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    Default Why don't I have regulars?

    I used to serve at Hooters, and I had more regulars than any of the other girls. My section was always full, and my customers always spoiled me with good tips, clothes from over seas when they went on trips, and even a $400 lens for my DSLR camera because one of my customers knew how much I loved photography!

    But since dancing, I have yet to even make one regular. I almost had one, but I refused to meet with him outside of the club (he wanted sex.. typical) so he stopped coming in to see me.


    Do you guys go out on dates with regs? Do you sleep with any super special regs? How do you build up a relationship with them? And am I the only one without any? :/



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    Default Re: Why don't I have regulars?

    Since returning to dancing recently, I've got quite a few regulars.I'll try think what makes them come back to me...
    Luck plays a part-I made friends with a well-established girl and she had regulars and got me doing double dances with her for them. Now a lot of them like me as much if not more, luckily she's a great hustler, hasn't lost out because of this and is happy that she's helped me (some girls may get funny about that I think).
    -Doing GOOD dances!Not anything you're uncomfortable with, where I work we're allowed contact and grinding and I make sure I do it well, also lots of eye contact
    -Empathy/sympathy has worked for me, many of my regulars are guys who I have listened to .Rather than asking for a dance, I've asked how their days been, and if it's not good lots of 'Aww honey I'm so sorry to hear that, tell me more what happened?So do you think you can sort it? Do you want my advice?Sure it may not ALWAYS work but I get a lot of 'I like you because you listened to me that time' and 'I like you because you've got your head screwed on' etc. It's a tactic worth trying with some guys, especially older ones with family issues-it's worked for me with at least two guys I can think of.
    -Same in reverse, rather than asking for sympathy though, something such as ' Can I ask something, I think I can trust you for some reason, see I've got this interview to go to for college and I'm not sure which course I should go for .....
    ? I've made guys feel special like that, nothing too personal of course..........But if after you've had a bit of a chat with a customer who seems like a nice person, make him feel he's made an impression as a nice person and now he has this beautiful girl who trusts him and wants his input.
    Of course, be careful with regulars once you have them-make it clear that they're not a 'normal' customer, they're more special than that however they are STILL a customer, not a friend you will associate outside of work (unless you're comfortable with that, of course).

    This is what's worked for me, anyway.
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    Default Re: Why don't I have regulars?

    Since returning to dancing recently, I've got quite a few regulars.I'll try think what makes them come back to me...
    Luck plays a part-I made friends with a well-established girl and she had regulars and got me doing double dances with her for them. Now a lot of them like me as much if not more, luckily she's a great hustler, hasn't lost out because of this and is happy that she's helped me (some girls may get funny about that I think).
    -Doing GOOD dances!Not anything you're uncomfortable with, where I work we're allowed contact and grinding and I make sure I do it well, also lots of eye contact
    -Empathy/sympathy has worked for me, many of my regulars are guys who I have listened to .Rather than asking for a dance, I've asked how their days been, and if it's not good lots of 'Aww honey I'm so sorry to hear that, tell me more what happened?So do you think you can sort it? Do you want my advice?Sure it may not ALWAYS work but I get a lot of 'I like you because you listened to me that time' and 'I like you because you've got your head screwed on' etc. It's a tactic worth trying with some guys, especially older ones with family issues-it's worked for me with at least two guys I can think of.
    -Same in reverse, rather than asking for sympathy though, something such as ' Can I ask something, I think I can trust you for some reason, see I've got this interview to go to for college and I'm not sure which course I should go for .....
    ? I've made guys feel special like that, nothing too personal of course..........But if after you've had a bit of a chat with a customer who seems like a nice person, make him feel he's made an impression as a nice person and now he has this beautiful girl who trusts him and wants his input.
    Of course, be careful with regulars once you have them-make it clear that they're not a 'normal' customer, they're more special than that however they are STILL a customer, not a friend you will associate outside of work (unless you're comfortable with that, of course).

    This is what's worked for me, anyway.
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    (Oh, and also, allow me to excuse myself while I pick my mandible up from underneath my desk.)
    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Holy shit dude! You look fucking awesome! Get a damn boob job..
    Quote Originally Posted by Sunnylexie View Post


    I have a feeling some men don't actually need a woman (or anyone at all) in their lives. They could marry their own penises and live happily ever after.
    Start the day with a smile and get it over with

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    Default Re: Why don't I have regulars?

    Not all dancers like to have regulars. I had some, but I personally don't like to have them.





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    Default Re: Why don't I have regulars?

    I don't think there's any secret to building regulars. All it really is is identifying men who feel more comfortable with familiarity. Some guys like variety, others are more loyal and just feel more comfortable with people they know. I tend to notice 2 types of regulars. The guy who has been married and with the same girl forever. He's probably still friends with all the guys he went to school with and has worked at the same job for 20 years. Then there is the really shy guy. The one who is probably single and has a really hard time talking to girls so he comes to the strip club. If you meet either of these types treat them like they are special to you. Talk to them like they are youre best friend or boyfriend. They'll get hooked. In my experience the best regulars don't ask for OTC. They are the ones who are more interested in your companionship than sex.

