and on vacations, and because they were such generous, wonderful people they probably gave all their friends diamonds, cars, designer clothing, jobs they weren't qualified for, and furnished their houses. I never had anything like a sexual relationship with any of them. I never had any idea any of them wanted that. I was so naive in those days I really believed older men couldn't look at someone my age in a sexual way, so of course they just wanted to take care of me and mentor me. I think if you find sugar daddies on a website they set the rules and don't have much respect for the girls, but if you meet an older gentleman who wants to compensate you for your companionship in the real world he'll just go along with whatever makes you comfortable. Nobody wants to be the sleazy old molester pervert. Let's be honest, he wants to have sex with you, but more importantly you are a status symbol like his fancy car, speed boat, or bespoke suit. When people see you in his company they assume he is sleeping with you and that is a huge ego boost for him. That is what a sugar daddy is. If he is taking you out and spending money on you with the expectation of sex rather than the hope of sex he is not a sugar daddy, he is a "hobbyist" and you are a very low priced, disorganized escort.
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    I did. My first was before I ever got into any adult business. I had no idea what a sugar daddy was, I just thought I was such a fascinating person that wealthy older men enjoyed taking me out to nice restaurants, and on vacations, and because they were such generous, wonderful people they probably gave all their friends diamonds, cars, designer clothing, jobs they weren't qualified for, and furnished their houses. I never had anything like a sexual relationship with any of them. I never had any idea any of them wanted that. I was so naive in those days I really believed older men couldn't look at someone my age in a sexual way, so of course they just wanted to take care of me and mentor me. I think if you find sugar daddies on a website they set the rules and don't have much respect for the girls, but if you meet an older gentleman who wants to compensate you for your companionship in the real world he'll just go along with whatever makes you comfortable. Nobody wants to be the sleazy old molester pervert. Let's be honest, he wants to have sex with you, but more importantly you are a status symbol like his fancy car, speed boat, or bespoke suit. When people see you in his company they assume he is sleeping with you and that is a huge ego boost for him. That is what a sugar daddy is. If he is taking you out and spending money on you with the expectation of sex rather than the hope of sex he is not a sugar daddy, he is a "hobbyist" and you are a very low priced, disorganized escort.
    how did you find these men?? sign me up!! lol

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    I've had a few sugar daddies. I was fond of them but after a while they started getting too possessive and emotionally demanding. I much prefer escorting, the clients are more respectful of my boundaries. Or maybe I'm just better at setting them now, lol.

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