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    Default Regulars pushing the boundaries. How to handle?

    Guy getting real pushy on AW but gives me a £30 - 50 chat most nights. started off ok ish, but then gets bossy saying do as your told and that im boring if i dont do what he wants. My profile says anything goes shows and i do most stuff but this extreme shit we`re talking. And he keeps trying it in grp rather than pvt, which is what gets on my nerves. I know my profile says willing to do anything if physically possible but how many girls would drink their own piss, like a lump of their own shit or stick massive objects up there ass without a little lube!!!!

    Of which I wont do, thats too extreme and uurghhh even for me and i believe im quite open to the market regarding services.

    Im right to think I should ban him before he gives me bad feedback.
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    Default Re: Regulars pushing the boundaries. How to handle?

    Certainly tell him that he's pushing it too far! You can see how he reacts...or if you'd rather not have him as a customer any more, then ban him. It sounds like he just wants a freak show and has no respect for you.

    I have had said "no" to guys...there was one who liked me to play with candle wax, I refused to drip it on my clit and I also refused to put a chair leg up inside myself, it was big and no way would it have fitted even if I wanted to do it...he wanted to me to try it anyway and I still refused, he was fine about it though.

    I had a guy who was being pushy and demanding in group the other day, not a regular, I said to him "you are aware that this is group, aren't you?" and then continued at my own pace, which isn't slow anyway!
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    Default Re: Regulars pushing the boundaries. How to handle?

    I noticed on his feedback that other girls had gotten annoyed with him due to his dominance and extremities, one stating that "the idiot just dosent get it, im not a fking robot," lol

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    This is why I've become a domme. When I first started camming I proclaimed I was a sub which was a big mistake. If you have the personna of being even the slightest bit dominant, it gives you an excuse to take much much less crap

    ex: "I am a goddess and you will treat me as such"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Classy_Katy View Post
    to put a chair leg up inside myself
    Do they think they're in the circus? Seriously, sometimes I don't know if it turns them on at all or they just wanna see if we will do it for x$/min. Like my "shove up everything, put in anything" guy. Really? I think every boyfriend should read these shits, and they'd understand that we won't run away with our customers, no need to be jealous, if anything we will appreciate that the one at home doesn't want us to shove up multiple soap bottles, fuck and suck frozen chicken...


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    Quote Originally Posted by Glasses View Post
    Do they think they're in the circus? Seriously, sometimes I don't know if it turns them on at all or they just wanna see if we will do it for x$/min. Like my "shove up everything, put in anything" guy. Really? I think every boyfriend should read these shits, and they'd understand that we won't run away with our customers, no need to be jealous, if anything we will appreciate that the one at home doesn't want us to shove up multiple soap bottles, fuck and suck frozen chicken...

    I'm telling you...a lot of these guys seem to think we're supposed to do circus acts for them or something. The other day this guy on MFC was like "What would you do for my 1008 tokens?" Sure that's A LOT of tokens, but I'm not gonna have some idiot dangle his tokens in my face like that, asking me "What would you do for them?" If he had any real intention of tipping them, he would've just tipped them without making a big production out of it. Hell, he could've tipped me a fraction of that amount and asked for a boobs flash or something. That "I got ____ tokens here. What are you willing to do to get them?" crap is insulting.

    I don't care what guys are used to seeing in other, more outrageous rooms. I'm not shoving a bottle of Fanta orange soda up my pussy, or anything crazy like that. If they're bored with "normal" cam girl stuff and want to see a circus, then can hop onto Ticketmaster.com and buy themselves tickets to the Ringling Brothers circus.....
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    He's trying to get you to humiliate yourself for money. I would have fun humiliating him.

    "You want to watch a girl drink her own piss? What the hell is wrong with you? Are you so sexually deranged that you can't get off on watching a girl get off? Are you a sociopath? No wonder you're here every night, you probably can't form real emotional connections to women. Did you have a woman do bad things to you as a kid? Are you trying to punish me for what you dealt with as a child? I feel so sorry for you." Of course only while being paid.

