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    Ok,so Im pretty positive this is going to earn quite a few eye rolls lol but Ive searched and searched and cant really find EXACTLY what Im looking for.Does anyone have any website/book recommendations for CAMMING domination?Im on Fetlife,but I cant find much that relates to actual camming and BDSM.Maybe Im just typing in the wrong things in the search function there.I know the general consensus seems to be to just read up on being a domme,and then just tweak it to fit online i.e.instead of making him lick your boots,make him lick his or make him pretend hes licking yours etc.And thats totally fine if thats what I need to do,but Im so new and although Ive always had a VERY dominant personality,I cant quite seem to bridge the gap when im on cam.Ive had a cple GREAT sessions but last night i got my first 1 which made me FURIOUS bc ive gotten atleast 40 ratings and all have been 5's since i started a cple wks ago.at first i was mad but then i realized,"WAIT BITCH,YOU SUCKED ASS!WHO DO U THINK U ARE TO BE MAD AT THIS MAN?!" so i grabbed my baby powda',mentally slapped myself in the mouth a cple times,sucked it up and faced the truth.I need to be schooled in domming online,so if any of yall know of any websites/info that pertain to the camming side of it etc Id be forever and evers grateful to ya!

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    1. lose respect for men
    2. think you are better than everyone
    3. have the attitude that everyone is wasting your time
    4. make them work for your respect
    4a. ignore them and tell them to do better when they fail
    5. reward good pets

    lol. Im a psychological dom not a whips and chains type of dom and those are just a few of my tips

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    Familiarize yourself with each section of Domming (such as CBT, financial slavery, sissification, tiny cock humiliation etc) and write off a check list to follow when you get a guy in your room who wants you to be dominant with him. Ask them what they want, first and foremost, because a lot of subs expect you to be psychic as well as Dominant. I usually ask them "what do you want with Mistress?" when they come into my room, and then they'll tell me.

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    Thx ladies!! I guess that is what irritates me the most-I have always had the dom outlook but I asked last night what custie wanted and he said forced bi, but not to get too crazy with the domme stuff.so we start, 6 min in he logs out suddenly and rates a 1.afterwards I realized I really had sucked at this particular session, although I've done others and received great ratings.sometimes I do great, other times I struggle or go blank and can't decide how to start or really get it going, what to say etc.sooo fucking frustrating bc I know I could be a kick ass mistress if I could just get it together!
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    just remember when it comes to subs, any attention is good attention. If they aren't tipping you don't belittle them because they like it. The best way to make a sub want to step up is to ignore them. Once they see that they have gotten to you (for example getting so upset you put a cigarette out on someones face smh) they have the upper hand. Only abuse subs because they PAID for it and they like it.
    Subs arent as pathetic as you may think. They can spot an amateur a mile away.

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    Find your niche and google the hell out of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VoluptiousBriadda View Post
    In the 12 yrs that we have been married I have NEVER put my hands on him nor hurt him physically in any way..
    Except that time you put a cigarette out on his face
    Nah boo though seriously I ain't even mad at you, if that was my man, my HUSBAND running around and sleeping with some chickenheads ya best believe I would be sittin' in jail right now on some murder charges because I swear to God I would have killed that mutha. So you good, boo, you good. If my man did that to me that n**** wouldn't be alive right now, no joke, I admire your restraint.

    /Threadjack over.

    Sorry, nothing to add to the whole domination thing as I am am submissive by nature. [Except when it comes to cheating, clearly, then I whoop ass with a swiftness.]

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    Quote Originally Posted by CourtneyRaine View Post
    Except that time you put a cigarette out on his face
    Nah boo though seriously I ain't even mad at you, if that was my man, my HUSBAND running around and sleeping with some chickenheads ya best believe I would be sittin' in jail right now on some murder charges because I swear to God I would have killed that mutha. So you good, boo, you good. If my man did that to me that n**** wouldn't be alive right now, no joke, I admire your restraint.

    /Threadjack over.

    Sorry, nothing to add to the whole domination thing as I am am submissive by nature. [Except when it comes to cheating, clearly, then I whoop ass with a swiftness.]
    LOL!omg thank you for pointing this out to me!!(even though i know you were joking,it still was something that almost went unnoticed by me)i really actually meant to write that except for "that" time i have never put my hands on him.I guess I didnt preview it thoroughly,Im really glad you said something or i would have looked like an even bigger idiot lol editing now And thanks girl,Im sure most ladies who are married,especially ones that have been together as long as we have or longer,and have had some major marital probs,KNOW that they can push you over the edge like no other.Happy to say it was a one time ordeal and i WANTED to kill him,so it couldve been sooo much worse lol!

