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    Default I want to be a stripper...Is This A Good Reason? + Need Advice!

    Hello everyone,

    I need some much needed advice.

    Im thinking of becoming a stripper.

    Im 21 years old, happily married, and I love dancing. Now there are a few reasons why Im thinking of becoming a stripper..

    Me and my husband are currently living with my inlaws, due to we are dirt poor and so are they. My inlaws lost a major business recently and we are trying to help them out as much as we can even though we are pretty much poor aswell. Everyone in our household is having a very hard time finding a job right now especially where we live. Me and husband are the only ones who work fulltime though, but helping out the family has been a drain. My husband also goes to school ontop of work so we have many loans to pay off. We don’t blow our money, we have just came across many unexpected issues the past year that has taken a toll on money which we weren’t expecting…
    Now, I can clearly say that I’ll never go to school. I want to more then anything, but we don’t and never will have the money. I know there are loans I can ask for but I cant (I just recently immigrated and was told I have to wait atleast 2 years to become a citizen and to get a loan) and I don’t want to wait 2 more years or so to do go to school. I want an education now. I want to take Biology, aswell as a course in cosmetology very bad. My own parents said they wont help me because they said they aren’t going to help unless I was to become a doctor…I want an education and career!

    Me and my husband just have gone through a crazy amount of stress with money. We didn’t even get a nice wedding, we had it at the courthouse (we had to marry within a time frame due to immigration purposes, again because of immigration stuff I wont get into right now, too complicated). And as A girl I want a BIG and BEAUTIFUL wedding!!!
    Me and my husband were planning to try and save up real big and its our goal to move to California within the next two years. We want out of our small town and want to live in the city!

    With all this, I clearly can never see myself getting a great education, A beautiful wedding, being out of debt sooner then later, moving to a wonderful place….
    I want to strip for a better life for me and my husband.Get out of debt because we have A LOT. I know there are OTHER ways of getting money, but the job pickings are super slim here, the pay is the lowest in the state. I just cant see us getting far and getting ahead working in a retail job. Plus, I cant STAND retail, working in retail is like the worst thing ever to me it really is. That’s why I want an education!

    Now if I were to strip it wouldn’t be long term. I am told im ver pretty and I should model, so I have a lot of confidence!!! Im smart, im the kinda girl that’s going to put my hard earned cash towards school and SAVINGS!!! Im not looking to strip to buy luxury things. Ide be stripping to buy myself a great and happy future. I know stripping comes with flaws. Such as, people doing drugs/drinking, people trying to hook up with me, other girls getting mad on stage, people finding out etc.I dont think ide be offended if anyone I knew found out, i dont speak to my family (i wont get into that) so i wouldnt care, and I barely know anyone in this new state im living in.… Im a smart girl, I now when to get out of something and say no and leave. Ive never done drugs, smoked, nor never will.

    Overall, im doing this for my future and husbands. I don’t think ill mind stripping, I LOVE dancing music and being sexy. I would do stripping if I weren’t married. That’s the only thing holding me back is telling my husband I want to do this and why…is this wrong of me to want to strip for these reasons? I love my husband more then anything in this entire world, I wouldnt never even think of cheating or doing anything to hurt him!!
    I know stripping has alot of negative outlooks and positive....
    Anyone have any advice for me about stripping? Good, bad? Maybe some help how I should tell my husband! Lol!

    Thanks!!!!

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    Default Re: I want to be a stripper...Is This A Good Reason? + Need Advice!

    If you can stick with your goals and your husband is okay with it, then go for it! I married my husband when I was 20 in a courthouse, it's not so bad.

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    Default Re: I want to be a stripper...Is This A Good Reason? + Need Advice!

    Tell him what you just told us. I think it also depends on the region you live in. Some areas are super high contact, others not. If you live in a medium to low contact area, that will probably be the lynchpin in him being ok with it.

    I danced for 9 years and was married for 5 of them. Good luck.

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    Default Re: I want to be a stripper...Is This A Good Reason? + Need Advice!

    I've known my husband since 2002, been married since 2004 stripped from 2005-2012. It can work but you'll probably have a few problems here and there from it.

    You made a good argument for stripping; go ahead and talk to who you need to and present that argument. Don't get angry though cause that won't help.

    My advice? Find a low contact club to start. Establish boundaries you're comfortable with and stick to them (physical, emotional, and mental boundaries), and don't let stripping get to you. Fast cash is intoxicating and people can go crazy with it.

    Good luck!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pinkpowerranger View Post
    That’s the only thing holding me back is telling my husband I want to do this and why…is this wrong of me to want to strip for these reasons?
    I'm not trying to be a jerk but what do you think the reasons most women strip are? Everyone is in it for the money. Sure, there are plenty of other reasons: flexible schedule, earning cash nightly, love of performance and all things sparkly, neon and girly; but the bottom line is most every dancer is doing it for the money. And that's a good enough reason as any.
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    I think you should do it, however, please don't be fooled into thinking that just because you are a dancer you will never be short of money again.
    This will vary depending on where you live, but generally supporting multiple people and paying for school isn't an easy feat on a stripper salary..so please just be realistic.

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    Have you considered camming or phone sex?

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    I feel like I'm the downer post here...

    Do some research on here about the psychological aspects. Yes, when you're having good nights then it's a ton of fun, everyone loves you and you take home a stack of cash. But sometimes there are the nights when you'll work hard all night and go home with next to nothing, nights when someone might grab you and leave you feeling violated, or when cops might raid the place and scare the crap out everyone whether you're clean or not. I don't want to scare you, but it sounds like you have a lot of stress and issues going on at the moment and the last thing you want to do is add more onto that.

    The other thing is, with your immigration situation, are you legal to work? Have you actually received your green card after getting married? If yes, then that's fine, but if not, you're taking a big risk. Dancing without being legally able to work can be grounds for deportation and you don't want to hurt that after you've just gotten married and made sacrifices for it.


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    Default Re: I want to be a stripper...Is This A Good Reason? + Need Advice!

    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_McKenna View Post
    I feel like I'm the downer post here...

    Do some research on here about the psychological aspects. Yes, when you're having good nights then it's a ton of fun, everyone loves you and you take home a stack of cash. But sometimes there are the nights when you'll work hard all night and go home with next to nothing, nights when someone might grab you and leave you feeling violated, or when cops might raid the place and scare the crap out everyone whether you're clean or not. I don't want to scare you, but it sounds like you have a lot of stress and issues going on at the moment and the last thing you want to do is add more onto that.

    I think every dancer has stress when she starts dancing. Aside from the immigration issue, I would think that dancing would benefit her more than it wouldn't. She sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders. Also coming to the SW forum, I'm sure she has been browsing around learning a lot about dancing and what to expect from the industry.
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