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    Default Re: Couples Camming ... HES having an issue working UP to the challenge...

    Thank you Sabrina! He is by far THE hottest guy I've ever met. *giggles*

    But yeah, I think it must be SOME kind of insecurity, or maybe its just a guy thing -- I honestly dont think I'll ever know, and that's fine, but I agree, I think we should start making clips & selling them (my clips4sale only has 6 clips, so I do need to make some more, this is a good opportunity!) and maybe eventually he'll just relax in front of the camera. I hope so, cuz I think it would be fun to do couples shows, but at the same time, I would hate for the men to attack him, too.... idk. Hoping custies would only focus on me, (as men, unless theyre gay, which is just fine) but I guess I'll try to just ease him into more clip-making if he wants to, and try to let him decide when he feels really ready, cuz confidence registers even across a cam, and if he's confident, I think it'll benefit us both.

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    Default Re: Couples Camming ... HES having an issue working UP to the challenge...

    Ultimately just let your BF know that he isn't the only guy who has problems on cam. When my BF and I first started together he use to get the harassments from the trolls "he can't do this or he's not doing that right". And let your BF know that it's guys on SM that can only WISH that they'll be that close to a chick like you and that also will cause them to lash out and talk shit to your BF. And last but not least tell him to focus on YOU. He needs to focus on the fact that he has his GF in front of him and you're doing everything that turns him on. Once he does that I think he'll have much better luck!

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    "And let your BF know that it's guys on SM that can only WISH that they'll be that close to a chick like you and that also will cause them to lash out and talk shit to your BF"

    Oooh, I had an idea. I get a lot of guys who want to talk about my male roommate (I am open with the fact that him and I are occasional fuck buddies). Volatileghost you could cater to the guys who love the tease and denial type of stuff. I say stuff like "yeah he gets to touch my body like this *caress myself* but you caaannn'tt" some guys go gaga for that kind of stuff. Some of them don't even go full on sexual, they just like the tease and "you can't have me" kind of stuff. Just something to think about.

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    Default Re: Couples Camming ... HES having an issue working UP to the challenge...

    LOL Welcome to the world of porn.

    I've tried couple shows with several different PROFESSIONAL male porn stars. Guess what- limp dicks & had to fake the shows.

    Men with years of performing in porn.

    When you fuck, even when fucking on camera in a porn. The females attn is directly on the man. Now, when camming we have to interact with the guys in the room. So now our total attn isn't on the man we are fucking. Despite the men who do pay to see the sex, they will do everything in their power to make your man feel weak & worthless in order to feel better about themselves or go gay on ya'll.

    LMAO First time a custie took me & Dwise prvt, he wrote "Do you like sucking big black dick?" I said yes. He then writes "Do you think he would like it if I sucked his big black dick?" Dwise then goes completely soft & cant get it up. This is a man who has over 1000 scenes under his belt, a well known swinger & an AVN best male talent award.

    Dont be to hard or disappointed because he isn't able to perform. The guys will tell you to jump from position to position, bitch about the camera angle & expect a 5 STAR porn performance when most of what they want isn't possible even if they were the ones doing it.

    Take your time. There is always a learning curve. I wish ya'll the best of luck.

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    BTW - you two are SUCH an adorable couple!!! Threesome shows, anyone? LOL
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    You are the cutest couple ever! Good luck with camming together.
    From my own experience: My bf wanted to cam with me. I told him about trolls and how he will be insulted etc. When I do shows with him, we do count down type shows on a token site, cause it gives us time to trouble shoot anything and time to relax and go at our own pace. The first cam show, he was soft. Kept going hard and then soft again. Next show he had a bit of trouble, but came through in the end. Now a few months later, he has no problems! A lil trick that he does if he goes a bit soft, he just steps out of the cam view and uses his hand to get hard. I take over when he steps away and play with myself to keep the custies entertained. That way noone can see him and he doesn't have extra pressure or trolls yelling. Like a lot of other girls said, after he has a few shows under his belt, the camming situation will become familiar and he will get hard. Also, having him in the room when you do solo camming might help him get used to camming and the general flow of it.
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    Thank you all for the compliments & for the encouragement & the advice! I will definitely approach him with this information, maybe if he feels more educated, he'll be more comfortable too.Also, maybe we'll watch a couple couples on cam & see how they work & see what works for them! <3

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    Default Re: Couples Camming ... HES having an issue working UP to the challenge...

