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    So, i have a regular, who doesn't even show up in my free chat, i guess he takes me exclusive so fast. He comes almost every week once, and stays around 15-30 minutes in exclusive. I charge 5 99 right now.
    He seems to have this dom, mistress fetish, where he likes me to feed him my 'cock' (pretend with a toy) after the toy been in my ass for him to smell and taste, while he is knelled down until i cum in his mouth, then he cums too, all this accompanied by very dirty talk, of calling him bitch, take my cock deep etc. stuff. Always the same scenario, that i wonder how comes he never gets bored of it.
    After this goes down and he came or whatever, we have a few minutes of light conversation, of him saying, or letting me know that i seem to enjoy this , more than he does stuff, (because i'm a great actress mind you), and that he is not a sub at all, but likes to see me play dom.

    Something seems very off to me, to the point i feel me being his sub doing all this, and this makes me uneasy, to the point i refused this role play last time, on the pretext, that the site records everything, and i don't want more weird footage of me floating out there.

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    I love providing fetish for the fetish guys, but something seems off to me here, in this situation. I also feel i don't get payed enough for what i do for him, might have been a factor to me not wanting to perform for him anymore. I cringe when he requests exclusive.

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    Well, uh. No one's forcing you to do something you don't want to do?

    Send him to me please. I'll take him.







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    pm me your username and i'll give him to you gladly, but you haven't answered my concern

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    Some guys just like seeing the same thing over and over from the same girl, regulars can be like this alot, especially if they want something personalized and fetish related, they like one certian girl or just a few certain girls to do the same thing for the over and over, if your worried about it being taped...well if the site was going to record and sell it or give it away for free then they will do it either way, whether you do the show 1 time or 100 in a row, as long as you keep making money doing it then its worth it, for me I would be more upset if I stopped doing the show for him or just did it 1 time and it was on the internet floating around then me doing it 1000 times and still getting paid even if it was free somewhere. XD but thats just my opinion. If it makes you uncomfortable though I would not do it, doing shows that make you too uncomfortable you will regret whether its recorded or not.
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    I don't understand why you are weirded out now if it is something you were comfortable with prior.
    Part of his fetish/pleasure comes from you also enjoying what you are doing to him.... There is a lot of psychology behind this... He stays around after to chat and to tell you "he really isn't a sub at all" because he wants you to accept him and picture him as a "normal guy" with a little quirk instead of some little submissive weirdo bitch boy.... you shouldn't worry about it, I don't think he has any bad "motive" behind it - what you need to remember is the majority of these fetish lovers and closet freaks live normal lives and most would come across as normal dudes outside of the internet to anybody else- he just doesn't want you to think he is all freak. At least that's what I think...



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    Sounds to me like someone who's in the scene as a D-type normally, or even just a plain ol' vanilla alpha male, but has a sub side he keeps under wraps. He comes to you to get his subbing fix, then when he's done he has the need to reassert his domliness/masculinity and assure you that "he's not sub", he just likes to watch you "play" at being a Domme.

    Just my 2c. I'd be listening to that little speech with a lot of smile & nod & "Of course, dear."

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    Question: is he a real sub , or just likes to play with with minds? one of those, let' see what she will do for me, out of curiosity thing?
    I tried being a real dom last time, and do what i said type, if you are a real sub, your not getting what YOU want, and i will do what i want, and it wasn't doing it for him of course.

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    Hell, no he's not a real sub. He's playing at it because that's his kink, a very specific fantasy of being "forced" to do the stuff he actually enjoys. He gets off on the illusion of power exchange, along a set script with set actions and responses. A real sub has their kinks and fetishes, of course, but a primary aspect is that they also get pleasure from pleasing the D-type, generally regardless of the specific actions involved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Busygirl View Post
    So, i have a regular, who doesn't even show up in my free chat, i guess he takes me exclusive so fast. He comes almost every week once, and stays around 15-30 minutes in exclusive. I charge 5 99 right now.
    He seems to have this dom, mistress fetish, where he likes me to feed him my 'cock' (pretend with a toy) after the toy been in my ass for him to smell and taste, while he is knelled down until i cum in his mouth, then he cums too, all this accompanied by very dirty talk, of calling him bitch, take my cock deep etc. stuff. Always the same scenario, that i wonder how comes he never gets bored of it.
    After this goes down and he came or whatever, we have a few minutes of light conversation, of him saying, or letting me know that i seem to enjoy this , more than he does stuff, (because i'm a great actress mind you), and that he is not a sub at all, but likes to see me play dom.

    Something seems very off to me, to the point i feel me being his sub doing all this, and this makes me uneasy, to the point i refused this role play last time, on the pretext, that the site records everything, and i don't want more weird footage of me floating out there.
    I think I have had that guy before. That sounds like a lot of my customers though. So many forced bis and bi curious men out there. I think its actually pretty common.

    Guys that try to make me into a sub make me really, really, really uncomfortable though, but I don't think he was trying to do that to you though? I personally don't mind doing vanilla things like toy shows, anal, oil shows, whatever, but I CAN'T STAND being a sub. I usually don't block them, but I put zero effort into the shows and drop hints that I'm a dom, not a sub, and am actually able to convert some of them to subs by not acting like a dom with them, but rather a spoiled brat.

    At the end of the day though, good cash is good cash though and I won't usually turn down a show unless the site does not allow the fetish or I can't physically do the fetish.

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    I think it's kind of like the whole "I'm not gay I just suck sock when I'm drunk" or something like that. No, you suck cock because you like to suck cock, and just because you only do it when you're drunk doesn't mean you're not gay, it probably just means that you get drunk so you can justify sucking cock. And then you make fun of gay dudes because you're uncomfortable with yourself. Does that make any sense at all lol? I mean, your scenario sounds a lot less self-hating, but I doubt he really means you any harm or is trying to manipulate you. Well, he's trying to manipulate himself into believing he's not who he is and that you don't see him as how you need to see him in order to do an effective roleplay. Hm, I think I even just confused myself there. Huh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LadySenja View Post
    Hell, no he's not a real sub. He's playing at it because that's his kink, a very specific fantasy of being "forced" to do the stuff he actually enjoys. He gets off on the illusion of power exchange, along a set script with set actions and responses. A real sub has their kinks and fetishes, of course, but a primary aspect is that they also get pleasure from pleasing the D-type, generally regardless of the specific actions involved.
    I do agree with this. Its not so black-and-white. There's really no such thing as DOM and SUB really. There are a lot of variations in BDSM, and a lot of fetish and indiviudal preferences put in.

    That being said, I still personally hate to be anything other than a dom or something neutral. And in my personal life, I am often a sub with guys, but I'm ALWAYS topping from the bottom. GR have all the powerrrrr >;-p~~~

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    Heh... I think we're straying beyond the actual issue. "Real" this or that (and yes, I'm totally guilty) are inevitably seen through our own individual filters, and it really doesn't matter how he identifies within this particular situation. Personally I don't believe that anybody is 100% one or the other, there's always some hint of the other even in folks at the greatest extremes of the continuum.

    Me? I have one sub trigger, ONE, and only my husband knows what it is. Everybody else can deal with the Bitch.

    OP, the issue is that something about him and his desired scenario is uncomfortable for you. That's *fine*. You don't owe him anything, he's paid for the time he got. If you don't want to do his specific dance anymore, then don't, it's totally up to you.

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    You might have had the guy before, because once he hit his limit too fast, so he must have been spending somewhere else before he came to me to finish him off, and he usually comes horny, ready to take cock from me, no buildup
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