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    So i've had this regular guy on cam for about 20months now. A complete gent, not prying into my personal life or asking for meets etc. and always happy to do c2c with me. When i've had shitty cam sessions i could always off load and he seemed not to mind.

    However today he turned on me. Saying things like

    while i'm here with you i should be with my wife and kids who i love.
    you're nothing but a money grabbing whore

    He also said I was fat and ugly when before he said he always loved my curves and knew this from his *wink* i saw. Fat I can take but ugly thats really hurtful.

    Over the years i've had guys come and go some even say their goodbyes to me and I respect that as there are many more to be out there. But this really got to me. Why say such hurtful things.
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    Sounds like he has a case of multiple personalities or guilt trip lol either way, he can go fuck himself you deserve better!

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    He's probably all butthurt because he's short of money this month and doesn't like the fact that he can't get you for free.



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    That's rotten...it's guilt and he's projecting his feelings onto you...making you the "bad" person and not him. It's really not about you, it's about him. It's hard but try not to take it personally.
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    ^^Thats another way of looking at it.

    Its shocked me more than anything. When your used to a regular i'm not so much on guard as i would be with a newbie. I didn't know where to look when he started his rant.
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    Hm. I wonder if his wife or one of his kids found his profile. Such an abrupt 180 and the things "he" was saying makes me wonder if someone was snooping on his computer and then decided to slash and burn his "relationship" with you.


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    i bet his wife found out, and then frog marched him 2 the pc and sit nxt to him whilst he told bad things 2 u that made her feel better.

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    Were you actually on cam2cam with him when he said this? (Just to rule out the possibility that it was an embittered wife or something and not actually him, as Isobel suggested.)

    Was he drunk, high, under extreme stress, or otherwise impaired?

    I agree with the posters above who point out that this is about HIM, and not you. I'm not sure if that makes you feel any better, because it must have hurt to sit there and hear that.

    How do you plan on proceeding with him?

    I would definitely be 'cool' to him for a few weeks. Don't lash back out at him -- just make him feel the guilt for a while (he will feel it). After a nice cooling-off period, methinks a VERY EXPENSIVE 'make-up session' would not be inappropriate.

    Good luck, and DO NOT let this guy affect your self-worth.
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    this sounds like he feels really guilty about seeing you and therefore just taking it 'out' on you. i am thinking maybe try this if he comes back to you in prvt, maybe ask him 'why' he feels this way about you now when before he thought u were beautiful? maybe spend the next sessions on getting to the 'bottom' of why he suddenly feels this way about you? if he is still willing to spend money on you, do ur best draw out the situation. sometimes as a camgirl, we have to take our 'personal feelings' from the mix, it isnt really about u personally but a symptom of whats going on inside of him.

    ETA: after carefully re-reading the whole post, i am now leaning on that it could be the wife, from what is being said all of a sudden in a complete 180. maybe try the above if he does come back?

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    because it was so out of no where and because he was a customer for so long, i doubt it was even him. i can totally see a woman who caught her man doing something wrong saying things like "..wife and kids that i LOVE." like, why would a perv bring up his kids? he loved and paid for your sexy curves for over a year now all of the sudden youre fat and ugly? sounds like a catty thing if you ask me. i think it was his wife.

    i actually had a customers wife sending me messages saying things like "well, he thinks my pussy is tight too!" lol, i just laughed it off and ignored her.

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    You know i haven't thought that I would see him again to be honest. It only happened a few hours ago so the coming days will tell. But i don't expect to see him again ever. For the first time since we started chatting he didn't send his cam within the first 5mins so i knew something was up. So it could be possible she or someone was there.

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    Next!!!!

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    Definitely his wife

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    Whatever. Next.

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    I don't care if they are a regular or not, business is business. It seems like you were not being professional by letting this "regular" become more than a reg, you thought of them as sort of a friend.

    In this line of work it's best to always remember to never allow yourself to ever think of any customer as anything other than a business transaction. Even if it means lying, pretending to like them, whatever.

    I would have just said "oh well ok, sorry you feel that way" and smile. Or if you really felt it didn't matter, you could have just told him to go fuck himself and blocked him. Depends really on how much money he spent on me in the past as to which one I would have said.

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    I don't think she was being unprofessional at all. What did she do? He was just being an asshole and taking out his frustrations on her, someone on cam that can't reach out and knock the shit outta him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laurielegs View Post
    He's probably all butthurt because he's short of money this month and doesn't like the fact that he can't get you for free.

    ^^ This totally happened to me working as a stripper

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewCamGirl1 View Post
    I don't care if they are a regular or not, business is business. It seems like you were not being professional by letting this "regular" become more than a reg, you thought of them as sort of a friend.

    In this line of work it's best to always remember to never allow yourself to ever think of any customer as anything other than a business transaction. Even if it means lying, pretending to like them, whatever.

    I would have just said "oh well ok, sorry you feel that way" and smile. Or if you really felt it didn't matter, you could have just told him to go fuck himself and blocked him. Depends really on how much money he spent on me in the past as to which one I would have said.
    she was being unprofessional?? no, i dont think so. HE (or the wife pretending to be him) was the one who got out of line and took it personal, not her. and i would not treat my customers as "just a business transaction" as a cam girl, you create an illusion of friendship so yeah, my regulars are def "sort of a friend" because they pay my bills, are there for me financially when i need something and keep my cam score up!

    you should def care if one is a regular or not because regulars are the ones who keep steady income going. regulars ARE the business.


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    are you sure that was actually him and not his wife that found out about you? that sounds to be like just the thing a angry wife would do! either way, do what you can to just let it not get to you!


