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    This is gonna be a super taboo subject, but I was thinking tonight, if your daughter was to end up doing this ,what would you think? (I personally have a 7 year old daughter) I just wondered whatever would happen if she figured out that is what I'm doing, and pursued it herself. I couldn't fault her.... I just wonder about that stigma. Any thoughts? I'm really not feeling like I want to make any kind of judgement at all when thinking of people that end up being someone's "child" ending up here. I guess this is more of a parenting thread. I apologize if this is misplaced, :/

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    I don't think camming will exist as it is now in 12 years, and if it will it will be so cheap not many will want to do it. Just a theory though, who knows.
    What would you do if your parents said, you can't do this? You will have to let her do whatever she will want to do, if it's going to be her life and her decisions.

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    I know you secretly hope, that by you doing this job, you will provide enough to save her from doing this, but she might do it even then, and you might get disappointed in your efforts.

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    Is their any way you can hide what you are doing from her? I would.

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    I am not one of those that would try to hide the industry from my child, but I think I would be understanding because my child is a female, but that does not mean that I would feel 100% about it. I believe there may be a market for sex several years for now as there was several years before now.... But I'm just wondering, what if your daughter approached you with this lifestyle? I don't want to think that this is something that is honestly out of the question. I want to be a supportive, honest, yet confused parental figure. I don't want to be naive enough to think that this could be impossible for future generations. I guess this was just a thought as a parent. If this is not the proper place for this thread, I would gladly have it moved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Busygirl View Post
    Is their any way you can hide what you are doing from her? I would.
    I'm not thinking within the next few years, but if this industry was still approachable when my child was of legal age.

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    If it's something she truly wanted to do, as with any other profession she may desire, I would help her every step of the way. <3




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    I have a 13 year old daughter and I would support her all the way. I truly believe our bodies, our choice. I'm not ashamed of being a cam girl. I actually feel very empowered. This is a great topic!

    I also want to add that the women and men on here are extremely intelligent and very business savvy. We are not a bunch of airheads that are just sitting there looking pretty.

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    I think that people should be allowed to make their own choices in life and as long as they aren't being self-destructive or hurting others and that it would be pretty presumptuous of me to assume that I know what is best for them or what will make them happy whether they popped out of my vagina or if I've meet them at a cocktail party.

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    I wouldn't encourage it but I would support and explain to her the pros and cons because it wasn't my childhood dream to be a cam girl but I make the best out of what I'm given. I believe in live and let live so no judgement whatsoever!
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    Quote Originally Posted by GracieBlue View Post
    I have a 13 year old daughter and I would support her all the way. I truly believe our bodies, our choice. I'm not ashamed of being a cam girl. I actually feel very empowered. This is a great topic!

    I also want to add that the women and men on here are extremely intelligent and very business savvy. We are not a bunch of airheads that are just sitting there looking pretty.
    True. It's a legitimate job and it's not all that bad. Society makes it bad. It is what you make it as well though. My husband said yesterday on SM he was browsing to see what people were doing, and he was like "half the women had their tits out in free chat, one was fingering herself, and then the rest were either asleep or extremely bored". So no, those ladies, they are probably not acting respectfully at their job and so it's probably a crappy job for them.

    I mean, you know the drill. You do only what you want, say no to the things you don't like, and make money by showing men your body or offering your mind for incredibly great rates and they don't know you and aren't touching you. This isn't prostitution. This isn't even dancing. It's a great gig for someone who is in college or someone who wants to make this a "career" and go far. But I don't think it's a long term job unless you want to be a porn star. And yes, a lot probably are intelligent. If not through an education, through live and learn. But I've seen quite a few cam ladies who have college degrees, as I am one. So is my husband. I may not know everything about camming, but I'm definitely not stupid or an airhead by any means.

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    I don't have kids, but I would hope that if I was a parent I'd try to raise my kid(s) the same way in which my parents raised me, which was to strive to give me access to every opportunity they could, and trust me to make my own educated decisions about my life.

    I think there's a huge difference between doing a job (any job) that one dislikes, just because no other alternatives exist, and doing something that, while it may not be a passion, serves as a means to achieve other goals, goals which may or may not be vocational. I enjoy camming, but I would f$%&ing hate this job if I felt I had no other choice. I know my parents view my 'adult' work the same way.

    I get the whole 'protection' thing. Every now and then I look at my partner lying in bed sleeping and he looks so damn innocent and beautiful that I just want to...I dunno, put him in a box and protect him from the world- and he's a grown-ass man! I'd have to imagine the parenting instinct is about a million times stronger than that.

    I think the reality is that, unless one is born into an extremely privileged family, everyone at some point or another does a job that may not be a 'passion'. The point is, what opportunities eventually exist beyond that? Sex work and the chicas who do it are stigmatized, but so are alot of other things. I consider physical and emotional safety to be much more important than the judgements of random people. In truth, any time I see young adults making conscious, considered decisions about their lives I silently give their parents props for raising kids not afraid to take on the world on their own terms and make choices that serve their needs, either as an end goal or as a function of a larger dream. Choosing to become a cam chica meshes perfectly with that perspective, I think.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Busygirl View Post
    I don't think camming will exist as it is now in 12 years, and if it will it will be so cheap not many will want to do it. Just a theory though, who knows.
    What would you do if your parents said, you can't do this? You will have to let her do whatever she will want to do, if it's going to be her life and her decisions.
    I agree, I don't think there will be money in it in 12 years. I doubt there will be money in porn either, and scenes will probably pay like $200/day. Its becoming really socially accepted, and with that comes a flood of girls.