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    Default Re: Regulars pushing the boundaries. How to handle?

    I would definitely talk to him before banning him - while it's most likely that he just wants to humiliate you and push his luck, he may actually back off - I've had a couple guys that have backed off when I told them too. I try not to ban unless I have to - no point losing money!!

    If he asks for things that are against the rules (I don't know what the rules are on AW), you can just say that you would LOVE to, but it's not worth being suspended...sorry!

    I would also change some of your profile info. I don't know the rules on AW, but if they allow stuff that you don't do - DON'T market yourself as "anything goes". While you may consider what you do "extreme" - you KNOW there are guys that will find you really vanilla. There are ways to suggest that you do more than most without using the phrase "anything" - technicalities, but it allows you to turn things down and not have guys complain that you say you will do anything.

    I would also note that you only do certain things in private, not in group. I do this on SM - I do some things in exclusive only.
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    If talking to him doesn't work, ban him. If he's doing this in group, it could bother other customers and that's no good for your wallet. Camming should be something you enjoy doing as WELL as a job. (My opinion.) Any fucker ruining that experience for you should have to go. It's not worth the money, and you're not a circus act.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marsey View Post
    I noticed on his feedback that other girls had gotten annoyed with him due to his dominance and extremities, one stating that "the idiot just dosent get it, im not a fking robot," lol
    Whoa ... What, we can leave feedback on customers? Does this work on Streamate?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Your Evil Twin View Post
    Whoa ... What, we can leave feedback on customers? Does this work on Streamate?
    OMG do I WISH!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Your Evil Twin View Post
    Whoa ... What, we can leave feedback on customers? Does this work on Streamate?
    It's on AW if I'm not mistaken.

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    I block first, unblock them later and if they come back asking about it I explain thats not something I do. Why do I block first? Because I am very clear about what I will not do, and its a short list -.- but apparently some guys will push the issue sometimes I think not because they dont know you dont do it but because they have heard you say you dont do for any reason and think that their money is better than others and you will do it special for them especially if they are a regular, they think they are privalaged sometimes and I dont tolerate assholes. I have been camming for less than a year and have fastly switched from trying to please guys to I dont do that, guy takes me pvt anyway I draw it out as much as possible bc I already said I wouldnt so not for pushing the issue they will pay me to hear it again, right as I hit the block button, or hell pvt for a few and they keep on and Im not doing it but they get rude but dont leave, ok sure I have something I can do for you and block them with a smile. Probably not the best thing to do but guys have made my mind very twisted and hateful lately, hateful in a smiley yes please take me pvt and give me your money after I said no before the pvt and when you push the issue now I have your money and your blocked way. For me blocking first and explaining second equal one of two things, the guy either appologizes and you can move on with him, or two he goes apeshit with name calling and craziness equalling for me yep should have kept him blocked forever

    which is working out lovely as the guys can't stop buying my nice until you make me mad and then Im a bitch clips/videos/and live recordings from clips4sale, and then begging me to have a skype with them and record it for resell as well, and I just sold some smelly shoes for...$100 after posting a video I made on a pair I sold for less than $35 (plus the guy that paid $100 sent me gifts) yay!

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    I would say go fuck yourself and block him asap.
    Personally, I don't give a fuck if someone pays me or is a reg, I expect him to be polite and not bark such demands. I mean seriously?!
    Doesn't matter if you are teasing, softcore type, use toys or not, or whatever, if you don't expect to be treated like you should and set your boundaries only because "eh he is paying me" you will get unhappy and hate camming.

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    Default Re: Regulars pushing the boundaries. How to handle?

    I'd talk to him first. It might be that his 'thing' really is boundary pushing, and then he'll either knock it off or go away quietly.

    I'm not sure if he can still leave feedback for you or not if you've banned him? Unless he's religious about leaving FB, there's probably a few sessions with outstanding FB that he could utilise to trash you. So it's better to get rid amicably IMHO.

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