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    Default Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    So this week I worked Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and Sunday and I feel like CRAP. I probably wouldn't if I wasn't drinking though. I had at least 7 drinks each night, sometimes 10. Saturday I didn't work but I went out with my friends and had like 7 drinks. UGH. So basically I drank heavily almost every day last week. I really only drink at work, and typically only work 2-3 nights a week and go out with my friends like once every 2 weeks. But it makes me worried.

    I just can't talk to guys without drinking. I would literally rather sit in the dressing room all night and not make my tipout back if I'm not drinking at work. I don't want to talk to anybody. Its not a social shyness thing, I am FAR from shy, I just have no tolerance for idiots or dumb guys without alcohol. Its so much easier for me to pretend like I like people when I'm drinking.

    Obviously its a problem. I didn't know if I should post this in body business or not but basically I'm looking for any kind of advice/feedback... how to cut back on my drinking, how to get over being annoyed talking to people without alcohol, etc.. Its obviously not good for my body (how it looks OR how it functions) and I need to learn how to socialize and be friendly without it.

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    To try and wean yourself off of drinking or at least limit your alcohol intake, perhaps try using it as a reward for interacting with customers, rather than as a necessity to interact with them. Like, let yourself have a drink when you get into work. Then, no more alcohol until you've approached 10 different customers (or whatever is appropriate given the customer turnover at your club). You'll still have that first drink to 'push' you into approaching customers from the get-go, but it might make you less reliant on needing so many drinks throughout the shift.

    Or perhaps spend a lot longer with your drinks, so you inevitably go through fewer? Like, can you only interact with customers when you have a drink in your hand and are drinking during the conversation? If you take the drink slow and make it last through a few customers, that could help limit intake as well.

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    Yeah. I drink a lot less when I drink wine cuz I can't suck it down or chug it like other mixed drinks.

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    Just stick to wine only so you save some cals and get a bit of healthy nutrients. Or drink sugarfree low cal drinks instead. You won't have the same energy unless you're drunk or on like adderall or something. Some girls just can't work without one or both of those. Most can't. A big reason I quit dancing was bc I didn't want to do either and only made fucktons when I was on one or the other lol.

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    Have you ever been able to work without drinking? If so, you've already established that this is totally possible for you, it's more a matter of weaning yourself off of what can be a dangerous habit. It sounds like you're already slightly psychologically addicted to alcohol, don't wait until it becomes a physical addiction as well. That may never happen, of course, but the point is you won't know for sure until it happens. Alcohol addiction can develop strictly from persistent usage, you don't necessarily need to have an underlying propensity towards addiction for a bad situation to occur. Alcoholism is a process for many, it's not like a switch that flips where one day you're not an addict and you are the next.

    Teaching yourself to work effectively without alcohol will be uncomfortable, but you can do it, and it will get easier with time. I do have a question though, is it possible for you to have a drink or two max, or are you in a situation where if you have one drink it always ends up being several? If it's the latter, just stop now. Not being able to have a drink or two and stop there is a HUGE warning sign that you're developing a problem. To be honest, in creating this thread it sounds like you already know there's something wrong here. Trust your instincts and stop now.

    I get that it's hard to quit in an environment lubricated by booze, but if you want to protect yourself you need to learn how. Plan on having an uncomfortable week or two, but you'll adapt to a new routine quickly. The human mind is amazing that way. Look at it this way...the longer you keep this up the harder it will get to change your habits. Switch to energy drinks if you feel you need a boost.

    Good luck chica.

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    Try ordering a Non alcoholic drink in a glass that looks like alcohol or a red bull. That way u feel like ur drinking but ur not. That's how I quit. And I make way more money now and feel much healthier.

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    I would easily have 10 drinks a shift, easy. Not good. Tried to limit myself- didn't work. Tried to space them out, tried not drinking after 12, tried mixing drinks with mineral water, half shots it didn't work. If I start drinking at work then I keep drinking at work, maybe not that shift or even that week, I just had to stop.

    I made a deal with myself, NO drinks at work and if I'm tempted then I am prepared to walk out of the club- no excuses. I have been sober at work one week and on the last shift I made close to 2G for the first time in fuckknows when.