    I don't see anything wrong with camming, and if I did, I wouldn't be doing it bc it would cause major psychological and emotional damage in the long run (going against your own morals and boundaries). So I wouldn't care if she hypothetically cammed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Busygirl View Post
    I don't think camming will exist as it is now in 12 years, and if it will it will be so cheap not many will want to do it. Just a theory though, who knows.
    What would you do if your parents said, you can't do this? You will have to let her do whatever she will want to do, if it's going to be her life and her decisions.
    I think it will still be around. Harder to make money? Maybe. But we're a technology based generation living on the internet, smartphones and our computers. Technology is the future. I would think it would just continue to expand and grow into more advanced areas (RealTouch toys?). If anything I think dancing will die out, OR lol, we'll be stripping in our living rooms from a hologram like Tupac. Haha. Or Star Wars "Obi-Wan Kenobi, lemme show you my tits."

    I do think that VANILLA camming will be harder and harder. But I think you can survive if you put effort into promo and hours of work.

    But I believe Fetish/Niche girls will always thrive. SPH, Humiliation, Closet bi-sexual/gay men with wives, who come looking for us to beg to be whored out on CL for big black cocks isn't uh, mainstream or accepted yet, LOL. And I would be surprised if any (mainly domination) fetishes will be embraced by the general public anytime in the near future.

    SM has advanced in technology. And a requirement of us is more $ for upgraded equipment. An investment. If you don't have those things don't expect to swoop in and gain a ton of money. Which makes it harder for new girls. On the flip side. Someone who is new needs to put in a lot of hours to gain regulars. It's harder with the amount of girls working/coming and going. For that reason girls drop like flies after a few months when they realize it's an actual job.

    I think the above is going to be what will eventually start to weed girls out. And remember that LA law/permit for (household?) porn? $700? I don't think it ever went into effect - but if something like that ever came around for camming if would make a lot of "newbies" pause and reconsider if this is really something they want to do. And it would weed away the girls who sit naked in free chat (for "fun" or naively) - if they can't profit off it enough to pay off a permit then it's a no-go.

    I think a lot of sites will be start pushing for bigger things (iPleasureStreams was taking that route to push camming into Hotels and Casinos, whenever or IF they start getting busy with it) so I think that is where the future of camming is headed.

    But that's my opinion. lalala.


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    OP, I have no bb's, but I wouldn't care if my daughter ended up doing this or anything else in the adult industry. It would be kind of hypocritical to say no, wouldn't it? LOL.

    I would care if she got into camming/escorting/stripping for the wrong reasons, out of desperation, etc. You should be stable, thick skinned and know exactly what you want, and what you want/need to do to get it if you go into anything adult. The emotional (or physical) damage from doing something reckless or carelessly is stupid. So I'd frown on my hypothetical kid for that reason, and suggest she move on to something else if she came down to that.







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    Thanks to everyone for their opinions! Personally, I guess it's just not the route I'd choose for my daughter, coming from a family that would flip out if they knew that I cammed. I guess my family having a religious and uptight background confuses me a little bit. I don't mind getting on cam and I do it because I like the money and if I'm gonna do it off camera, I might as well do it on and get paid for it. But I was just thinking of my daughter and if she came to me and told me. I wouldn't be angry or look down on her or judge her, I guess I wanted others' opinions on the subject. It was just something that came to mind and I thought this would be a good place to verbalize it, as I'm sure I'm not the only one in this situation (as shown here in this thread). Awfully young for my daughter to have her future talked about like that, but I suppose I'm being realistic!

    HaydenBlue, that was an interesting take on the future of camming, btw!

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    I think that being in any facet of the adult industry (stripping, camming, porn, whatevs) requires a certain personality. If I didn't think my daughter could handle it I don't think it would be hypocritical for me to discourage her from it. And although I wish I would have found camming earlier when my tits were perkier and so that I could have a longer career, I would probably feel a little uncomfortable if I had an 18 yo that wanted to start fresh out of high school. I'm not saying that it's wrong for someone that young to get into adult work and we all do what we have to do. I just don't think it would be ideal for most people. Camming seems a little safer to me because we work alone and don't have the added pressure coming from other performers, customers, etc. that are present when dancing in a club or shooting scenes for a skin flick but in a perfect world, I would prefer my daughter wait until she was a little bit older to make that decision. We all know that there are greater life consequences involved in choosing to work in adult that some people don't think all the way through before they start down that path.
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    I would rather my niece/nephew/daughter/son walk into the industry NOT blind.

    Accepting, yes very much.

    Love them always.

    I know (as much as a lot us do) how family will turn their back on you BUT still call on for help<~~That puts fire in me. I refuse to turn my back on my kid or look down on them for any "lifestyle" decisions they make. Any LIFESTYLE.

    EVERYONE NEEDS SUPPORT in all life decisions, good or bad, just always be there if they should fall.

    Hayden, bb, you crack me up.

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    All I can say having a 16yr old daughter...is she knows I was a stripper for a year or so after she was born (at 1 and I did what ever was necessary to feed her. Now I just lost a REALLY good not adult job and she knows again I will do whatever I have too...of course my hopes is not of her being naked for $ for her, but I would support her if she is wanting/needing to do this...yes its a hard thought to grasp. But raise them strong & they will know if they end up here it is JUST a job...no more, no less...

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    I hope my daughter can get into camming eventually. She's 27 and she's been at the same office job ($13 an hour) for 7 years. Her boss is a tyrant. She got a promotion with no raise yet because "It's not in the budget right now". Her b/f is way too insecure to "let her" cam, although he knows I do. She's always telling me how blessed I am for having this kind of freedom and that I'm able to make decent money. I think camming would give her more confidence too. I know it has for me.
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