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    Default What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    What do you tell girls who ask you about stripping IRL/ OTC, ones who are interested in trying it out and are asking for your advice and expertise?

    Lately I've been being honest when people ask me "what do you do" or "what have you been up to lately"?
    I tell them what's on my mind, and a few women have asked me a little more about it.
    I feel OK answering specific questions as frankly as I can, but after 4 years of doing this, I'm definitely not psyched or enthusiastic. I used to be able to talk more about it, I could go on about the empowerment and all the perks, etc.
    It used to be exciting if a girl-friend was thinking about joining me, but after working with a friend who was a dancer, and another friend who auditioned and was rejected, I would rather keep my distance in order to keep my sanity.

    On one hand, I want to be supportive if a girl wants to do it and has no one else to talk to about stuff that comes up... because it can be really hard at times...
    I'd want to direct them to Stripperweb, too.

    But on the other hand, I don't want to be responsible or involved if and when shit hits the fan (and god knows it tends to).

    I try keeping my stories limited between average-to-moderately-bad... nothing too horrible/traumatic, but I don't talk about the best days either.

    I don't want girls thinking either...
    A) all clubs are dirty places where druggies serve extras to violent creeps, or
    B) they can make $1000 per shift with just a bikini, a smile, and a "positive mindset."

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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    I was always very honest. If they asked for the worst thing that's happened I'd tell them, same for best. If they didn't ask I wouldn't tell them though. I'd warm if they wanted to try it it's not for everyone and some nights you may leave OWING the club money, etc.

    Sounds like you got it a good system going.
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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    Paint interested girls a brief but accurate picture of stripping in your area, meaning the good with the bad. Either recommend a few clubs or warn them of which ones to steer clear of, and maybe give them the basic rules re: contact, fees, scheduling. If you have any extra stripper gear, maybe toss it their way so they have something to start with, and/or give them a few basic pieces of advice (keep to yourself, don't give away your time for free, treat stripping like a job and not a party). Then, leave it at that. If they press for more assistance, tell them you simply don't have time to take them to the club for an audition or work their first few shifts with them, and stand your ground if they push. Just tell them good luck and if any serious questions come up, you'll try to answer them.

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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    I worked with a girl at a different job about a year ago who was asking me about stripping because she was a single mom with a deadbeat bf and really needed to make money. But then she would ask if she actually had to give lapdances because she didn't think she could handle dancing up on a stranger. I was torn, because I wanted to help and be encouraging if she was really interested in trying to make money but just needed someone to support her... but on the other hand, I didn't want to feel responsible if she got into and hated it but felt like she couldn't leave because she needed the money. I finally just settled on telling her about stripperweb, and said if she wanted to check out a few clubs, I would go with her. Then I left it alone. She quit the other job shortly after, but I have no clue what ever happened to her.

    If anyone came to me again, I'd probably just direct them here. SW is full of all the information a newbie could ever want. We have plenty of threads about happy dancers and the perks of the job, but we are also very realistic about the dark side. Why put myself in the position of trying to explain it all and taking responsibility for their decisions when I can send them here to make their own choices based off TONS of first-hand experience from many, many dancers? I think that's the best course of action - show them to the information, make it known that you're available if they need something they can't get from here, but don't push the issue and let them come find you again if they're really interested.
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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    I am always very frank with them about it. I try not to polarize them either way, but with the current climate in a lot of the clubs, I often end up trying to dissuade them.

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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    I was just talking to a girl the other day about this. I am usually honest although I sometimes will lie a little if I feel they are not the type that really needs to get into the business. A lot of times it seems like some girls think that the money is worth what it can do to your life. So if I feel they will regret it I'll sometimes not paint the best picture.

    But the girl I talked to the other day I was pretty honest. I told her it can be a good job but you need to think of it as just that..a "job" not a career. Do it but always have your hears open for other opportunities that could be better for you.

    I've been dancing awhile but I do it because I'm so used to it and I relatively enjoy it still.

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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    here in London I tell them not to bother or just to do it part time.
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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    I don't want girls thinking either...
    A) all clubs are dirty places where druggies serve extras to violent creeps, or
    B) they can make $1000 per shift with just a bikini, a smile, and a "positive mindset."[/QUOTE]

    these are probably the most common misconceptions about the industry

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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    I usually just avoid talking about it. I've already "raised" two new girls who went on to have lucrative dancing careers, both of whom were making piddly earnings before hand. The first club I ever worked at the senior girls were all helpful like that and I assumed it was every veteran's job to help them understand club rules and such.
    But now any advice to new/curious girls seems like a chore. I'd rather talk politics, finance, science or nerdy stuff. Talking about work with girls with little to no experience just isn't for me.

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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    Eh I kind of just tell them the good and the bad. I am honest about weather they should dance or not.

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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    I just tell them to go ahead and try it and see for themselves.





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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    "If you have to ask, you'll never know" That's a quote from Angelica from the Rugrats but I think it applies very well to girls that ask me about stripping.

    I used to talk to new girls about it but ehhh, I'm over that. If they want to know what to bring to an audition then I'll answer that but anything else, nope. The only way they'll know what dancing is like for THEM is if THEY do it. They always want to know how much money they can make but that depends entirely on what they look like in make up, how they dance, and how they deal with customers. If they want to know about stripping, then they can do what the rest of us did and go audition. And honestly, girls that have to ask about it before hand probably don't have the heart for it in the first place. It's not rocket science, it's getting groped for 8 hours while wearing a smile and stuffing dollars in your purse. If they need advice on that, they'll probably become raging alcoholics in like 6 months.

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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    Inside the club when girl patrons ask I am very brief. But OTC I tell them to think of it as a business before ANYTHING else, it's something to be thought about, researched and planned in advance, I tell them to not throw themselves in. I try to be honest in saying it's hard work and will take time and knowledge to really be successful but that it's an amazing industry with very real potential to make GREAT money and learn invaluable life skills. I generally end with 'You never know until you try, give it a go once or twice and you should get a feel of your own personal feelings and reactions towards it' Eh. I just want them to realise there's more to the job than all the obvious shit.

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    Default Re: What do YOU tell other girls who are interested in stripping?

    I warn them that its a tough job...Some girls are airheads and not in touch with reality so they may see it as easy, as bad as it sounds...But the girls who have any sense about them get the response from me that they could make good money but there is alot involved and that u must have ur head about u and realize this is a business and that u must treat it like one, not treat it like a party or get carried away with all the compliments..

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