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    Default Re: Why don't I have regulars?

    I'd had quite a few regulars when I danced. Not all of them were high rollers, but on a slow night that extra $20-60 can make a difference. I just tried to establish an emotional connection with them, and like the other girls said, made them feel special. You could do this by letting them know the "real" you, or make out like you are treating them to something no other customer gets. This could be through "extra" attention (you spend more time with them than anyone else) or an especially "naughty" dance. My longest regular which lasted til I quit I became "friends" with, and sometimes texted him or emailed (this happened very rarely) and twice I talked to him on the phone when he was deployed. Regulars do take some committment and time to establish, so you have to want to have them.
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    Default Re: Why don't I have regulars?

    How long have you been dancing? Do you work regularly or sporadically? When I first started dancing, my schedule was all over the place, so I didn't have many regulars as they didn't know when to come see me. Email/phone can work to dissuade this, but it's still easier if your regulars know they can find you in the club on every x day. If you don't already, pick a day or two that you'll work every week so you can let your customers know that you'll be around then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    How long have you been dancing? Do you work regularly or sporadically? When I first started dancing, my schedule was all over the place, so I didn't have many regulars as they didn't know when to come see me. Email/phone can work to dissuade this, but it's still easier if your regulars know they can find you in the club on every x day. If you don't already, pick a day or two that you'll work every week so you can let your customers know that you'll be around then.
    ^^THIS SO MUCH
    Since committing to a regular schedule, I have gained SO many more regulars. First of all, if it's a guy's first time in, and he likes me, I can tell him that I work Tuesday-Saturday from ??pm-??pm. I do wind up seeing a lot of them again within the next week. It's also helpful for the regulars that you've already established, too because, like Shanna said, they know they can pop in and find you there. It's also a good way for me to keep myself from slacking since even though some days I don't feel like going in, I drag myself in since I told so many customers I would be there that day. I do have a separate work number to communicate with the very best regs jusssst in case I'm too sick to go in or am out of town or something. Keeping a regular schedule has been the best decision I've made since I started dancing!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessie_tinydancer View Post
    I don't think there's any secret to building regulars. All it really is is identifying men who feel more comfortable with familiarity. Some guys like variety, others are more loyal and just feel more comfortable with people they know. I tend to notice 2 types of regulars. The guy who has been married and with the same girl forever. He's probably still friends with all the guys he went to school with and has worked at the same job for 20 years. Then there is the really shy guy. The one who is probably single and has a really hard time talking to girls so he comes to the strip club. If you meet either of these types treat them like they are special to you. Talk to them like they are youre best friend or boyfriend. They'll get hooked. In my experience the best regulars don't ask for OTC. They are the ones who are more interested in your companionship than sex.
    This on the mark. I would also add another type of regular I had and that was the men recently divorced or going through a divorce. These guys often either wanted to talk about their problems or wanted a dance to forget their problems. All three of these types were fantastic because they weren't interested usually in OTC they either wanted to see a hot woman or talk to a hot woman.

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    Dancer personality types come into play big time. Some girls are great hustlers, and some girls are more focused on building relationships/compainonship within SC boundaries. Each has its pros and cons. Many 'wanna dance ' hustlers make great $ each night but they run the risk of losing a potentional regular if they are shortsighted and too greedy, demanding tips and overcharging. The guys wont repeat! On the other hand, regulars dancers have to be comfortable fostering a relationship with the men - some lead them on, and this can result in annoying unwanted attention or even stalking! You have to manage it very, very carefully. Its a real effort to keep regulars interested, and also at an arms length.

    I was a regulars gal myself, I liked to pre arrange 'appointments' so I pretty much booked myself for the night and knew exactly how much $ to expect, guaranteed. Every extra ad-hoc costumer was a bonus, and there were always several.

    I've since moved cities so it's time to figure out my approach again.

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    Default Re: Why don't I have regulars?

    Dancer personality types come into play big time. Some girls are great hustlers, and some girls are more focused on building relationships/compainonship within SC boundaries. Each has its pros and cons. Many 'wanna dance ' hustlers make great $ each night but they run the risk of losing a potentional regular if they are shortsighted and too greedy, demanding tips and overcharging. The guys wont repeat! On the other hand, regulars dancers have to be comfortable fostering a relationship with the men - some lead them on, and this can result in annoying unwanted attention or even stalking! You have to manage it very, very carefully. Its a real effort to keep regulars interested, and also at an arms length.

    I was a regulars gal myself, I liked to pre arrange 'appointments' so I pretty much booked myself for the night and knew exactly how much $ to expect, guaranteed. Every extra ad-hoc costumer was a bonus, and there were always several.

    I've since moved cities so it's time to figure out my approach again.

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