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    Angry Customers Who Want Extras??

    I'm not talking about the customers who blatantly ask, "What can I do?" or "Can I do...(insert dirty act here?)" while you're hustling them. I'm talking about after you already have them in the LD room or VIP, and all of a sudden they start trying stuff. When they do that, my response is usually something like, *move their hands, giggle* "That's not allowed, behave yourself!" Or, "Don't do that, you're going to get us both in trouble!" or, "Be good, I don't want to get fired!" I try to be cute and make light of the situation while reminding them of the rules at the same time, but it seems like they ALWAYS have an excuse! In return, I get, "No one's going to see, the camera is over there." or, "The other girls do it all the time." or, "You can do whatever you want, you're an independent contractor." or, "It's okay, we just have to watch the door so that we know when the bouncer is coming." Idk if they're just making it up, or if the other girls really do extras with them. Oh, and it's always the fairly regular customers who know the rules that do this, not the guys who have never been there before. What can I say to get them to just drop the subject?? This happens to me a LOT.

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    If they're being that pushy, just tell them to stop, it's against the rules, and you straight up don't like it. Yes, it may cost you more dances, but is that extra few bucks really worth the hassle?

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    Default Re: Customers Who Want Extras??

    Say, "Sorry, I don't do that" and move on!

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    Default Re: Customers Who Want Extras??

    Just tell them that's not what you do and you have boundaries. At that point you have to be blunt bc these fuckers will keep on with the stupid shit.

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    Default Re: Customers Who Want Extras??

    Bluntness is your friend at these times IMO. Being cutesy & trying to make light of it is all well & good, but if the guy tries to make a 2nd go of it, you need to put your foot down. I have lost business b/c of my bitchiness towards these guys, but the fact that a guy keeps pushing your boundaries really says everything abt him. So he doesn't want another dance w/ you b/c he can't do this or that? His loss, not yours. You will still make $$ even if it's not from him.

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    Don't be cute. Be firm and decisive. If you're not, these nasty fucks will run all over you. Get your money up front and do NOT feel bad/be afraid to WALK OUT if they continue to push you.

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    Thanks ladies After the first time, if they keep pushing it, I guess I will have to tell them how I really feel! (Side note: If the other dancers really do that stuff, why do the customers not just get dances from them instead??)

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    ^Sometimes customers just say that as a way to get girls to go past their boundaries and give them what they're looking for (aka they think we're dumb enough to believe them and think that we won't make money if we don't 'conform'). Sometimes other girls do give them that and they don't realize it's against the rules and are genuinely surprised that you don't allow it, and while they want dances from you, they have grown accustomed to a certain level of contact.

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    Default Re: Customers Who Want Extras??

    I start out scolding them in a cute way but if they continue to not listen I turn into a bitch and will not try to get any more dances out of it. I've had to do this several times and it sucks because you are missing out on money, but's not worth the mental anguish you get put through.


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    Default Re: Customers Who Want Extras??

    As an example, I used to operate on a three strike system:

    Strike 1: Calm correction, move hands.
    Strike 2: Firmly say "I said STOP. I DON'T LIKE THAT." (<-- what I personally said, your line may vary)
    Strike 3: Walk out. If they were grabbing hard or completely mauling me I would grab them hard by the nose, squeeze and say "I SAID NO." very loudly, THEN walk out AND notify security.

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    ^^ I am not suggesting everyone employ the nose grab, only saying what worked for me.

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    Default Re: Customers Who Want Extras??

    bad dog! (rub their nose in it and say no!) lol

    but seriously, i used to do 1 correction cutely like the OP: *push their hands away or whatever*, giggle, "please dont grab my boobs". *smile* if they did it again, which many did, say "i said no. thatll get us in trouble. you don't want to get kicked out, do you?" most would stop and that point. after that, it's stopping the dance. Rarely a guy grabbed me. In that case I'd just glare at them and say VERY FIRMLY "Let me go. I said NO". That normally stopped them.

