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    I've seen a few girls I work with do this and I'm just curious as to what you all think of it? Do any of you ever go into your own strip club as a "customer" with your boyfriend? (I'm talking no dancing just going in in regular clothes and grabbing a few drinks) What are your thoughts on this? I was thinking it might be kind of cool and bring us closer if he sees where I work and meets my co-workers (we are all pretty close with eachother)...yet it could do the complete opposite.

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    I did it. Never turned out well.
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    If you go together and you have a VERY secure relationship, then go for it. Some guys are ok with their GFs working in clubs in THEORY, but once they see other girls working and picture you doing it, they flip the fuck out. Obviously I've gone with my husband and billion times, but he's worked in the industry for 11 years, so he's whatever about it. Non-industry people react differently. It's hard to predict.

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    Thank you mediocrity , that actually makes a lot of sense. It is probably much different in person than theoretically especially if it's in the same exact club I work at. Hmmm. I was just going to give it a go...but I'm glad I asked on here.

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    No it didn't work out cuz he fell for another stripper, causing me extreme jealousy and hurt, and spent $200 on her, and he was still thinking of her for 2 weeks afterwards. Fn' asshole! He is never allowed in my club again.

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    I'm sorry femmefatale88, that is effed. What a horrible thing to have to deal with. Hopefully he got screwed over in the end by the other girl anyways (;

    So on that note..what should I say to him to explain that I don't think it's a good idea he come in? How do I say it without hurting his feelings or giving him trust issues?

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    +1 Mediocrity. Was this your idea or his to have him come in w/ you as a customer?

    I think you've already opened a can of worms if it was your idea, but regardless of who suggested it, I might tell him that I really don't trust sm of the girls I work w/. Tbh that's what I'd tell my man not only if he wanted to come see me at work or have us both doing the customer thing, & you can call me a hypocrite all you like but it's the reason I wouldn't want my guy going to a strip club anyway.

    For me it's one of those situations where knowing all that goes on does nothing to make me feel better abt it.

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    Tell him your manager said no, the policy has been changed or something. Then suggest a different club to go to.

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    ^^ Good idea
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    I went in with mine a couple times when I had just started at my first club, before anyone really knew who I was.. then I stopped for a couple reasons:
    1) I was already there to work so much that I didn't feel like going back as a customer in my free time
    2) Didn't feel like spending my money or his money on the titty bar in general, would rather go get a nice dinner
    3) Didn't want customers to see me that knew me because I don't talk about my outside romance life in the club, and they would see me and sooner or later ask me who he was etc. if not while we were there, in the days/nights following
    4) Girls who didn't know him would try to hustle him, not knowing that they weren't his type and there would be no way he would spend a dime on them- wasting their time and energy and not contributing to his and my god time there.

    We ended up going to another club that I didn't work at, as customers, when he wanted to go out to the titty bar. He did come into a couple of my clubs as a customer while I was working, and I would usually do my best to be social with him and his friends but send over other girls to socialize with them that I knew they would enjoy (mine was into latinas, I'm a white girl, so I would send my favorite latina(s) over to make a little cash), while I kept up my pace hustling other people.

    We ended up having a recent falling-out completely unrelated to my dancing, but during our "thing" the club was never an issue. This was partly due to me trusting and/or accepting his choices, and partly due to the fact that I could semi-orchestrate who he would have a good time with- girls who I knew wouldn't get out of line!

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    Mediocrity nailed it. It can go both ways -- either really well or exceptionally poorly. My hubby and I go into the club together all the time; and he's basically a regular at the club I've worked in for years. BUT -- he's not necessarily an "industry worker", but he's had plenty of experience dating dancers/escorts, and to top it all off, he and I MET in the club. So I KNOW it doesn't bother him, lol.

    Really, all I can say is tread lightly. Be very careful -- it can either be a wonderfully almost "bonding" experience to know that you are completely supported or at very least accepted, but it can absolutely break a relationship apart. Just ... tread lightly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MissMynxx View Post
    Mediocrity nailed it.
    ^I agree.