    Volatile - you guys are so cute!! You'll do awesome, just give yourselves time... I've been camming for almost a year on my own now and just recently my bf and I just recently got a couples account and have done a few shows. He's had the same issues, it's normal. We make great videos together cause it's just the two of us but when in a room full of demanding guys and back to back pvts, it's difficult for him to maintain. It's also hard to talk about because he's NEVER had this problem before and I think he's slightly self concious about it. I only want to offer help but I think that only makes it worse for him.
    I'm thankful for your post, and all the replies.... I imagine with a little time and a few shows under our belt, we'll be fine. It is defiantly more difficult to cam with a guy, not only physically but also mentally - not to mention the monetary loss, I wonder if it helps cross promoting though? Anyone have luck with that?
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    Thank you Muffett... But I also have to report another issue.... The first time we've tried to have sex SINCE the last time we tried to cam & he couldn't rise to the occasion, now he's having problems just us... Did I break him with whatever response I gave him? (from here on out, it gets to be TMI, so dont go any further if you dont want to, but cmon, we're cam girls!) .... He's great, we get to it, a couple minutes in, it's fantastic as always and then.... he loses it. I've been with him for 4 YEARS and this has NEVER happened, EVER! He said it's cuz he was drinking over the weekend, but we are avid drinkers & I know that's not it. But the fact that he's sayinf that shows he's feeling bad about it, so we just went & hung out after that, I complimented him on how hot he was randomly in the shower, but... I'm truly scared this might ruin our relationship. He is SO prideful about this specific thing, and I honestly know this has never been an issue for him with anyone, and even though I know it, I am overweight/have the mommy issues, and my feelings are hurt, even though I haven't brought this to his attention. He isn't the best man, but he is the man I love, and I'm REALLY scared something bad might come out of this. All I can think of is that his "feelings" whatever they may be must've stemmed from this recent attempt at camming, because hes always been more than adamant about sex, and he even said he was really mad that things weren't "working" right. I didnt criticize him at all, but Im not gonna lie, i'm pretty hurt, even though I know that's selfish. How can I fix this? Obviously he's pretty upset over this recent issue with camming, should I just nix the camming thing and not talk about it at all??

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    It really sounds like he's uncomfortable with the camming thing. You should probably not do it anymore. No offense meant by that. I think most couples don't last long on cam because of this. And from my experience, only time will heal this in your personal life. Try not to act hurt even tho you feel it, because it's really not about you I bet. It's that he feels self-conscious now. It's going to take time for him to gain his confidence back. When it happened to my man, I just had to be understanding and not draw too much attention to it, but also acknowledge his feelings about it and to tell him that I understand and it's really not a big deal (so that he didn't get the impression that I was ashamed of him).

    Things are perfectly normal for us personally now, it didn't take long for that to happen, but we just can't expose him to that kind of pressure anymore because even tho he's a very healthy and capable man, the dudes are just brutal. He's expecting that, so it kills it for him before he even get on. So we haven't tried in over a year.

    Maybe things will be different for you and your man, but I'd let him be the one to mention the camming if he wants to try it again. If he's ready, he'll let you know. After all, it's not important, right? What's important is that he feels safe. And you can still work alone.

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    Thank you, Jess. I'm just worried, cuz I haven't brought it up since last time we tried & that was at least 4 days ago, and then we just weren't with eachother that much (he's in a band, I'm busy with friends over the weekend), tonight he wanted to initiate, and this happened, so I'm hoping if I just don't bring it up for a while or just say I think I'm just gonna do it solo for a while (not sure which approach there is best, eeeek!) .... but I think maybe the best bet is just initiating intimacy between us and if something bad starts to happen, just making sure he knows its not an issue with me and if he wants to address it or talk about it, he can, and hopefully that will help? i feel hurt but dang, i feel so helpless! i want him to feel better, but jess, if you and your man are doing better, I hope I can get back to that point, too. thank you so much!

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    So sorry to hear about this Volatile, but just give it time really and don't take it personally (I know it's impossible not to). You both are hotties and before long he'll be rock hard for you again. Seriously, just be your confident self who's super into her sexy man, and find low-pressure, non-penetration ways to be erotic with him if you can, like maybe a couple's massage.

    Also, just think of this as an experiment, and you found out quickly that there are some tripwires involved with camming with him, before things got too involved. It's better you find out sooner than later–what if you as a couple were starting to bank and then, kaput? That could be devastating, especially if you started to make plans to use the extra money for a trip or joint purchase.

    Another way to look at it is the experience gives you a lot of insight into how male sexuality ticks which will make you better at your job.
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    A great way to do couples camming is to almost never be serious. Having fun(pretending or not) will put you in a better mood to make the process of demaning customers go by much easier. If my partner is having trouble because he has already performed 5 times in a row, we just laugh it off. Havent had a customer notice yet. I just keep going or do something different. We also had our first gay male in our private room today, that was pretty odd for him. Don't sweat the smal stuff, it's much easier that way.

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