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    Hi Ive been danceing off and on since i was 18,im 23 now.Ive made mistakes in my stripping experiences that I want to share. Hopefully it will help other not make the mistakes ive made, no one is perfect.I would love to read others mistakes.I grew up with my mom stripping to pay her bills,and baby sat her dancer friends children. My mom is 42 now retired from striping 5 years ago.She has no education shes a bartender and very unhappy.Everything she bought from stripping is gone.shes an alcoholic still to this day as well as her now ex dancer friends,she used alcohol as a way to help her get threw her shifts as a dancer.Its sad to think about I know my mother self confidence is so low. shes kept her self away from my siblings and I.I havent heard from her in over a year.I just want dancers as well as myself to treat stripping as a real job,Work at least 4 days a week if you have no other job.I know with myself I worked enough to pay bills maybe 4-5 days a month.Im now getting an education because I dont want to end up with nothing like my mother,So here are my stripping mistakes,or I guess you can look at mistakes as a learning experience,

    !.Not working enough or treating danceing as a real job
    2.Not going to work because i didnt feel like it,or felt bloated.
    3.getting drunk at work, and missing work the next day because hungover
    4.Not useing all the extra time i have for education and to better myself
    5.takeing customers and other dancers mean behavior personal and letting it effect my confidence
    6.I once let a customer lick my nipples and once went on a date with a regular who i fell for and had sex with.
    7.Not being grateful,I never felt satisfied with averageing 600 to 1000$ Ive always been the top earner but that still didnt seem to be enough
    8.Drinking way to much alcohol has effected my life badly,even went to jail a couple times
    9.stayeing in abusive relationship because low self confidence,thinking no one would love me because im a stripper.
    10.spending to much money on my looks
    11.not saveing money
    12.I felt shame for being a stripper

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    I am guilty of at least 7 "sins" on your list.I dont consider them all to be mistakes though.
    One of the main problems I have at the moment is drinking to much at work and not being able to work the next day.

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    Oh yea I also am guilty of the drinking,not saving and spending too much on looks. Ive gotten so drunk once while working&was on antibiotics I just cried for like an hour in the back.lol. for no reason at all. made a huge fool outta myself but oh well still went to work after that the next shift i worked. Also I almost lost like 600$ when i left my bag in a private room but when i went in to c if it was still there it was nobody stole it to my surprise! still bad of me tho

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    im guilty of giving too much to customers and feeling awful about myself after, i've since promised myself to keep my self respect cuz it aint worth losing it over a few extra bucks that are gone within the week..ive gotten drunk once and never done it again because of all the horrible consequences lol. i spend a lot on my looks but it always pays off , i consider it a business expense.
    my mistakes would be :
    not saving enough money
    giving too much contact for money or because i felt sorry for them
    letting people make me feel like i need to change myself
    spending too much time with guys who don't spend money because i don't want to be rude or hurt their feelings
    separating personal and professional lives.

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    oh trusting other dancers too much was my worst one!

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    Thank you for the replies Please do not feel guilty for your mistakes or your past,mistakes are how we learn and grow,I personally have a hard time with being a perfectionist..I need to work on that too.

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    1.Not working enough or treating dancing as a real job
    Guilty
    2.Not going to work because i didn't feel like it,or felt bloated.
    Guilty
    3.getting drunk at work, and missing work the next day because hungover
    Not a drinker
    4.Not using all the extra time i have for education and to better myself
    Was going to college dropped out. I want to go back next year
    5.Taking customers and other dancers mean behavior personal and letting it effect my confidence
    When I was a baby stripper yes I did. I think we all do at some point whether we are babies or veterans. We're human underneath all the Sally Hansen spray tan and extensions.
    6.I once let a customer lick my nipples and once went on a date with a regular who I fell for and had sex with.
    I'm not gonna lie I let this hot little metalhead number have his way with me. He's now my boyfriend.
    7.Not being grateful,I never felt satisfied with averaging 600 to 1000$ Ive always been the top earner but that still didn't seem to be enough
    Dude, we're never satisfied. We always want more money. That never changes.
    8.Drinking way to much alcohol has effected my life badly,even went to jail a couple times
    Not guilty
    9.Staying in abusive relationship because low self confidence,thinking no one would love me because I'm a stripper.
    Incidentally getting back into stripping helped get me OUT of a bad and abusive situation.
    10.Spending to much money on my looks
    To an extent. I've learned to economize over the years. I always get a wax done without fail but I do my own manis and pedis.
    11.Not saving money
    Guilty as charged except for when I got my tits.
    12.I felt shame for being a stripper
    Hell fucking no! I get paid to lick hot and flaunt my tits. Why should I be ashamed?
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
    Tempest

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    1) Not trying to book myself at the best clubs because I only saw what their current girls looked like, not what I could bring to the place.
    2) Spending my money literally as I make it.
    3) Focusing so much on doing impressive pole tricks and not enough on being sensual on stage.
    4) Leading on customers by taking their phone number and then never calling them, because I'm too shy to hurt someone by saying no.

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