    Quote Originally Posted by CurvySweet View Post
    So i've had this regular guy on cam for about 20months now. A complete gent, not prying into my personal life or asking for meets etc. and always happy to do c2c with me. When i've had shitty cam sessions i could always off load and he seemed not to mind.

    However today he turned on me. Saying things like

    while i'm here with you i should be with my wife and kids who i love.
    you're nothing but a money grabbing whore

    He also said I was fat and ugly when before he said he always loved my curves and knew this from his *wink* i saw. Fat I can take but ugly thats really hurtful.

    Over the years i've had guys come and go some even say their goodbyes to me and I respect that as there are many more to be out there. But this really got to me. Why say such hurtful things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JoJoX View Post
    she was being unprofessional?? no, i dont think so. HE (or the wife pretending to be him) was the one who got out of line and took it personal, not her. and i would not treat my customers as "just a business transaction" as a cam girl, you create an illusion of friendship so yeah, my regulars are def "sort of a friend" because they pay my bills, are there for me financially when i need something and keep my cam score up!

    you should def care if one is a regular or not because regulars are the ones who keep steady income going. regulars ARE the business.
    I say she was not being professional by letting it get to her. You have to keep business, business. I don't care a hoot about my regulars other than they give me money. I do the note thing on SM about what they like, etc, and then when I see them I check it, pretend that I remember them, act very happy to see them and they don't know any different. But if they were to be like "you are such a whore I feel bad" like the other posters said NEXT! Because it sure won't hurt my feelings any or make me care. There's another man out there willing to take their place. I don't care if their wife find outs, knows or if they feel guilty.

    And illusion is not real. She was upset, that's obviously not an illusion. If anything this should remind her, and others the importance of pretending to care, but not really caring about your regulars.

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    Just because she was hurt doesn't mean she is not professional. It's not like she had a total meltdown on cam like some girls have and she didn't get hurt and angry and then took it out on her other customers....that would have been unprofessional. I just don't understand why it's unprofessional for her to be hurt over this. She is human right? Not everyone can brush off hurtful remarks especially when it comes from someone that has been a loyal customer for almost 2yrs. I think it's insulting to say that she was being unprofessional just because she's human and has emotions.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Superwoman1989 View Post
    are you sure that was actually him and not his wife that found out about you? that sounds to be like just the thing a angry wife would do! either way, do what you can to just let it not get to you!
    This really does sound like something a wife would do

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    It's a shock when anyone does a 180 degree turn and bites us...it's not expected. Curvy's reaction was completely natural.

    I had something with the guy who gave me the confidence to start camming...after that first show he would just come into free chat now and again and we would have friendly chats, I didn't mind that he never had another show, he was a nice guy and had helped me. Then I started experimenting with not showing myself on cam when I was in free chat (I'm on AW and free is limited to 5 mins), I had my cam pointed to the lights and guys were taking it in good humour and it was increasing my shows...I don't do as well in non-free and this made free easier for me and meant I could still talk with guys. Anyway...this guy didn't like that he couldn't see me and suddenly went into a long rant about how I was just like his wife, hurting myself just to make a point. Well that was entirely a projection of his relationship with his wife onto me, I was not punishing the freeloaders and it was not hurting my business. I was so taken aback by his turning on me that it did shake me for a moment and I was so annoyed that he misjudged me and my motives...but that's what people do, judge and project their own stuff on others.
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    Thatgirl2011, I can not thank you enough for sticking up for me and others who have been in this situation.

    NewCAMGIRL1: How I've been 'unprofessional' is almost as insulting as what has been said to me. I carried on as usual although shocked did my thing with other guys to take my mind off it. It wasn't till later when i was taking a break and winding down and posting on here why did he say all that stuff.

    The helpful ladies who posted made me think differently in that it may not be him and how to react if he comes into my room again. For the record i've never had a paying guy insult me, do a 360 unless it was pre agreed.

    I don't have any friends who cam like myself. So don't chat to them about my work day to them or any one really, other than here.

    I think i'll leave it at that.

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    Newcamgirl1: It is easy to make like we always would have "done things better" given any circumstance, but that isn't necessarily helpful to our OP. In fact it's rather like those frat boys who talk up a big-balls game to their friend who got caught in a fight, like "Oh man. If he said that shit to me I'd have knocked him the FUCK OUT! when in reality - would they really? Perhaps they would. Perhaps they really, really wouldn't...

    It is completely natural and acceptable to have quite a shock when a client you are used to being one way, over a lengthy duration, does a complete flip and turns on you. That goes for any business. If a car salesman was used to a frequent buyer, a familiar face - friendly and warm - who brought in a lot of money to that business, and was consistently kind and nice... and then our businessman arrived at work one morning to find one of their cars had actually been trashed by this guy, with a viciously-worded note stuck to the bonnet, don't you think it would be a fruitless attempt to try to convince me that that businessman would not be in some way quite dismayed?

    It's human nature. So for you to go so far as to call this lady "unprofessional", to me, simply casts an unflattering light on your own legitimacy. I'm not saying I don't think you're a real camgirl, but I am saying that based on your (really quite nasty) accusation, I don't expect you to be by any means experienced. CurvySweet - It could be his wife, it could be a result of low finances, it could be guilt, it could be shame, it could be a bad day at work, it could be anything, or a combination of factors. But please never doubt your worth based on experiences like these. Besides, if he thought you were ugly, would he spend so much time and money on you? Of course not. He is projecting. You're likely so damn addicting and stunning, that it makes guys angry when shit in their life makes it hard to see you as much as they'd like.
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