    But make sure you stop them prior to them pushing the limit of your boundaries, otherwise they'll cross it before you know it. So if your limit is them grabbing your boobs, make sure you stop them 1 step before that. Ie, they're rubbing you leg or back, OK, but as soon as those hands start creeping up STOP THEM immediately and make your boundaries clear.
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    Default Re: Customers Who Want Extras??

    "Sorry that makes me uncomfortable". They don't care when you say that you are going to get in trouble or whatever.

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    I used to do the cute thing, in my experience it doesn't work very well and only adds to the ditzy stripper image. What has worked better for me is going no bullshit with the guys. Now every time I go to dance for someone as soon as we get back there I tell them "The rules are full contact so you can touch anywhere except for the kitty, and I have sensitive boobies so the nicer you are to them, the nicer I'll be to you, and don't play with, pinch, lick, or suck my nipples, I hate that and it's a huge turn-off for me." Sometimes afterwards I'll go into what I DO like, or I'll ask the customer what they like. I have had very few guys push my boundaries after I started doing this and it's surprising because I too work in a pretty dirty city. The ones who do are usually either super drunk or assholes. But the majority of customers are not assholes and if you genuinely commmunicate that you don't like something, or are uncomfortable, a lot of guys will not push. They're there to have fun, and seeing a girl grimace while giving them a lapdance is not sexy, and it's not fun for them. On the other hand, if their dancer is so happy she's moaning a little and making seductive noises and rubbing all over them...that comes accross as not only "good" but also "sexy" and "fun". Like training puppies, enforce good behaviour with reward and punish bad behaviour with depravement :p

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    Quote Originally Posted by Odette View Post
    I hate that and it's a huge turn-off for me.
    I think this is an awesome line to use when detailing what not to do or to get a customer to stop doing something. Most of them legitimately want us to "enjoy" the dance and only do things like that because they think it'll "turn us on." Framing the no in a way that it's a turn off rather than simply against the rules is generally quite effective.

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    My club is so bad I ask guys exactly what they are looking for before I even go into VIP just so I don't get those hassles. If they are looking for extras, I ask for a finders fee, then one from the girl too. I ask them if they want to get an appetizer before the meal because the types of girls they are looking for need to get the other guys penis out of their mouths before they move onto them. I also go on to say, if you are in a rush, don't worry, they don't even rinse their mouths out or wash their hands. I laugh and then say, or if you are just looking for a hole, a goat out back might be cleaner lol.
    So fed up.............

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    My club is so bad I ask guys exactly what they are looking for before I even go into VIP just so I don't get those hassles. If they are looking for extras, I ask for a finders fee, then one from the girl too. I ask them if they want to get an appetizer before the meal because the types of girls they are looking for need to get the other guys penis out of their mouths before they move onto them. I also go on to say, if you are in a rush, don't worry, they don't even rinse their mouths out or wash their hands. I laugh and then say, or if you are just looking for a hole, a goat out back might be cleaner lol.
    So fed up.............

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    OK that was disgusting and hilarious all in one fell swoop!!
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    Ugh... I have to deal with guys being that way 90% of the time since I work in Houston. :/ A good 20% of those will not only not stop, but you will literally have them FIGHTING your hands to try and whip out Mr. Tiny or molest your vajayjay. I wish I didn't have to live in this town-- money can be good, but if I stopped every dance immediately, I would never get paid. I always stop at the end of the dance to guarantee that I get paid for the dances I did before that.
    That being said, you do get guys who pin you down to try and do stuff (like today with a customer who'd been cool and spent 280 in dances earlier that day with me before deciding to try to invade my lady bits).
    I typically play nice at first to give them the option to behave, and if they're just being drunk and stupid, I scoot myself around so their hands are in the crease of my thigh. I then pretend their hand hasn't moved and let them believe what they will. Unfortunately, in the hell of dancing here, you have to get creative since most local customers are that way and trying to get aggressive in anyway with them usually gets you fired.

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    Generally the first time, I will move their hands and shake my head or say "no". The second time, I warn them that if they try again, I will stop immediately. The managers at my clubs are good enough that if the customer tries not to pay after that, If just need to say so and they will be sure I get my money. Can't say that all clubs are like that, however.

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