Was just cruising a thread here and after thinking it about what I like in a guy, it has me pondering whether many of you ladies place a lot of importance on what goes on in the bedroom when you are in a relationship. Like, how common it is for girls to "settle" with sexual issues if the guy is otherwise great, or be heaps strict on their "performance" in order to be interested in a relationship.
I've always been a sexually driven person. Well, since I was 14 anyway. I am also a "long term" dater however, and I tend to stay in relationships for a while. What I am finding as I get older however is I am less willing to settle when it comes to sexual performance. I was with one of my ex's for 8 years, however towards the end he had put on a lot of weight, and started having huge problems maintaining an erection. Within a few months of this issue arising, and with it getting progressively worse as he then got "performance anxiety" and frustration, I split up with him. I cared about him immensely, but grew distant once that intimacy was gone. He also snored terribly so I ended up living in the spare room just to get some rest. I felt bad, but I really couldn't deal with no sex and no sleep.
My most recent split was due to dancing, but even so, I found after 18 months things had cooled off a lot, and I was finding myself a bit bored and frustrated again. I had tried to spice things up, but he really didn't dig anything I was into much (violence, choking, smacking etc) I think I'm up to par with my side of the sexy times... certainly a couple of the ex's, particularly the recent one have said they haven't found a similar experience with other girls after me, and if I sleep with someone, they always- 100%- try for more, so I guess I go alright.
In between relationships I tend to gauge whether I will see someone again based on their "performance". If it's lacklustre, I just have no desire to go there again. If it's great, and they pursue me, I may end up dating them. (assuming they meet my other standards)
So... Thoughts on the importance of sex in determining and defining your relationship? For me it is key. Critical. Essential in keeping me around.
Would you settle if a guy could not please you sexually if he gave you everything else you wanted?
Do you place much importance on this as a part of a whole relationship?
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