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    ^Lol I wasn't joking See, I am very well educated and mild mannered but I was born and raised in the Bronx. For those of you who don't know that is considered to be one of the "tough" boroughs of New York City. Usually my "Bronx accent" doesn't come out unless I am feeling extreme emotions, particularly anger. Apparently when I start feeling "ghetto" it comes through in my typing as well. People tell me it's cute when I "talk Bronx" but it ain't cute when I'm fuming

    Girl, you do not have to justify your actions to anyone here. Your marriage is YOUR marriage and that's between you and your husband, no one on here has the right to tell you what's appropriate for y'all and what ain't. Of course everyone is going to have an opinion but haven't you ever heard that saying, "opinions are like @ssholes"? Yeah. So how you and your husband interact ain't up for debate, that's between y'all and once again I wish you a lot of luck because you are a better woman than me, I would have knocked his head off but it's cool.

    Trying to get back on topic.... Okay well I am submissive but I have literally 3 guys who know that and still like for me to "dominate" them, even though I tell them I'm just faking it and I'm not actually getting off on it they don't care and want me to "try " anyway. Um... This one guy, well, we cam to cam, I always make sure he has ice cubes, a lit candle, rope, and something degrading to insert anally, such as a beer bottle. I make him tie up his balls for me. I'll make him run an ice cube all over his junk. Once he starts complaining that it's too cold I get angry that he's challenging me so I flip it on him and make him pour hot wax all over his penis and testicles since it's "so cold" I guess he needs to do something to warm him up. Sometimes I switch it up and go hot then cold. If I'm in the mood to play with myself I will, if I'm not I won't. He's pretty obedient so I normally allow him to f*ck his butt for me BUT there is a rule: he is only allowed to cum IF he will agree to eat his load for me when he's done. I dunno, I like seeing a guy lick his jizz up. He was really resistant at first but I told him okay, that is his choice (as I told you I'm not a Domme so I guess I'm not firm enough). If he won't eat his semen for me then I'm not giving him the privilege of being able to orgasm and ejaculate for me. Eventually he did submit to doing that and it's something we both enjoy now.

    This other guy, he likes when I whip out my cell phone and take pictures of the computer screen while we're doing c2c. He likes when I threaten to blackmail him, like oh, I have these pictures of you wanking to a girl you're paying, I'm going to email them to all of your friends, your family, your job, etc. When he's done he always waits for me to delete the pictures and show him they're deleted before he ends our private. Lol he is a cutie.

    Every guy I've ever tried to "Domme", hah, I can't even believe I am using that word to describe myself but I think I had more practice with this doing phone sex than camming... I get really, really into toilet play, sissification, and forced bi. I guess since those are the only sub-categories of domination that I understand I can get into them and be good at them even though it's not my personal go-to fetish. If I guy says he is a sub and wants a show with me and insists on it even though I tell him I'd just be faking it, I tend to fall back on those. It is really hard to engage in bdsm, D/s online but I think if you can just narrow down a couple of things that you are good at you can still rock it. I dunno. I'm not the one to ask but I feel bad about repeatedly threadjacking so I thought I'd try to offer something meaningful even though I suck at this :/
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    After a few years on cam you won't need help. JUST HAVE PATIENCE.. until then kiss some ass til you hate it!..LOL

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    Courtney,I was actually talking about you joking in your first sentence when you said "except for the time you put a cig out on his face",LOL.I knew you were being serious bout everything else girl,you gotta remember ive been lurking on this site for mths now,you may not know me but i def know you and most of the other girls,especially the vets/ones that post alot.that sounded soooooo creepy didnt it? I just gave MYSELF goosebumps LOL! I promise im not some crazy stalker fat dude in a g-strang w/clamps on his nipples pretending to be a camgirl!Thanks for all of the support btw,and for making me feel better about posting that very personal pc of info about my marriage.I know I shouldnt have to explain my marriage to anyone,but I did feel that since Im so new here,it was best not to give the impression to everyone that im a sadistic husband beater.I def could have explained myself better when i mentioned it,which is why i went back and wrote such a long post.Ill probably take it down soon since I really dont want anything THAT identifying out in the open(smh,hellooooo,what were you thinking Voluptious??) You def made me giggle and feel like maybe i HADNT just slipped and busted my freshman ass in front of the entire senior class on first day of high school after all (although spelling Voluptuous with an I probably didnt help LOL,good thing we arent a big group of english teachers,id be in some deep shit then) And thank you for divulging some of your domme sessions to me,i know most girls are very hush hush about what they actually do in private,especially with new girls so that meant ALOT!i promise i wont steal from you,the wheels are slowly starting to turn in my head now.I know what some dommes do in scenes IRL (been trying to watch vids,read books,sites etc)but i was having a hard time figuring out how to convey that on cam,especially since im not psychic nor a remote viewer and half the guys dont even have a webcam so i cant see what hes doing/has around him etc.I think once I master the femdom presence/thinking,itll come naturally to me in my cam sessions and ill be able to easily slip into it and run the scene effectively (hopefully anyways lol) much love and appreciation your way Courtney!<3

    [email protected]!Duly noted!

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