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    I'm a fairly average guy, good-looking, mid 30's who has had luck w/ several hot strippers OTC. I spend money but I'm no whale, I just try to be nice & I have a live-wire personality & twisted sense of humor. Recently I've been OTC with a dancer from the club I frequent outside a large northeastern US city ( upscale topless ). She's a great person & hot dancer & the top earner in her club which is full of hot girls. I'm just worried b/c she makes more $ than me and I'm worried that she'll dump me for one of her high-rolling regulars ( or some other guy who makes more than me ). She has given me no indication overt or covert that this is her intention, but when she' in the VIP room for 2 hrs w/ a guy I start to worry and become paranoid. Maybe it's all in my head. I'm fun to hang with when my confidence is high but when it's not . . .Anyway, I's like to hear from some others in my spot ( dancers also ) as to my next move. I am working on several ways to increase my income A LOT, but she just brought a fairly new luxury car that I couldn't afford. We've been tight for 2 years now & I've never spent A LOT on her & we still hang OTC, so I'm hopeful she can like me for me.

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    Are you dating her or seeing her OTC? There's a difference.

    If you aren't dating her she can't dump you! There's that.
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    Default Re: Can this relationship work?

    Dating, not cash for OTC or shopping sprees or anything like that.

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    Well if she agreed to an exclusive relationship with you, then assume she likes you. Insecurities will ruin most any relationship though.
    "Well then it's a good thing your faith in me has no impact on how much I make." - MissEgo

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    Why do I think there is more to this story? Anyway, assuming this is all the facts, that she's dating you for no money then she likes you. Speaking as a woman, but when I like a man I don't care how much he spends as long as he's nice to me. However if this is a financial transaction in anyway then obviously it is for money and enjoy it while it lasts. Being that it's been going on 2 years according to you that is a long time.

    Without knowing her we have no way of knowing what she is thinking. Could she dump you for another man in the club? yep but none of us know if she will do that. It's also possible she will see these men OTC for money like shopping sprees which can be completely different than what you have with her.

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    Not a financial transaction in any way, i swear to God ( and I'm Catholic & a Notre Dame fan! ).

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    If you've been with several hot strippers in your past, then you should be used to them having cash & going into vip for 2 hrs. I don't know why you are pursuing a relationship when you can't handle it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander5691 View Post
    Not a financial transaction in any way, i swear to God ( and I'm Catholic & a Notre Dame fan! ).
    O-tay!
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    To unbelavable: Because after getting to know her I actually truly like her, not just 'cause she's hot. If it was just a sex thing w/ a hot dancer I wouldn't be worried at all.

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    Dude, after 2 years you shouldn't be worried?

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    If she is dating you, not screwing you OTC, why on earth does it matter how much money you have? She's either into you or she's not and you either trust her or you don't. That's pretty much all there is to it.
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    Default Re: Can this relationship work?

    I am not a stripper but I am a webcam model, which I kind of consider as being an at-home stripper so I will give you my perspective. I met a guy through a cam site a while back and we became the best of friends. Now over a year later we have decided to work towards maybe having a romantic relationship. Money has absolutely nothing to do with it and I much prefer it that way. He does not do shows with me nor tip me and I honestly don't want him to, as 1. I want it to be clear 100% that it is not about the money, and 2. I'd rather he save his money so we can do fun things together. He has a good job although I do make more than him when I put the effort in and honestly, I do not care about what he makes. We have had to alter certain plans we've made because he cannot come up with certain funds in the same amount of time as I do just due to the nature of our different careers and it truly doesn't bother me. I like him for his personality and all the attention, kindness, and support he gives me, not what's in his wallet. He is so generous to me with his time and emotions and all the ways that truly matter. That's how it is when you're in a relationship. If you are not certain that she feels this way about you, whether through her fault or your own, something is wrong with this "relationship."

    Also, I will add that in my previous relationship I was the sole breadwinner and my ex-fiance lived with me for almost a year, during which time he made $0 and paid 0 bills. While it was frustrating that he was unwilling to find employment I stayed by his side for as long as I could and when the relationship did finally end I can assure you, it was not because of his lack of income.

    I think rather than having any one of us give you advice, your best bet is to talk to this girl candidly and see what's going on for yourself. If she wants to be with you no amount of money another guy throws at her is going to change that, and if she doesn't want to be with you, well, no amount of money you are able to give her is going to make her develop feelings for you.