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    Thanks guys, this is all really helpful!

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    When I was dancing the last thing I wanted to do was go to a sc. Actually bars in general lost their appeal because I would think " why am I SPENDING money on drinks when I COULD be getting g paid to sit and drink with my custs? That's just me tho. And I think the bf/so and work should be kept separate...for me combining them is just asking for problems...
    I'd grab my trumpet and I'd do a stripper sound, like the old Louis Armstrong, real raspy. And the people would go nuts! Then I knew that the sexual, sensual, guttural sound, that throbbing sound, is where it's at.

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    We'll go once in a blue moon together. He isn't really the jealous type.
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    Quote Originally Posted by absolutbliss View Post
    When I was dancing the last thing I wanted to do was go to a sc. Actually bars in general lost their appeal because I would think " why am I SPENDING money on drinks when I COULD be getting g paid to sit and drink with my custs? That's just me tho. And I think the bf/so and work should be kept separate...for me combining them is just asking for problems...

    Isn't it more fun to drink with ur bf or friends then some douchey customers though? That's why I don't drink at work, I save it for my fun nights out with fam and friends. Yeah I don't get paid for it but that's why I go to work. To make money to spend on things I enjoy or to save it.

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    I think I just became burnt out on the whole bar scene in general...it just kind of lost its appeal to me. I do enjoy going out now however, just not to loud club-like bars, and not that often. OR it's just me getting older lol!!!
    I'd grab my trumpet and I'd do a stripper sound, like the old Louis Armstrong, real raspy. And the people would go nuts! Then I knew that the sexual, sensual, guttural sound, that throbbing sound, is where it's at.

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    My boyfriend and I have done this a few times. Only once did I ever tell him he wasn't allowed to be near a certain dancer, but I REALLY HATED her. I only let him do it if all our bills are paid first. We have all our accounts separate, so if he wants to spend his extra cash on LDs I don't care.

    Usually I'll be working and he'll come in. So I'll just sit with him as if hes a customer and do dollar dances with him when I feel like taking a break from idiots. He has his favorites, and I don't complain about it. It was kinda rough when he came in for my birthday though. Once midnight hit I stopped working and got completely smashed with him, a few regs, and some girls. I was throwing 20's at ppl and telling them to go get dances lol. And since I've been on maternity leave we'll go out once in a while. The new girls don't come to our table cuz I'm a girl with a guy. So it's pretty much just my buddy dancers that come over. They'll get dances with him like once an hour and I'll tip them for sitting with me (I'd rather give them a full 20 instead of letting the club getting money). And now we go visit one of my friends that moved clubs. I've been using it as recon.

    But he and I are super best friends anyway. It's just another form of foreplay for us. To watch each other get dances and have that smart ass smirk because we know whos fucking who at the end of the night lol

    Then again I have also seen a guy getting a LD. When another dancer walked up and decked him in the face and said "Why are you spending here spending our rent money?!" Don't know if that would just fall into the skeezy boyfriend category though...
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    I can be a mean little bitch though. Sometimes I will get him a LD with dancers that are, er shall we say contrary to his aesthetic preferences.
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    I would never go into my club with my BF. I like to keep work and my personal life separate. Besides that, he's told me he'd hate it. I'd go into another club with him, but it'd just be too weird for all my co-workers to see us together. And it's not allowed.

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    I don't go to my club with my boyfriend because my relationship with him is really rocky.... I work with the same 15 or so girls day in and day out and they all get to hear about it (we're really close). But I would! If I was dating someone else. I LOVE getting lap dances though, so it's just easier to go somewhere where we don't know anyone. Getting lap dances from friends is weird to me. The sexuality just isn't there anymore.
    I'm not the jealous type. The first guy I had sex with cheated on me constantly and it gave me this "you can't control anyone but yourself." approach to dating. I ask them to just let me know so I can move on faster. In some instances I would be ok with my husband (I'm not married, hypothetical husband) sleeping with someone else after 20+ years of marriage. Well... as long as I got to do the same.

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