    I know this is a bit lecturey but the money you make know is not worth the issues you will face down the track if you end up addicted (I have at least 3 known Alcoholics in my family not including my hubbies family). A good doctor who treated me for drinking patterns said to me "Life is about choices, make them count". I hope you will be ok.
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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    It IS possible! I thought the same exact thing...1 month ago (: What has been helping me is slowing drinking less and less every night. drop down from 7 to 6 the first few nights then 6 to 5...and so on. As you get lower you will start to realize that drinking doesn't even make as big of a difference as you thought it did! I still drink, but just around 2/1 shots at the beginning of the night to loosen up. After changing my habits I have been feeling SO much better, plus, I don't start feeling the "tired effect" from the alcohol half way through the night, which can affect your hustle.
    Once you try it you will realize that the drinking doesn't make that big of a difference after-all (: Good luck!

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    I feel the same way..im not shy but i find guys sooo annoying i need a drink just to put up with them lol.. When i started i would drink atleast five drinks..now i drink only one and thats usually in the middle of my night after ive already made good money..its like a reward for me now..i drink water throught the rest of the night and when im at home i dont drink anymore..i guess pretty much as annoying as u may find the guys just fake it and put up with it its been working for me

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    I don't know if this is any help or not, but here's my story. I don't think I was/am an *alcoholic* per se, but ... I'd have a glass of wine/drink - just to help me sleep, I'd tell myself. One wouldn't work, so I'd go back for another ... and another. Then I'd sleep (or pass out?) but I'd be awake again within 3-4 hours ... and then I'd pour myself two more drinks. I could get up in the morning, but it was a struggle ... wouldn't really feel right until 1/3 of the way through the day. And then the next night, I'd do the same thing all over again.

    I decided to just *try* taking a sleeping pill (tylenol pm) instead of a drink one night - woke up the next morning & couldn't BELIEVE how easy it was to get up. Felt FINE right away (still had my morning coffee though -heh). Now I only drink on my weekends, and I'm even thinking about cutting that down.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is - just give it a try, stopping drinking for a day or two. (I find that if I have one, I've got to have 2, then 3) See how you feel. It starts to feel pretty good, not feeling woozy/wasted all the time .... don't know if this helps or not but that's my experience.

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    I've done this. I realised how unhealthy it was and decided I needed to clean my liver. Because my favorite customers expected me to be the happy drunk girl, I stayed that way, just without the drinks. I told barmaid to give me almost virgen drinks when I asked for them to be shaken. As long as I pretended to be tipsy with drink in hand I was fine, and the other dancers and bouncers were amaised that I could walk after the lights came on. I just pushed it off as being Irish, I knew I was healthier for it, and my money improved because I was better able to track my night.

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    coming from a recovering almost-alcoholic - I was in exactly your situation, drinks-wise. I quit cold turkey, and now, 10 months later and sober, I know if I had not stopped immediately when the warning signs were there, I wouldn't be in the same place I am now, I'd be far worse off. If you ever want to talk, I'd love to help! PM or email dixievistaATgmailDOTcom - I'm always around and passionate about helping people not go too far! I've seen too many people affected by the disease at this point to not want to reach out. Seriously, PM or email me. SW = support group ;0

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    To not get annoyed by stupid customers I have to sort of detach from the work. I don't really know how to explain it but the same conversations etc become SO automatic that it doesn't even bore me any more. When a customer is being retarded or rude it doesn't upset me personally in any way so why would I let it annoy me and mess with my work too? I either just walk away, focus on trying to play the game and hustle them or just use them for entertainment. Sometimes I grill or poke fun at some guy who is being a dick and thinks he's the superior one just to amuse myself.

    It's just a game, you want their money. They might be talking shit but all that matters is you get their money. Hopefully if you can detach yourself from having any real reactions to customers' behaviour you won't feel the need to drink so much just to be around them. Hope this helps!

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    ive found something that is helping me is i've cut out a customer who would just buy me non stop shots of patron all night. like i could have 10 shots and 6 mixed drinks a night when he was there. now that hes not really giving me any more money i dont really have an incentive to sit with him and thats helped.

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    Default Re: Ugh... I know I dont... but sometimes I wonder if I have an alcohol problem...

    I used to drink alot at work but now I cut it down, I started dancing in a club where we had to drink champagne with customers, now I don't have to sell drinks, I once worked a whole month not drinking because I was on meds and after that I realised I don't need to drink, also I lost loads of weight that month and found it easier to eat healty, now I do drink but not much at all
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