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    Sorry, kind of late reply, but I go to VIP once a week with a reg for 6 hours, and I make more than my bf, yet I am still crazy in love with him (my bf). Business will always be separate from pleasure. We can compartmentalize.

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    Ohhh man, the moment you decide to refer to me as a "hot stripper" and call it "hanging with me OTC" I would kick you in the nutsack so hard you'd have semen coming out your nose.
    You've "had luck" with "several hot strippers OTC"?? Are you kidding me? Immediately upon hearing a guy has "dated a stripper" before I know that he will never, ever have a chance with me.
    Not only that, but why should she have a relationship with someone who FREQUENTS her club? As dancers, we know what the product/service is that we're selling, we know who's buying it, especially when the person is in the club all the time. Generally, if they were a good candidate for a serious relationship they wouldn't be at the titty bar all the time.
    Guys who go to the titty bar regularly are usually missing something that is necessary to maintain a real-life relationship. Not that this is a bad thing, but logically it's true. It could be as simple as lacking the time, like if they travel a lot for work and don't have enough time or the ideal times to see a girl and maintain a relationship.
    Whatever the reason may be, it will probably also come into play when they are trying to date a "hot stripper".
    And of COURSE you like her personality, it's her job to display a likable personality! Do you know how many guys come to this realization about me every night? It's not like the club is full of women with offputting personalities, although they tend to make more money (because guys won't get all emotionally attached, they feel better about spending money on the short-term interaction with them) and are probably decent, likable girls OUTSIDE the club.

    And who cares if she's a "hot dancer" and "top-earner"? If anything, the fact that these attributes factor into your opinion of her should be a huge red flag. What happens when the next hot dancer/top earner comes along and mindfucks you into liking her?

    Actually, after reading your post several times, I'm starting to wonder if you've just seen her OTC once, recently, and you're taking this way too far in your head. My honest opinion is that you've already been friend-zoned long, long ago.

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    To me it sounds like you can't handle her job, this will ruin your relationship. Perhapse y'all should just be friends until she stops dancing.

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    It's all good b/t us. We're dating & having lots of fun together, & I've learned how to deal with her job. It's a little harder when you actualluy LIKE a stripper. but we make it work. So all the haters out there, SUCK IT !

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander5691 View Post
    It's all good b/t us. We're dating & having lots of fun together, & I've learned how to deal with her job. It's a little harder when you actualluy LIKE a stripper. but we make it work. So all the haters out there, SUCK IT !
    Well, thanks for that update, OP...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander5691 View Post
    It's all good b/t us. We're dating & having lots of fun together, & I've learned how to deal with her job. It's a little harder when you actualluy LIKE a stripper. but we make it work. So all the haters out there, SUCK IT !
    yeah, what's w/the hostility? You asked a ?, it got answered honestly & now you're mad. If everything's so hunky-dory, why are you on here asking about it? Oh well


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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander5691 View Post
    I'm a fairly average guy, good-looking, mid 30's who has had luck w/ several hot strippers OTC. I spend money but I'm no whale, I just try to be nice & I have a live-wire personality & twisted sense of humor. Recently I've been OTC with a dancer from the club I frequent outside a large northeastern US city ( upscale topless ). She's a great person & hot dancer & the top earner in her club which is full of hot girls. I'm just worried b/c she makes more $ than me and I'm worried that she'll dump me for one of her high-rolling regulars ( or some other guy who makes more than me ). She has given me no indication overt or covert that this is her intention, but when she' in the VIP room for 2 hrs w/ a guy I start to worry and become paranoid. Maybe it's all in my head. I'm fun to hang with when my confidence is high but when it's not . . .Anyway, I's like to hear from some others in my spot ( dancers also ) as to my next move. I am working on several ways to increase my income A LOT, but she just brought a fairly new luxury car that I couldn't afford. We've been tight for 2 years now & I've never spent A LOT on her & we still hang OTC, so I'm hopeful she can like me for me.
    It's a little unclear, but have you had sex with her yet?

    That would be the best clue if she likes you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander5691 View Post
    It's all good b/t us. We're dating & having lots of fun together, & I've learned how to deal with her job. It's a little harder when you actualluy LIKE a stripper. but we make it work. So all the haters out there, SUCK IT !
    That's great but I son't see people being rude and if so it's because every week there is a "does she like me" thread.

    Incidentally the guy I am into is also named Alex and so is my cat. He's also Catholic too but not sure if he's into Notre Dame (the guy not my cat).

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